FIL saying you're a "bad boy"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Serious question, why? The child was, simply put, destroying the grandfather’s property. Regardless of what the item was, do you think this is OK? Because I do not. Do you feel the child should never be disciplined? (Which it doesn’t even sound like there was much discipline, just telling him to stop and referring to him as a bad boy).

It’s fine for FIL to tell him no or stop, or to take away the plant so the child can’t touch it.

It’s not ok for anyone to tell my child he’s a “bad boy”.

Also, I will discipline my child. I don’t want my FIL to. Also telling a kid they are bad is not proper discipline anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

He's in his 80's, time with FIL is already severely limited.
I don't think anyone would argue that it's a good thing to tell a child that *they* are bad, but I'm sure you could find a more appropriate way to handle the situation than the hard line you are promoting here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Serious question, why? The child was, simply put, destroying the grandfather’s property. Regardless of what the item was, do you think this is OK? Because I do not. Do you feel the child should never be disciplined? (Which it doesn’t even sound like there was much discipline, just telling him to stop and referring to him as a bad boy).

It’s fine for FIL to tell him no or stop, or to take away the plant so the child can’t touch it.

It’s not ok for anyone to tell my child he’s a “bad boy”.

Also, I will discipline my child. I don’t want my FIL to. Also telling a kid they are bad is not proper discipline anyway.

I'm a PP. Then you should make sure he's not bad. I would have told you to put a leash on him if you refuse to watch him properly.

[Anonymous]

My goodness, your child did a bad thing, but he is NOT a bad person. Now you know you need to watch him more closely in Grandpa's house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

The kid shouldn't be pulling leaves off of plants. You're going to limit time with an 80 year old grandfather over this?

You aren't going to retrain an 80 year old. Easier to just keep a closer eye on the kid.

My grandpa used to pull ears. THAT was a problem.

[Anonymous]

I'm a PP. Then you should make sure he's not bad. I would have told you to put a leash on him if you refuse to watch him properly.

The child is 2. Ripping leaves off a couple of plants can happen in 2 seconds. Even with vigilant supervision something like this could easily happen.

THE CHILD IS 2 YEARS OLD!

[Anonymous]

Is he joking? My FIL calls my little boy " you dirty dog" when he does something wrong but he means it jokingly. It's kind of weird but they adore each other, and my son is in on the joke. I actually kind of wish FIL would discipline DS but the boy can do no wrong in his eyes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he joking? My FIL calls my little boy " you dirty dog" when he does something wrong but he means it jokingly. It's kind of weird but they adore each other, and my son is in on the joke. I actually kind of wish FIL would discipline DS but the boy can do no wrong in his eyes

Yea, I was thinking it was a joke.

[Anonymous]

Your two year old is not internalizing or having an identity crisis over being told he is a bad boy when he is a boy behaving badly. Doing good doesn't make you a good person either but people say good girl / good boy all the time. Trust me - neither is going to cause your child to have an existential crisis about the disconnect between behavior and who they are as a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Serious question, why? The child was, simply put, destroying the grandfather’s property. Regardless of what the item was, do you think this is OK? Because I do not. Do you feel the child should never be disciplined? (Which it doesn’t even sound like there was much discipline, just telling him to stop and referring to him as a bad boy).

He’s two, you childless troll.

I agree with the PP that said that both the 2 year old grandchild and the 80 year old grandfather were acting their age.

This PP however is acting like she's six. You are the grownup. OP isn't going to change an 80 year old, so she has to watch the 2 year old better, run interference between them over situations like this and teach her son about his grandfather and sooth him when his grandfather talks to him in a way he isn't used to.

PP is trying to pout and take her ball and go home over an 80 year old acting like a grumpy old man.

[Anonymous]

My dad calls my kids "street urchins". They love it.

[Anonymous]

Grandpa said it and he was a bad boy for doing that. Maybe try to raise a child who is told off for doing something wrong? Grandpa made sure that 2 year old understood that your kid was acting bad and it made an impact. 2 or older, it worked for many years before we had to become politically correct with our own kids! Pu**y parents and then you wonder why you can't manage your own 4 year old. So many threads about kids out of control here, maybe if you told him like grandpa did, kids would behave better? You should be happy grandpa didn't d what he would have done to his own kids for doing the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I'm a PP. Then you should make sure he's not bad. I would have told you to put a leash on him if you refuse to watch him properly.

The child is 2. Ripping leaves off a couple of plants can happen in 2 seconds. Even with vigilant supervision something like this could easily happen.

THE CHILD IS 2 YEARS OLD!

And how old is the mother?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Serious question, why? The child was, simply put, destroying the grandfather’s property. Regardless of what the item was, do you think this is OK? Because I do not. Do you feel the child should never be disciplined? (Which it doesn’t even sound like there was much discipline, just telling him to stop and referring to him as a bad boy).

It’s fine for FIL to tell him no or stop, or to take away the plant so the child can’t touch it.

It’s not ok for anyone to tell my child he’s a “bad boy”.

Also, I will discipline my child. I don’t want my FIL to. Also telling a kid they are bad is not proper discipline anyway.

But you were ok with your precious little destroyed of plants being with grandpa without you being right there?! Your kid was a bad boy for doing this in that minute, you, on the other hand, are a terrible parent non stop. You should have made your DS apologize to grandpa. It seems from your post that it was a proper discipline for that action as your child was "hurt," and didn't want to be bad. That is a lesson learned. Don't pick leaves off the plants unless given permission and in the back yard.

[Anonymous]

Do you young mothers just sit around and wait for things to be enraged about Amor do you g looks no. In any event, it must be an exhausting way to live.