DD doesn't want to go on birth conrol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not force her on birth control! I have a genetic clotting condition (factor 5) that’s really common and not routinely tested for. When I was diagnosed as an adult, my doctor said I was lucky to have never been on the pill as it could have killed me. There can be other dangerous or unpleasant side effects as well...crazy and insulting to subject a teen who is not sexually active to that against her will.

Your highly unusual condition is hardly a reason for op's daughter to avoid the pill.

But the MTHFR blood clotting gene is much more common in the general population (as high as 40% have the mutation). Having MTHFR and taking a birth control pill can lead to serious health issues.

But that would an argument against ever using bc, not really the issue presented by op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not force her on birth control! I have a genetic clotting condition (factor 5) that’s really common and not routinely tested for. When I was diagnosed as an adult, my doctor said I was lucky to have never been on the pill as it could have killed me. There can be other dangerous or unpleasant side effects as well...crazy and insulting to subject a teen who is not sexually active to that against her will.

Your highly unusual condition is hardly a reason for op's daughter to avoid the pill.

No, about 5% of Europeans have the mutation. I don’t call that “highly unusual.”

[Anonymous]

It’s not like taking vitamins, it’s a serious medication, so you should not force it on her. FWIW I’ve been using condoms since 16 without any issues. Never been on the pill, just don’t like the idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wtf?
You are bizarre.
There are a lot of health consequences to going on the pill. Bad side effects etc.
She isn't even having sex!
If she decides to have sex, she should explore options with a doctor. The pill may not be the best choice.
And she should use condoms if she has sex.

You sound kind of bizarre. Of course OP's daughter should use condoms, but two forms of birth control prevents those "oops" situations. Encouraging the Pill is not at all bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not like taking vitamins, it’s a serious medication, so you should not force it on her. FWIW I’ve been using condoms since 16 without any issues. Never been on the pill, just don’t like the idea.

Plus one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wtf?
You are bizarre.
There are a lot of health consequences to going on the pill. Bad side effects etc.
She isn't even having sex!
If she decides to have sex, she should explore options with a doctor. The pill may not be the best choice.
And she should use condoms if she has sex.

You sound kind of bizarre. Of course OP's daughter should use condoms, but two forms of birth control prevents those "oops" situations. Encouraging the Pill is not at all bizarre.

It is if the teen is not sexually active and declares she doesn't want to be. From a medical point of view, in such a situation, the risks of the pill outweigh the benefits.

Medicine is always a balance of pros and cons. My advice would be different if the teen was sexually active, or if the teen had certain types of special needs, or was cognitively impaired in some way and not able to follow through on what she declared.

[Anonymous]

You are a mess op..listen to your child!!

[Anonymous]

You sound insane. She is not sexually actice and doesn't plan to be. You have discussed it with her, now trust her enough that she will come to you when she is ready. I didn't have sex until my 20s, I'm sure I was in the minority but not every single kid has sex at 16. If her behavior changes and gives you reason to suspect she is sneaking around to have sex, or she gets a serious boyfriend, you can bring it up again. But do not force your daughter to take daily hormones that she doesn't want or need right now.

[Anonymous]

If she's not going to have sex, she does not need to be on birth control.

[Anonymous]

If you force her she probably won't take the pill. She'll just toss it every day. You asked her. She said no. She decides when it's time for birth control. Not you. Just because her sisters did something at 16 diesn't mean she will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not like taking vitamins, it’s a serious medication, so you should not force it on her. FWIW I’ve been using condoms since 16 without any issues. Never been on the pill, just don’t like the idea.

Plus one

+1

OP is acting like it's a piece of popcorn. JFC it's a pharmaceutical drug. It has serious side effects, some of which may not be immediately obvious. It disturbs the hormonal system in a way that is, by definition, unnatural.

And all because OP is convinced that her daughter will accidentally get pregnant against her own wishes and actions.

What a total nutcase. It sounds like this youngest daughter was the only one to escape unaffected. Good for her!

[Anonymous]

P.S. No sane pediatrician will put a 15 year old girl on birth control for no reason at all except that she has a nutcase mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I'm aware of side effects. Her doctor would be very thorough about those, so that's not a concern. She also knows about condoms, but those aren't 100% especially in the heat of the moment. DD is responsible, but she's a teen.
I don't want to force it on her, but I'd prefer to get ahead of things.

The bolded makes no sense at all. Side effects don't just go away and become "not a concern" because the doctor makes someone aware of the chance of something happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no way of knowing obviously, but I'll tell you this: I had very normal, regular periods from 12-17, when I started taking the pill. I was on it for 8 years, and when I came off of it...I never had a period on my own again. I was eventually diagnosed with pcos, which sure mayybe I always had it...but I did not experience any physical symptoms of it before, and like I said for the first 5 years pre-pill I had completely normal and regular monthly periods. I am not the only person with this experience, and even some doctors think that certain subsets of the pcos population may have it as a result of years on the pill. I was unable to get pregnant without fertility drugs, even though I started TTC at 28.


That aside, look into some of the recent things that have come about tying the pill and depression - I believe one article I saw addressed teenagers in particular. All this to say: yes, millions of women take the pill. Yes, in many cases the benefits outweigh the risks / downsides. But...there ARE potential downsides, and it is literally a daily dose of hormones. It's not something to be taken lightly, or forced upon someone who doesn't want to take it. Instead, educate your daughter about safe sex and responsible decision-making, and tell her if/whenever she feels like she does want to go on it, you will help her get a prescription.


Ps it's kind of funny to think about - when I was in high school, girls who wanted to go on the pill would lie and say they had painful periods / acne issues etc...because their parents did not support them going on it (for obvious reasons)

Do you have any websites or other resources regarding this? What you describing sounds like my daughter - she has not had a period in 5 years since coming off of the pill. And she has polycystic ovaries. Her estrogen levels are at about zero. I am worried about her. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

WTF? You are basically telling your daughter you don't trust her to make good decisions, even though she has assured you she isn't sexually active and doesn't want to be. Way to slowly begin destroying your relationship with her!

[I am imagining you as Regina's try hard mom in Mean Girls.]