I'm worried my daughter will become an *sshole if she gets into her reach next week

[Anonymous]

Is this a normal feeling? Senior-itis has already turned her into a brat, so I can't imagine how entitled she'll be if she gets into her top 10 dream college. Just being honest.

How do you keep kids on the ball when everything is squared away so early? When decisions are in Mar you get 3-4 months of extra top-end effort. What keeps an early admit motivated to grind through to even the first semester exams in Jan?

[Anonymous]

Knowing that her school will send her mid-term and end of school year grades to her dream college -- and that the admissions offer can be rescinded.

[Anonymous]

Fear of rescinding, even if it's not likely. Re: your attitude, that's on her. Her friends will drop her of she's too obnoxious and that's a lesson learned. Learning it now, early, may have some merit. Re: family/home life, ignore if you need to (that means HER and her behavior)

[Anonymous]

The rescinding doesn't happen unless the kid bombs. Elite kids don't really bomb anything, so it's not a real threat. But they can stop caring, stop listening, act entitled, be an arrogant brat...

[Anonymous]

If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

[Anonymous]

My kid has been delightful after getting into one of his top choices.

Since the beginning of the application process, we've always said that what we choose to pay for is a function of his effort level, since it isn't that easy to pay for this -- since that's been our line for a few years, the threat seems credible. He's gotta keep on the ball for a while because at least some of his schools use Jan grades as part of the merit aid process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a normal feeling? Senior-itis has already turned her into a brat, so I can't imagine how entitled she'll be if she gets into her top 10 dream college. Just being honest.

How do you keep kids on the ball when everything is squared away so early? When decisions are in Mar you get 3-4 months of extra top-end effort. What keeps an early admit motivated to grind through to even the first semester exams in Jan?

APs kept my two grounded until they were done. At that point, even the teachers had given up.

[Anonymous]

If she becomes full of herself, I'd ramp up the volunteer activities we're doing together. The more kids think about others, the less they think about themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

This is incorrect. Both my children received quite a few credits from their APs. One is in engineering at Purdue and one is at RPI.

[Anonymous]

Not performing academically does not make one an a**hole. The Ivies are full of a**holes, but it jus because they’re jerks lacking EQ anfpd have a spoon fed sense of entitlement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

This is incorrect. Both my children received quite a few credits from their APs. One is in engineering at Purdue and one is at RPI.

Those aren’t top 10 schools which was OPs area of concern. My kids aren’t going to top 10 schools and will be getting credit also.

[Anonymous]

Do kids really care about APs exams their senior year? I brought in some AP credits to college and don’t think it made a diff in my workload. I thought smart kids are more-so using AP exams in 10th and 11th for college apps?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it’s a STEM kid, one motivation for working hard Senior year may be to place out of various intro classes (or into honors versions).

You rarely place out of classes at top schools. APs not accepted for credit at many/most.

eh, you'll whether you place out of the courses or not, you will want a solid foundation going in to college. Having an acceptance in hand is nice but you still have to study hard and take your coursework seriously.

[Anonymous]

There will be plenty of kids around her getting bad news that should help keep her feeling grateful and humble. Have her help around the house more with her newfound extra time. That will keep her grounded and the focus off of her.