Dispelling the Myth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

I do think this is the general stereotype for females.

For males in your situation, it would be that he is a mama's boy/gay or can't commit sexually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

Those are your words, negative little nelly. I hope that you are able to heal your wounds and re-enter normal society. I wish you peace.

No you don’t. The question was about perceptions, preconceived notions. I answered accordingly.

I agree with this poster. OP, you asked for perceptions. When you get them you lash out. Why?

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You asked for perception, and you got it. You've actually sort of proved the point the person made.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

I do think this is the general stereotype for females.

For males in your situation, it would be that he is a mama's boy/gay or can't commit sexually.

Yes, unfortunately those that judge life through those lens will get the same in return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

I do think this is the general stereotype for females.

For males in your situation, it would be that he is a mama's boy/gay or can't commit sexually.

Yes, unfortunately those that judge life through those lens will get the same in return.

That’s not a law of physics. However, the notion that never-married women have unreasonable expectations is a conclusion based on time spent with never-married women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

I do think this is the general stereotype for females.

For males in your situation, it would be that he is a mama's boy/gay or can't commit sexually.

Maybe out in the Midwest, South, etc where people get married young.

I am from NYC, Manhattan, and there are lots of singles OP age and older. I think the census data puts average household size at 1.2 persons. So most people live by themselves. No one gives it a second thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Single women in her late 40s who started dating again less than a year ago. I took a 7 year hiatus to have my DC (donor conceived). I could never "trick" a guy into having a kid, so with a strong male and female support system, i became a mom.The majority of the men that i come across are divorced, some road weary, and are some not. Yes, I do want to be partnered and I am open to marriage.

I have run across quite a few divorced men that immediately think something is "wrong" with me because i have never been married. I am active, very physically fit, financially independent, and have a very open, healthy attitude toward sex.

What are some of the barriers that you perceive in dating a person that has never been married?

P.S. i am AA, it that gies the dating situation greater context.

None.

[Anonymous]

I was 40 when I got married. I also had a son from a previous long-term relationship. Thankfully, only one man ever asked me to marry him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

I do think this is the general stereotype for females.

For males in your situation, it would be that he is a mama's boy/gay or can't commit sexually.

Yes, unfortunately those that judge life through those lens will get the same in return.

If this is OP, please stop lashing out at those who are sharing perceptions of unmarried older women. We are not saying these perceptions are correct, just that they exist. To be quite frank, you’re coming off as a bit unpleasant and it’s not reflecting well on your demographic.

[Anonymous]

Some assume that something is wrong with you because you could never get someone to "wife" you. I personally think that's silly because it's not hard to find someone to marry- anyone can get married if they want to.
The more open-minded, intelligent, and thoughtful people won't jump straight to that conclusion, they'll ask directly or get to know you, so let those other guys weed themselves out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By never marrying, you suggest that you’re an enormous pain in the ass with unrealistic, never-satisfied expectations. Marriage demonstrates an attempt at coexisting with a partner in life, so you’ve kinda proven that you’re normal.

Those are your words, negative little nelly. I hope that you are able to heal your wounds and re-enter normal society. I wish you peace.

Truth hurts. OP asked for opinions. Yours is no better or worse.

[Anonymous]

I kind of dislike OP. Asks for honest feedback then gets mad when we tell her.

OP, come back and lash out some more! This is fun!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some assume that something is wrong with you because you could never get someone to "wife" you. I personally think that's silly because it's not hard to find someone to marry- anyone can get married if they want to.
The more open-minded, intelligent, and thoughtful people won't jump straight to that conclusion, they'll ask directly or get to know you, so let those other guys weed themselves out.

A lie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kind of dislike OP. Asks for honest feedback then gets mad when we tell her.

OP, come back and lash out some more! This is fun!!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I kind of dislike OP. Asks for honest feedback then gets mad when we tell her.

OP, come back and lash out some more! This is fun!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some assume that something is wrong with you because you could never get someone to "wife" you. I personally think that's silly because it's not hard to find someone to marry- anyone can get married if they want to.
The more open-minded, intelligent, and thoughtful people won't jump straight to that conclusion, they'll ask directly or get to know you, so let those other guys weed themselves out.

A lie

No, getting married is not hard, neither is staying married. Having a successful one is. Personally, i would be gone in a second if my DS denied me sex. How degrading.