To the Obnoxious U9 Parent at Soccerplex this morning

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

What a douche. They are 8-year olds. Like most douches, time will not be his friend. I've seen many douches humbled in this sport as their child ages up and is not longer the 'star' he thought she was.

[Anonymous]

Why do people come to message boards and say things? Why don't we all just say these things in real life and never ever post on message boards?

I'm contractually bound to read every single thing on this message board; therefore, I am quite irritated when people post their thoughts on it. Please stop posting! Don't say things!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

You made the right choice. Why embarrass the little girl because her dad's a douche?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

You made the right choice. Why embarrass the little girl because her dad's a douche?

Thank you and I am not quite sure what to make of some of the responses on here. Whatever. I am not going to say anything to that dad, he is a jerk and hopefully his daughter won't be, but escalating it by saying something to him would have done nothing. I feel confident that I did the right thing, for me and my family.

Oh and what did I teach my daughter, high road.

Oh and why did I post my vent here? Maybe some one would read it? Maybe, someone that goes to soccerplex? Maybe someone might remember it when they are walking back to the car after a big win, and the big losers walking right beside them. Maybe they would remember it and perhaps act differently next time. I don't know, I could probably try to be less obnoxious sometimes too, and the world could be a better place.

[Anonymous]

I think you did the right thing by not confronting him too - no reason to get in a (probably nasty) argument with an a$$hole like that in front of a bunch of 8 yr olds and, as a PP said, likely embarassing his poor DD in the process.

Venting here can be cathartic and, he may not read it but another parent who might have said/done something crappy might and will think next time befroe they speak thanks to your post.

[Anonymous]

At least you won't see him every week. I have parents on my DS team that wont stop over celebrating every goal after we are clearly dominating a game. My child is 8 as well and at that age its pointless! We were at Soccerplex but on the boys side. I'm not a fan of every child should get a trophy but I also don't see the need to demoralize the kids and their families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm sure your DD has moved on...like 5 minutes after it happened.

Surely, if there were snacks afterwards!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

All you have to say is 'we're standing right here, we can HEAR you!'.

He is a douche. And kids being good at age 9 is pretty meaningless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

You made the right choice. Why embarrass the little girl because her dad's a douche?

So she won't grow up to be one too?

[Anonymous]

Dad is a douche, but good lord, OP! Are you planning to try to protect your little snowflake from every harsh word for the rest of her life? Well, then you should go everywhere she ever goes so you can protect her from every harsh word that may spew out of someone else's mouth!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dad is a douche, but good lord, OP! Are you planning to try to protect your little snowflake from every harsh word for the rest of her life? Well, then you should go everywhere she ever goes so you can protect her from every harsh word that may spew out of someone else's mouth!

Not OP, but my guess is that the desire not to raise snowflakes shouldn't outweigh our responsibility to quit being assholes.

In other words -- I don't intend to quit speaking up about asshole behavior just to prepare my kid to deal with assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dad is a douche, but good lord, OP! Are you planning to try to protect your little snowflake from every harsh word for the rest of her life? Well, then you should go everywhere she ever goes so you can protect her from every harsh word that may spew out of someone else's mouth!

Not OP, but my guess is that the desire not to raise snowflakes shouldn't outweigh our responsibility to quit being assholes.

In other words -- I don't intend to quit speaking up about asshole behavior just to prepare my kid to deal with assholes.

Exactly. It doesn't have to be one or the other. You can use it as a teachable moment to your kid that they have to have thick skins for sports, and to teach them how not to be assholes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you say something in the moment, OP?
If someone is rude, I'm generally so surprised I can't find anything to say. Of course as soon as the person leaves, a ton of comments spring to mind

I grew up in NY and generally do not have any difficulty in calling some one out, but words evaded me. I just didn't know what would be appropriate.
This sad sack was telling his daughter that eventually they will play a team that wasn't so terrible.
In direct earshot of a handful of said terrible.

I did not want to make a scene, the guy is clearly a loser.

What a douche. They are 8-year olds. Like most douches, time will not be his friend. I've seen many douches humbled in this sport as their child ages up and is not longer the 'star' he thought she was.

This exactly. I have a teen that plays so am down the road from U9. The 'noise' from the uber-loud, competitive parents has greatly died down over the years as there are fewer and fewer of those players from back when still standing. The true talent goes on and time has a way of quieting even the most obnoxious parent.