FIL saying you're a "bad boy"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you young mothers just sit around and wait for things to be enraged about Amor do you g looks no. In any event, it must be an exhausting way to live.

It is constant looking for the smallest thing to be offended about. Never letting anything go, holding a grudge for over a decade, mad at girlfriends, mad at husbands, mad at ILS and their own parents. Mad that their super smart kid didn't get into AAP, mad that they earn 500K but didn't qualify for financial aid for their selected private school. Mad that a very tall kid got into Harvard bcs of volleyball, mad that stepdad didn't take them too to a cruise even though they are over 30 years old. Mad that they have kids out of control, after never parenting their kids effectively. Mad about snow day, or no snow day. Mad about the wind storm being a weather event or not. I am openly admitting that I am one of these too, on many occasions, what is that song, young, dumb and broke? Middle aged, bored and not broke. Desperate SAHM or WOHM or WAH parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Pleass don't raise nightmare kids who expect only sunshine and rainbows directed at them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you young mothers just sit around and wait for things to be enraged about Amor do you g looks no. In any event, it must be an exhausting way to live.

Do the math.

If grandpa is in his 80s, most likely OP is a first time middle aged mom of at least late 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you young mothers just sit around and wait for things to be enraged about Amor do you g looks no. In any event, it must be an exhausting way to live.

Do the math.

If grandpa is in his 80s, most likely OP is a first time middle aged mom of at least late 40s.

So true! Can't wait for her never disciplined kid to be a teen and OP approaching 60 and wondering where she went wrong!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Serious question, why? The child was, simply put, destroying the grandfather’s property. Regardless of what the item was, do you think this is OK? Because I do not. Do you feel the child should never be disciplined? (Which it doesn’t even sound like there was much discipline, just telling him to stop and referring to him as a bad boy).

He’s two, you childless troll.

NP. You should watch your kid more closely if you don't want people to comment on his bad behavior.

Another NP, who is a mom of five. OP, you or your husband should have been monitoring your child more closely. First, because he damaged Grandpa's plant. Second, because some plants when ingested are poisonous and it is highly probably that a two-year-old would want to put the leaves in his mouth. Grandpa's remark is the least of your worries, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

Pleass don't raise nightmare kids who expect only sunshine and rainbows directed at them.

Seriously they grow up thinking they are amazing and when they hit the real world they can't handle it and lash out at their selves in horrible ways like drugs or suicide or they kill and hurt others. Being called bad when you are being bad is necessary . A swat on the butt never hurt either.

[Anonymous]

Move on, seriously. This is so not something to get worked up over.

[Anonymous]

I'd be annoyed, but more at myself because I let it happen on my watch. Don't leave the 2 yr old unsupervised. Grandpa's grumpy. I think there is a difference between exploring/being curious and being naughty/bad, but I wouldn't bother getting into it with grandpa.

[Anonymous]

You are overreacting.

[Anonymous]

The person you should be talking to is your kid. Bring it up again, tell him that he's not a bad boy, that grandfather said that because he was unhappy about his plant, tell him not to pick leaves off plants because the plants need the leaves to make their food.
My parents make harsh comments about the kids too, and get upset over small things, but that is how they were taught to parent. My kids see them so rarely that I do not think it will damage my kids in any way, especially because we talk it over later. Mostly it damages my kids' relationship with their grandparents, but there is nothing I can do about that.

[Anonymous]

Agree with most everyone here. Don't raise a spoiled brat who can never hear any criticism.

Get over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the replies on this thread.

Absolutely no way would this be ok with me.

DH would have to tell FIL to never do this again.

If he ever did do it again, we would severely limit our time with FIL.

You should have cut FIL out of your lives for talking to Junior like that. It is basically abuse!

[Anonymous]

OP, you're a bad mom.