Men, do you hold the door for women?

[Anonymous]

I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

[Anonymous]

51. Hold it open with a smile. Also hold my wife's coat for her to slide her arm in. Simple things, kind gestures....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many seconds will you stand and wait for an able-bodied, unencumbered person to walk through the door?
I say 3-5 seconds.

I'm a woman who holds the door a lot. I'm sometimes surprised at the number of women who don't say thanks.

Most white women do not say thanks, minorities women usually do. Also white women will not hold a door for anyone let alone someone encumbered. It must be the way they were raised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

So do you sit in the front seat after he's parked while he runs around to get your door? Awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

So do you sit in the front seat after he's parked while he runs around to get your door? Awkward.

Seriously! I'm older than the PP and this is something I feel like someone's grandmother would do. Or a spoiled brat with a princess complex. Egalitarian...don't make me laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many seconds will you stand and wait for an able-bodied, unencumbered person to walk through the door?
I say 3-5 seconds.

I'm a woman who holds the door a lot. I'm sometimes surprised at the number of women who don't say thanks.

Most white women do not say thanks, minorities women usually do. Also white women will not hold a door for anyone let alone someone encumbered. It must be the way they were raised.

I'm PP, a woman who holds the door for other women and expressed surprise at the number of women who don't say thanks. I'm white, and I do thank anyone who holds the door for me.

To the parent who is being scolded for telling her boy to prompt a thank you, I understand the reasoning of the pps, but I totally hear you. It gets old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many seconds will you stand and wait for an able-bodied, unencumbered person to walk through the door?
I say 3-5 seconds.

I'm a woman who holds the door a lot. I'm sometimes surprised at the number of women who don't say thanks.

Most white women do not say thanks, minorities women usually do. Also white women will not hold a door for anyone let alone someone encumbered. It must be the way they were raised.

I'm PP, a woman who holds the door for other women and expressed surprise at the number of women who don't say thanks. I'm white, and I do thank anyone who holds the door for me.

To the parent who is being scolded for telling her boy to prompt a thank you, I understand the reasoning of the pps, but I totally hear you. It gets old.

I think most women feel they do not have to thank a man. Does a princess thank the doorman...no! Most do not even notice who is holding the door for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

So do you sit in the front seat after he's parked while he runs around to get your door? Awkward.

Seriously! I'm older than the PP and this is something I feel like someone's grandmother would do. Or a spoiled brat with a princess complex. Egalitarian...don't make me laugh.

I'm the PP who is the woman who is surprised at the lack of thank yous. I live in Dallas and the type of car door type behavior etc. is the default down here. If I get to the door of a restautant first because my husband is tagging behind with our child, I hold open the door, and some people will gawk! I think it's utterly ridiculous and kind of paternalistic to stand there and wait for my husband to open the door.. And again, so many women down here expect this kind of treatment, yet I'll bet you most of these are the same ones who can't bother to look up from their phones and say thank you when I hold the door, like it's a damn honor to hold the door for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

But feminism Baw!

[Anonymous]

Woman here and I really appreciate when people hold the door for me while I'm pushing my stroller. I've had so many people let the door slam shut when I'm right behind them (and I know they saw me), and I've had people push their way by me while I'm struggling to open the door on my own and get the stroller through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many seconds will you stand and wait for an able-bodied, unencumbered person to walk through the door?
I say 3-5 seconds.

I'm a woman who holds the door a lot. I'm sometimes surprised at the number of women who don't say thanks.

Most white women do not say thanks, minorities women usually do. Also white women will not hold a door for anyone let alone someone encumbered. It must be the way they were raised.

I'm PP, a woman who holds the door for other women and expressed surprise at the number of women who don't say thanks. I'm white, and I do thank anyone who holds the door for me.

To the parent who is being scolded for telling her boy to prompt a thank you, I understand the reasoning of the pps, but I totally hear you. It gets old.

I think most women feel they do not have to thank a man. Does a princess thank the doorman...no! Most do not even notice who is holding the door for them.

I don't think it's only women who don't notice who's opening the door for them. I've had at least three people (male and female) in that last week who didn't even look up from their phones when the walked into the store while I was holding the door. I've even seem people walk right into an automatic door because they were not paying any attention to their surroundings and the door didn't open fast enough. I'm amazed that these people can ever get through the parking lot without getting ran over.

[Anonymous]

My 4 year old son holds the door open for everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

So do you sit in the front seat after he's parked while he runs around to get your door? Awkward.

I mean getting into the car.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else kind of hate it when people more than a foot or two ahead hold the door for them? I always feel like now I have to rush to the door so you don't just stand there holding it for me, but I don't necessarily want to jump for the door. If I'm right behind you, then great, but sometimes it seems like people 20 feet away will hold the door and then look back at me. I know they are being nice (and I do say thank you), but I kind of hate it, especially since I know I could have opened it perfectly easily myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm OP and am egalitarian when it comes to opening doors *in general.* However, when I'm out with a man I expect him to open my car door and open all doors of wherever we go (within reason). I'm 31.

So do you sit in the front seat after he's parked while he runs around to get your door? Awkward.

I mean getting into the car.

The first way you wrote it work too because she can't get out of the car after he parks it since he has to come open her door first. I think that's silly, but if her dates are cool with it, then it's good with me.