My DS accidentally saw a disturbing image online

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Well, she ain't called Long mint for nothing! That's for sure.

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^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

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Anonymous wrote:Damn.

Ask him again in a few days if he wants to talk about it. That's all you can do.

Son, do you want to talk about Thai trannie porn? No? I didn’t think so...

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I never said he NEEDED to see anything. But if he was aware of those two simple facts of life - some men wear dresses and most men have a penis then I think it would be much easier to explain. And far less shocking overall.

Does your son know tran men and women even exist? Or has ever been around a cultural event or city where they may be?

And, yes, I’m absolutely serious.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I am a 49 yo woman and confused by it. Why does a gay man want to have sex with a man that has boobs and dresses like a woman?

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If this is your work laptop you may want to do a little scrubbing.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I never said he NEEDED to see anything. But if he was aware of those two simple facts of life - some men wear dresses and most men have a penis then I think it would be much easier to explain. And far less shocking overall.

Does your son know tran men and women even exist? Or has ever been around a cultural event or city where they may be?

And, yes, I’m absolutely serious.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

DP. He didn’t need to see it, but he has seen it and now you have to deal with it. He’s especially upset because he has zero context to understand what he saw, and it’s uomto you to provide that context. Obviously not the full context, but at least enough to understand that it wasn’t a woman with a penis, it was a man wearing a dress because some men like to dress in women’s clothing (and vice versa).

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I never said he NEEDED to see anything. But if he was aware of those two simple facts of life - some men wear dresses and most men have a penis then I think it would be much easier to explain. And far less shocking overall.

Does your son know tran men and women even exist? Or has ever been around a cultural event or city where they may be?

And, yes, I’m absolutely serious.

This isn't about transexuals. This is about graphic sexualized images that he does not understand and doesn't need to know about right now. He didn't see a man in a dress. He saw a big erect penis on a person with boobs dressed like a woman. If he saw a transexual person on the street, I'd have no problem explaining that to him. This is a whole other level of information he does not need to have right now.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

DP. He didn’t need to see it, but he has seen it and now you have to deal with it. He’s especially upset because he has zero context to understand what he saw, and it’s uomto you to provide that context. Obviously not the full context, but at least enough to understand that it wasn’t a woman with a penis, it was a man wearing a dress because some men like to dress in women’s clothing (and vice versa).

I can agree with this. At least helping him understand what he saw. If I can get him to talk about it. He was so freaked out that he just wants to forget he ever saw it. But I feel like he needs to have some context of what it was that he saw. UGH.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I never said he NEEDED to see anything. But if he was aware of those two simple facts of life - some men wear dresses and most men have a penis then I think it would be much easier to explain. And far less shocking overall.

Does your son know tran men and women even exist? Or has ever been around a cultural event or city where they may be?

And, yes, I’m absolutely serious.

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OP I get you're in full speed mama bear mode, but it's not the end of the world. Just tell him that some people dress up strangely, and do strange things to their bodies. Has he never seen someone with a lip piercing? One of those big ear stretching things? Hell, a nose ring? Sometimes people do strange, different things to their bodies. And they dress different ways. You're making this out to be WAY bigger than it need to be.

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Anonymous wrote:A Thai tranny lounging with her/his dick hanging out.

You can be male by birth and identify as male and like to dress in drag. A man who dresses in women’s clothing is not necessarily transgender. In fact, given that people who are transgender identify as the opposite gender of their birth, a transgender woman with a penis is unlikely to use their penis sexually like that.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I never said he NEEDED to see anything. But if he was aware of those two simple facts of life - some men wear dresses and most men have a penis then I think it would be much easier to explain. And far less shocking overall.

Does your son know tran men and women even exist? Or has ever been around a cultural event or city where they may be?

And, yes, I’m absolutely serious.

This isn't about transexuals. This is about graphic sexualized images that he does not understand and doesn't need to know about right now. He didn't see a man in a dress. He saw a big erect penis on a person with boobs dressed like a woman. If he saw a transexual person on the street, I'd have no problem explaining that to him. This is a whole other level of information he does not need to have right now.

So I’m going to take that as a no, he doesn’t know about trans people or has ever seen one.

Sorry it’s distressing to you both. You are going to have to talk to him if he’s as upset as you think. It’s possible he’s just embarrassed though because you were there. Try to keep it as a matter of fact as possible to dial down his emotions. Kids take the parents lead for emotional reactions sometimes. Just focus on some guys like to wear dresses. Some men feel they want to physically be a woman and use hormones to start the transition. Don’t talk about the erection unless he brings it up.

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Anonymous wrote:^^^^If this is it, op you need to expose your kid to the broader world. He should know that some men dress like women. And most men have a penis. If it wa truly just a guy lounging there, it shouldn’t be all that distressing.

This is OP. You cannot be serious. An 11 y/o kid does not need to see a woman with a huge dick. That's not the same thing as knowing that there are people who are different in the world. He doesn't need to see anyone naked right now. He doesn't need sexual images in his world right now. He certainly does not need that cognitive dissonance of a woman with a penis right now.

I am a 49 yo woman and confused by it. Why does a gay man want to have sex with a man that has boobs and dresses like a woman?

People have alllll kinds of kinks and fetishes and desires. Surely you know this.