Women are "Damaged Goods" after 30..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 29 year old single woman that is living in the moment. I am advancing my career by going back to school. I've never been one to focus on getting married or having kids by a certain age. Last night I was having a conversation with a couple male friends. One ( engaged guy) told me I should put more focus into finding a husband because most men women single and over 30 as " damaged goods". If they were a catch, they would have already been taken. The other guys agreed, and then said while I am a good catch, men might immediately dismiss me because of my age. I believe it's bs buy curious what other, specifically males, think about their views?

Male here.

I think it depends on where you live. Here in D.C., that's horseshit. But, it's also true that your pool of available men who aren't also "damaged goods" is also going to shrink. At 35 you are going to be most attractive to men in their 40s, who will either be divorced or have ... damaged reasons for being available. Because most marriage-minded men are partnered up well before 40.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I'm an aberration, but I dated my now DH at 30, married at 32. But then, he is six years older than me, so he was more mature than 20 something year old men.

[Anonymous]

Op, why are you posting here? This is a forum for moms and dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, why are you posting here? This is a forum for moms and dads.

Not OP but this is the relationship forum!! And there are many forums on DCUM that are unrelated to parenting. How many times does Jeff need to say that non-parents are welcome? I'm a mom, FWIW, but I appreciate that there are many different perspectives on this site.

[Anonymous]

Stop hanging out with "damaged goods"! They are the one with the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They sound like "small town" guys.

I’m from a small Rust Belt town and our guys are not nearly as douchey as the DC area jerkwads on this board. Most of the guys around me are honest and hardworking and appreciate the little things in life, and a good woman, no matter what her age. They are way less concerned with having a McMansion, or a BMW, or someone with a face Botoxed into oblivion.

I’m 37 and met my fiancé at 34. He’s younger than me, very sexy, not to mention generous, smart, and a hard worker. But I never saw myself as “damaged goods” and he (and other guys I dated before hi ) never did either. I know I’m smart, successful in my career, good at sports, and pretty. Supermodel? No. But confidence and being well-rounded are attractive no matter what your age. You sound insecure about your age and that’s not going to do you any favors.

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP, dump your friends. Imaginary dream scenarios are supposed to be way more fun than this. I'm sure the posters from your MRA forum would agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a 29 year old single woman that is living in the moment. I am advancing my career by going back to school. I've never been one to focus on getting married or having kids by a certain age. Last night I was having a conversation with a couple male friends. One ( engaged guy) told me I should put more focus into finding a husband because most men women single and over 30 as " damaged goods". If they were a catch, they would have already been taken. The other guys agreed, and then said while I am a good catch, men might immediately dismiss me because of my age. I believe it's bs buy curious what other, specifically males, think about their views?

Quit trolling.

[Anonymous]

This exact same thread happened a year ago.

[Anonymous]

If you want to marry guys like your friends, you should listen to them. But I don't have douche-y or provincial friends.

[Anonymous]

More and more men are Red Pill. It's just a reality.

[Anonymous]

I had to look up what Red Pill was. What a bunch of pompous losers! Seriously, what a joke!

[Anonymous]

Happily married here to a handsome, kind, PhD holding, well employed, funny, and family oriented man I met just shy of turning 32. When I excitedly told a "close friend" about him when we first began our relationship, her first question was "why is he still single?" Thank you, smugly married in the nick of time at 29 "friend".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends. This isn't 1952.

+1. Seriously can't believe you hang out with people like this. That's your problem, not that you're 29.

[Anonymous]

Marry a 40 year old. You'll be richer and adored .