DD doesn't want to go on birth conrol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are borderline abusing your child.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP with your thinking you should just have her sterilized. You are insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she doesn’t want to be on birth control? Have you suggested an iud, which is much less cumbersome, generally comes with fewer undesirable side effects, and does not increase the risk of blood clots, which, as a previous poster mentioned, is a legitimate concern.

OMG don't give a 15-year-old an IUD. Jesus. Why would you put her through that?

“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I still want to know whether OP has listened to WHY her daughter doesn’t want BC when OP feels so strongly about it. Maybe she is gay or asexual, in which case OP seriously needs to put on her listening hat. Maybe she’s afraid of side effects and shouldn’t be. Maybe she’s just asserting her autonomy. There may be a lot more going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she doesn’t want to be on birth control? Have you suggested an iud, which is much less cumbersome, generally comes with fewer undesirable side effects, and does not increase the risk of blood clots, which, as a previous poster mentioned, is a legitimate concern.

OMG don't give a 15-year-old an IUD. Jesus. Why would you put her through that?

“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I still want to know whether OP has listened to WHY her daughter doesn’t want BC when OP feels so strongly about it. Maybe she is gay or asexual, in which case OP seriously needs to put on her listening hat. Maybe she’s afraid of side effects and shouldn’t be. Maybe she’s just asserting her autonomy. There may be a lot more going on here.

Maybe she's just not ready for sex. The average American girl has sex for the first time at 17, so there are plenty of girls feeling this way. I wasn't ready for sex at 15, and if my parents had implied that I couldn't possibly know that I wasn't ready, or that I was lying, or that there was something wrong with me because I chose to wait, I would have been really hurt.

An IUD may not be a big deal, but it's still an invasive procedure, and if you aren't having sex, there's no need for it.

OP, ask her to come tell you when she's ready to explore birthy control. Remind her that using condoms and another method in conjunction will be the best choice when she decides to become sexually active, and then back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she doesn’t want to be on birth control? Have you suggested an iud, which is much less cumbersome, generally comes with fewer undesirable side effects, and does not increase the risk of blood clots, which, as a previous poster mentioned, is a legitimate concern.

OMG don't give a 15-year-old an IUD. Jesus. Why would you put her through that?

“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I still want to know whether OP has listened to WHY her daughter doesn’t want BC when OP feels so strongly about it. Maybe she is gay or asexual, in which case OP seriously needs to put on her listening hat. Maybe she’s afraid of side effects and shouldn’t be. Maybe she’s just asserting her autonomy. There may be a lot more going on here.

Wrong. It's invasive, and it can be traumatic. There are side-effects. It's not a bog deal for you, because presumably you didn't have it inserted as a teen who had never had sexual relations! You are CRAZY.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she doesn’t want to be on birth control? Have you suggested an iud, which is much less cumbersome, generally comes with fewer undesirable side effects, and does not increase the risk of blood clots, which, as a previous poster mentioned, is a legitimate concern.

OMG don't give a 15-year-old an IUD. Jesus. Why would you put her through that?

NP. It’s not a traumatic event ffs. Quit being such a drama queen. Would you rather she be unreliable with the pill or condoms and get pregnant? Why would you put her through that?

I would definitely not force her onto birth control. That’s insane. It’s her body. But a good compromise would be waiting until she’s ready then choosing a method more foolproof than the pill, which would include IUDs. It sounds like OP is concerned about the habits and consistency needed for the pill, and the IUD would eliminate the oops factor.

Er, no. Where did you get that? It sounds to me like OP is concerned with her daughter has a brain and is saying that she doesn't want to put some unnecessary drug into her body for no reason, also probably doesn't enjoy discussing her sex life with her mother, and probably also doesn't enjoy trying to convince her mother that she isn't a skank like her older sisters and that her mother should leave her alone to be a 15 year old girl.

The second sentence of the OP.

So young women who use birth control are skanks? Way to judge, misogynist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Taking a different angle here. Your DD may feel like I did as a teen. I didn't have sex until college. I remember being completely confused by the idea that people could get "caught up in the moment" and have unprotected sex. Seemed totally bizzare to me because I knew the risk of getting pregnant and how it would impact my life. I knew that no amount of making out and foreplay was going to have me take that risk. I really just didn't understand how that could happen. Tell her to be prepared to use condoms and make sure she knows about the morning after pill (God forbid she ever find herself in a situation she can't control).

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are borderline abusing your child.

+1

When you claim everyone who has an opinion you don't like is abusing their child you lessen the seriousness of abuse.

OP is not forcing her daughter to get on the pill. You and others made that storyline up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know why she doesn’t want to be on birth control? Have you suggested an iud, which is much less cumbersome, generally comes with fewer undesirable side effects, and does not increase the risk of blood clots, which, as a previous poster mentioned, is a legitimate concern.

OMG don't give a 15-year-old an IUD. Jesus. Why would you put her through that?

“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I still want to know whether OP has listened to WHY her daughter doesn’t want BC when OP feels so strongly about it. Maybe she is gay or asexual, in which case OP seriously needs to put on her listening hat. Maybe she’s afraid of side effects and shouldn’t be. Maybe she’s just asserting her autonomy. There may be a lot more going on here.

Wrong. It's invasive, and it can be traumatic. There are side-effects. It's not a bog deal for you, because presumably you didn't have it inserted as a teen who had never had sexual relations! You are CRAZY.

+1 very invasive to a 15 year old virgin.

[Anonymous]

And yet long acting reversible contraceptives are the recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatrics. This includes IUDs.

https://www.aap.org/en-us/about-the-aap/aap-press-room/pages/AAP-Updates-Recommendations-on-Teen-Pregnancy-Prevention.aspx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I had one inserted when I was 33, before ever having been pregnant. It hurt quite badly and was not what I would call "NBD" (and a 10 for me was pancreatitis from a blocked common bile duct). I was glad to be getting it and it was great birth control--I got another one after giving birth and it barely registered from a sensory standpoint--but if you have only had one inserted after having a child, you have no idea what you're talking about. This is not something you have done to a teenager who is not willing to make the tradeoff herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
“Put her through that”? It’s a safe, effective, no-maintenance form of BC. None of the IUDs co rain estrogen, so they’re much safer. They now have IUDs that are physically smaller and have smaller doses of hormones (or you can go with the copper form). They last for years and should be the go to method of BC like they are in many other countries. There’s mild discomfort during insertion, but it’s really NBD.

I had one inserted when I was 33, before ever having been pregnant. It hurt quite badly and was not what I would call "NBD" (and a 10 for me was pancreatitis from a blocked common bile duct). I was glad to be getting it and it was great birth control--I got another one after giving birth and it barely registered from a sensory standpoint--but if you have only had one inserted after having a child, you have no idea what you're talking about. This is not something you have done to a teenager who is not willing to make the tradeoff herself.

The only people who are talking about forcing her to have an iud or other birth control are the ones saying the mom is abusive or that girls using birth control are skanks. The mom isn’t forcing her to do it.

[Anonymous]

We knew an older teen who died from a pulmonary embolism because of birth control pills. Here one day, gone the next.

Why push it on her?

[Anonymous]

Sorry for being off topic, but I am surprised no-one has mentioned how helpful BCPs can be for painful periods.

Hormones, pain, ability to reproduce when desired, are all connected.

[Anonymous]

For the person who mentioned the problem with blood clots, I have that problem, so before my daughter went on BC because she was having problems with cramping and cysts, she was tested to see if she was at risk. She wasn't. There is testing available now that wasn't available when I was younger. As for the birth control in general, if she's not sexually active, why worry about it right now? My daughter may be on it, but she isn't sexually active, and as of right now, her boyfriend has to ask permission to even hold her hand. She has a personal space that no one is allowed to violate, and he respects that. Not every teen is interested in sex. My daughter has plans for her future, and kids are not in those plans. She isn't sure if she even wants kids, since she can't stand small children.