I'm worried my daughter will become an *sshole if she gets into her reach next week

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

My kid did (Calc BC, Physics C, Chem, and French). Sometimes it’s via an internal placement test, but it’s knowledge gained through taking AP classes. Credit isn't the issue — placement is.

My kid got a 5 on the AP Biology exam and she didn't get credit OR advanced placement BUT she breezed through bio 1 her freshman year of college because of her great preparation in AP bio. Most of what was taught she'd already learned, and she had lots of experience doing labs/writing reports and so as a result she was able to get a great grade and not be weeded out like many kids were. So even though she didn't get credit or placement she is still very glad she actually paid attention and worked hard during that class because it did have a benefit.

[Anonymous]

Our school requires all seniors to produce a senior thesis so they have to stay focused to the bitter end.

[Anonymous]

Same troll as last year, she claimed that getting into an elite made DS into an asshole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

This is incorrect. Both my children received quite a few credits from their APs. One is in engineering at Purdue and one is at RPI.

Those aren’t top 10 schools which was OPs area of concern. My kids aren’t going to top 10 schools and will be getting credit also.

Purdue is a top ten for engineering.

[Anonymous]

You raised an entitled brat and now just as she’s about to be unleashed into the world, you want advice on how to change her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is amazing to me the "problems" some people post on here. If you daughter becomes an asshole, cut off the money. Problem solved.

Yup, this. But you know it will never happen. The parents enable the entitlement and shitty behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same troll as last year, she claimed that getting into an elite made DS into an asshole.

Agree! can't imagine someone calling their own minor child that name.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Same troll as last year, she claimed that getting into an elite made DS into an asshole.

Agree! can't imagine someone calling their own minor child that name.

+2

[Anonymous]

Better that than the alternative, right, OP?

You just have to keep it real at home. Require respect on essential things, ignore the rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You raised an entitled brat and now just as she’s about to be unleashed into the world, you want advice on how to change her?

To be fair, at least OP has some self-awareness. Most parents of jerks are in complete denial about what arrogant mean assholes their kids are!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

My kid did (Calc BC, Physics C, Chem, and French). Sometimes it’s via an internal placement test, but it’s knowledge gained through taking AP classes. Credit isn't the issue — placement is.

My kid got a 5 on the AP Biology exam and she didn't get credit OR advanced placement BUT she breezed through bio 1 her freshman year of college because of her great preparation in AP bio. Most of what was taught she'd already learned, and she had lots of experience doing labs/writing reports and so as a result she was able to get a great grade and not be weeded out like many kids were. So even though she didn't get credit or placement she is still very glad she actually paid attention and worked hard during that class because it did have a benefit.

Don't most college bound high school students have experience doing labs & wrong lab reports? My classmates & I started doing labs & writing lab reports every week when we were in 9th grade.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

This is incorrect. Both my children received quite a few credits from their APs. One is in engineering at Purdue and one is at RPI.

Those aren’t top 10 schools which was OPs area of concern. My kids aren’t going to top 10 schools and will be getting credit also.

Purdue is a top ten for engineering.

No one cares about that for undergrad. When people say top 10 schools they mean the usual suspects that are always ranked as the top 10 colleges. Purdue is not a top 10 school.

[Anonymous]

Colleges don't create a-hole kids. A-hole parents create a-hole kids.

[Anonymous]

My DC got in EA to a top 10 school and did very little homework second semester senior year, ending up with 2 C's on his report card. He got a nasty letter from the admissions dean over the summer asking for clarification as to his academic plan for the fall. My son's response was respectful but not exactly penitent. The admissions offer was not rescinded and he has done just fine once he got to school.

The point is that senioritis is a rampant disease that takes over once the pressure of being admitted is off. I don't recommend living on the edge as what happened in my household, but it is a short term problem. Given how much ridiculous pressure our students are under during high school, it's not surprising that they let go once the game is up. I don't think that "asshole" is the correct word to describe this attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Colleges don't create a-hole kids. A-hole parents create a-hole kids.

+100. If OP’s kid can’t handle success or luck without becoming an a**hole, that’s on OP.