I'm worried my daughter will become an *sshole if she gets into her reach next week

[Anonymous]

"You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

You may not place out and get credit, but many top schools have more advanced tracks, that you need to study hard all senior year to place into.

Our neighbor studied not only all senior year but most of the summer and took placement exams in Aug to qualify for that super STEM track.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The rescinding doesn't happen unless the kid bombs. Elite kids don't really bomb anything, so it's not a real threat. But they can stop caring, stop listening, act entitled, be an arrogant brat...

Not necessarily true at all. I have a friend whose DD received a letter from her (top 25) school after her English Lit grade wasn't great during 2nd semester of senior year - they were reviewing her placement. It was a long 2 weeks before they kept the acceptance in place. And she was a good student with good grades and great college acceptances. Even top students can falter with the belief that nothing will come from it, but the truth is that is can happen! Better to tell kids to stay on the ball to avoid these situations!

[Anonymous]

If she gets in, emphasize to her the danger of getting rescinded. She deserves to let her hair down a little (after all it is no easy feat making it to a top 10). However she needs to keep up her performance at a decent level. As for the part about becoming a brat, you just have to deal with it for a bit, it goes away rather quickly in my experience.

[Anonymous]

One of the most important things I have emphasized ad nauseam to my kids is to be competitive, ambitious and high-achieving without being conceited brats. It is a very important lesson to be learned and few kids (and adults) are able to strike this balance.

[Anonymous]

I almost hope my DD is rejected because I fear this.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure she was likely an asshole before this.

[Anonymous]

My sister in law, who has been through this four times now, calls the behavior of seniors "destroying the nest." It makes it easier for some kids to leave home after they make home a disaster area.

[Anonymous]

Not to worry - she’s already an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law, who has been through this four times now, calls the behavior of seniors "destroying the nest." It makes it easier for some kids to leave home after they make home a disaster area.

Yeah, but it takes 6 years to destroy the nest - humans are so slow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law, who has been through this four times now, calls the behavior of seniors "destroying the nest." It makes it easier for some kids to leave home after they make home a disaster area.

Lol. Lots of older teens do this. They are busy growing up and they push you away while they become more independent. By the time they are ready to go to college, you are ready for them to leave!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister in law, who has been through this four times now, calls the behavior of seniors "destroying the nest." It makes it easier for some kids to leave home after they make home a disaster area.

Sounds like Today Show bs parents of asshole kids use to rationalize the little jerks they created. I was not an asshole to my parents, especially not right before asking them to pay for my college!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

This is incorrect. Both my children received quite a few credits from their APs. One is in engineering at Purdue and one is at RPI.

Those aren’t top 10 schools which was OPs area of concern. My kids aren’t going to top 10 schools and will be getting credit also.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

It is amazing to me the "problems" some people post on here. If you daughter becomes an asshole, cut off the money. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

My kid did (Calc BC, Physics C, Chem, and French). Sometimes it’s via an internal placement test, but it’s knowledge gained through taking AP classes. Credit isn't the issue — placement is.

[Anonymous]

22:22 DC is at a T10 school.