Is 40 too old for a baby?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's a very personal choice. But I'd ask myself what kind of grandmother I want to be. If you have a baby at 40, you could very likely be in your 70s when that child has a child. My mothers help and support when I had my children was invaluable to me and I want to be that kind of grandmother.

Um, there’s a absolutely no assurance that your child will have children, or that you’ll be alive to see them anyway. Don’t base this on what-ifs.

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No

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Anonymous wrote:You want to be done by 37 or else the baby may be deformed or mental problem due to ama

Hate to break it to you, but younger moms have babies with problems as well. And many over 40 have perfectly healthy children.

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Plenty of grandparents raise and/or nanny small children, much older than that. You will be fine.

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It’s fine OP. 40 is still young enough where you don’t have to worry about energy levels and such. It’s also not uncommon to hear of women your age with babies.

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I had my second DC at 40. I was going to give up TTC at 39, thinking ugh, having a baby at 40?! I'm out of my mind. DH talked me into trying one more time and voila. I now have a delightful 10 yo DD.

My sister had her first at 42. Luckily we both had healthy babies after easy pregnancies.

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I am personally so against it. A friend of mine died suddenly and left behind their 12 year old kid. Higher possibility the older you are.

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Anonymous wrote:I am personally so against it. A friend of mine died suddenly and left behind their 12 year old kid. Higher possibility the older you are.

I’m sorry about your friend. Couldn’t this happen to anyone at any age though?

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Not at all! I had my first at 42 and second at 46! Might have had another if I wasn’t so damn old already!

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I'm 41 with a 4 year old and 1 year old and don't feel too old. Most of the other parents in our daycare and preschool are similarly aged, so we also don't feel out of place.

We live inside the beltway, which makes a difference in regards to our peer group. My BFF lives in Prince William County and she feels very out of place being 40 with two young children and a full time job -- most of her neighbors are in their early 30s and SAHMs.

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Anonymous wrote:You want to be done by 37 or else the baby may be deformed or mental problem due to ama

This is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Go back to Kentucky.

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Several of my college friends are having their first at 40. It’s really not unusual.

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Anonymous wrote:For me it is. 38 with a newborn. I don't think I could do this at 40

+1 but 37. No thank you

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Anonymous wrote:DH is 47 and we just had our 2nd three months ago. He has more energy than I do and I'm 32. So I say it's fine depending on the person.

Are you wife #2?

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I would be worried about birth defects and SNs with 47 yo sperm. Risk goes way up.