Women are "Damaged Goods" after 30..

Anonymous
I am a 29 year old single woman that is living in the moment. I am advancing my career by going back to school. I've never been one to focus on getting married or having kids by a certain age. Last night I was having a conversation with a couple male friends. One ( engaged guy) told me I should put more focus into finding a husband because most men women single and over 30 as " damaged goods". If they were a catch, they would have already been taken. The other guys agreed, and then said while I am a good catch, men might immediately dismiss me because of my age. I believe it's bs buy curious what other, specifically males, think about their views?
Anonymous
Your friends are serious losers.
Anonymous
Stop hanging out with these Red Pill assholes
Anonymous
Get new friends. This isn't 1952.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Stop hanging out with these Red Pill assholes


+1

OP, there are definitely men that think this way. Is this the kind of man you want to marry, though? Can you picture growing old with such a scummy person? Raising kids with them?

Pursue your life. Find love when you find it. Ignore jerks.
Anonymous

Many people think like that, and this decreases your pool of available men as you get older.

HOWEVER, had you married any one of these men who think like this when you were younger, would you have been happier?

So actually it doesn't make much of a difference, does it?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am a 29 year old single woman that is living in the moment. I am advancing my career by going back to school. I've never been one to focus on getting married or having kids by a certain age. Last night I was having a conversation with a couple male friends. One ( engaged guy) told me I should put more focus into finding a husband because most men women single and over 30 as " damaged goods". If they were a catch, they would have already been taken. The other guys agreed, and then said while I am a good catch, men might immediately dismiss me because of my age. I believe it's bs buy curious what other, specifically males, think about their views?


Women over 30 are not damaged good. However, it is true that post 30 the pool of available men slowly begins to shrink as more and more exit the dating market.

But you only need one.
Anonymous
DON’T ever be roped in by someone who values women mainly for their youth. Everyone ages- what then?
Anonymous
They sound like "small town" guys.
Anonymous
People tend to say things like this when they are young and convinced that they have life figured out.

While it's true that, as you age, the dating pool for women shrinks a bit faster than it does for men, there are tons of single men over 30.
Anonymous
The only person who ever said that to me - when I was in my early 30s and hadn't yet met the guy I am now married to - is now unhappily divorced.
Anonymous
These guys are probably your contemporaries. And don’t have much of a world view.

In all likelihood you are a catch! You are hitting your stride, confident and are going to be seriously pursued. You might want to expand your age range if you have one (not enough to be odd), but you start attracting lots of attention.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am a 29 year old single woman that is living in the moment. I am advancing my career by going back to school. I've never been one to focus on getting married or having kids by a certain age. Last night I was having a conversation with a couple male friends. One ( engaged guy) told me I should put more focus into finding a husband because most men women single and over 30 as " damaged goods". If they were a catch, they would have already been taken. The other guys agreed, and then said while I am a good catch, men might immediately dismiss me because of my age. I believe it's bs buy curious what other, specifically males, think about their views?


I'm not a male, but fairly certain guys who think like this will be having affairs and/or divorced by 45. Looking at women as goods to be had, they'll think it's perfectly reasonable to browse and sample other products to see what they're missing.

I remember mostly taking a pass on late-20s guys when I was that age. I could read or hear this kind of stupidity behind their words or actions, but I don't recall it being spoken aloud like this.

Anonymous
I think "damaged goods" is the wrong phrase here.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think "damaged goods" is the wrong phrase here.


I would say at age 30 they rapidly depreciate.
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