Just found out I landed a new job while my boss was screaming at me
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Anonymous
What’s your point? There are jackass female bosses and jackass male bosses. Why do you hope OP’s new boss is male? |
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Probably because there is a stereotype of women bosses that they overcompensate for a self-perceived view of inadequacy in the eyes of others (both women and men) that they're not up to the task. No, this isn't ALWAYS true, but it does have a grain of truth to it. I'm sure there are plenty of anecdotal examples - in my case I've had 3 women bosses, all of whom felt that they needed to act like a$$holes to get anything done. Common courtesy was foreign to them, as one of them admitted to me (when she was tired and slightly inebriated - closest thing to an apology I ever received from her). Currently, I work in an environment where my current female boss has promoted 2 people because they kiss her a$$ and agree with everything she's doing and planning to do. I'm all for "disagree but commit," but she seems to have a problem with people expressing contrary opinions to hers. I'm looking for a new job where I'll be appreciated, and I'm beyond caring that much about going above and beyond for a couple of thousand dollars more in a raise a year. Not worth the sacrifice of my personal time to try and impress someone who is always right. |
Anonymous
| Way to go, OP! Congrats! |
Anonymous
| 8 weeks vacation, wow, what's your job? |
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Boo, of course we have to have a gender issue drag this thread down. Go home trolls! You're drunk!
OP - reading your post, I had visions of something out of the Office with Michael on a desk dancing and celebrating and cursing out the person on the conference call before realizing he had forgotten to push mute. |
Anonymous
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OP, please tell me you just got up at that point and walked out. Please?
I know you couldn't really do that, but, man, wouldn't that have been nice! |
Anonymous
OP here. It was sort of like that! I was sitting on the call and we were being berated when I got the e-mail and then laughed. My boss was like who's laughing and there was an awkward silence and she kept on going. What's crazy is that she's on vacation and called us during HER time off because she was convinced we weren't going to meet the end of the year deadline (spoiler: we are set to finish all the work today). I wish, as a manager, she had more faith that we're not complete incompetents, but that's the narrative she's built (and is selling here at work. Friends in other departments have said she's complained about us and called us incompetent). The funny thing is that I'm the fifth person who's left since I joined the company less than a year ago. And we're a small-ish group of 13. Now, I am trying to think of ways to resign. E-mail? Text? Just disappear and wait until they stop paying me, lol. Anyone with a good I quit story? |
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It's best not to burn bridges so I think an email is the best way to do it, following all the procedures laid out like appropriate notice time. Be the better person.
I wonder if her manages notice nearly half the team has left within the last year. That's bound to raise eyebrows. |
Anonymous
| Good for you, OP, congrats--how poetic! I also left a situation with a terrible, yelling boss a couple of years ago. It's such a relief! Hope 2018 is better for you. |
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OP,
Congratulations. You must’ve felt great. I can’t think of a better time to find out that you’ve been hired. I’m one of those temporary contractors who’s employed on a project-by-project basis. Sometimes for several months at a time, other times for as little as a few days. Employment agencies often lie about the length of projects when they feel that they don’t have enough contractors. Because we’re just temps, and not real employees, we’re also treated like crap. No sick leave, no annual leave, no paid holidays. Reminders that we’re not invited to their social events, including their Christmas parties, etc. For these reasons (among a million other reasons), I’ve been desperately seeking permanent employment. I remember, during one particularly pointless project meeting when all the temps were being belittled, I kept checking my email for news about a federal job for which I had interviewed several months before, thinking how great it would be if I found out there and then that I had been hired. Unfortunately, no email ever came thru regarding that job, and I found out later that I had not been hired. So my search for employment continues. Anyway, I’m always happy to hear when the job dreams of a mistreated employee come true. |
Anonymous
Leave on a good note- not for your boss' sake, but for yours. Leave with a clean record. You always want your references to check out. Well done getting out of a toxic situation and going into a better job with better everything. |
Anonymous
| You should have emailed her your notice during the call when she was screaming. That would have been amazing. |
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Mine's not a fabulous quit story but I still LOL about it.
It was a crappy service job in high school and the boss accused me of doing something I didn't do, and that coworkers had proved to her that I didn't do. She wanted me to write an apology letter and told me that I could return to work when it was complete, but that I would be taken off the schedule until then. I asked if I should leave my shift right then. She said no, that I needed to stay. I smiled, thanked her and stayed to complete my shift. I never wrote that letter and never went back. The added bonus was that I'd asked for that weekend off- wanted to go camping with friends and was refused. So now I was off and able to enjoy myself. In addition I had orientations of new staff members lined up for that next week and was their go-to mentor for orientations. They were screwed without me. Later I ran into one of the employees who had been orienting with me. She asked when I was coming back- said the place was falling apart and that the boss had said I had some things I was finishing up and would be back... I smiled and said "do me a favour... keep asking her when I'm coming back..." you have to love a boss who helps you ghost. |
Anonymous
| Congrats, OP! It's a great feeling, isn't it? |
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Great news! Congrats!!
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