Please tell me how to deal with creepy resurfaced acquaintance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's call her Jennifer. I knew Jennifer's family way back when we were elementary kids. I was friends with one of her sisters, but not her (slight age difference). Lost contact, she found me on Facebook about 10 years ago. Would respond to EVERYTHING I posted, and would constantly message me. Not the way your aunt responds to everything, but personally and way too much for someone I hadn't seen in nearly 20 years. I felt uncomfortable, unfriended, and blocked her.

A few months ago, I ran into her at a volunteering project. She looked at a list of 50 people, found my name on the list, and joined the group I was already in. Afterwards, we get to chatting in the usual "it's been so long! how's everyone!?" sort of way, and I stupidly gave her my number.

Now she keeps texting me, even though I'm not responding. Asking me "What's your Twitter? Are you in Instagram?" -- which to me is very strange to ask someone you don't know, and among the first things you ask. She keeps texting me. And after ignoring them, she clearly searched and found me on Instagram (I promptly blocked).

She clearly cannot take a hint, does not understand boundaries, and is weirding me out. How do you deal with people like this? We do not have a close social circle, but it's possible I may run into some extended circle people occasionally. Also I'm concerned she's going to start showing up to places I frequent.

It was a large group and she found a familiar face - not odd at all

You exchanged numbers - not odd at all

She asked to connect on social media - not odd at all

You being overwhelmed by such a basic social interaction - odd

Not odd considering that OP had a prior history with Jennifer invading her life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's call her Jennifer. I knew Jennifer's family way back when we were elementary kids. I was friends with one of her sisters, but not her (slight age difference). Lost contact, she found me on Facebook about 10 years ago. Would respond to EVERYTHING I posted, and would constantly message me. Not the way your aunt responds to everything, but personally and way too much for someone I hadn't seen in nearly 20 years. I felt uncomfortable, unfriended, and blocked her.

A few months ago, I ran into her at a volunteering project. She looked at a list of 50 people, found my name on the list, and joined the group I was already in. Afterwards, we get to chatting in the usual "it's been so long! how's everyone!?" sort of way, and I stupidly gave her my number.

Now she keeps texting me, even though I'm not responding. Asking me "What's your Twitter? Are you in Instagram?" -- which to me is very strange to ask someone you don't know, and among the first things you ask. She keeps texting me. And after ignoring them, she clearly searched and found me on Instagram (I promptly blocked).

She clearly cannot take a hint, does not understand boundaries, and is weirding me out. How do you deal with people like this? We do not have a close social circle, but it's possible I may run into some extended circle people occasionally. Also I'm concerned she's going to start showing up to places I frequent.

It was a large group and she found a familiar face - not odd at all

You exchanged numbers - not odd at all

She asked to connect on social media - not odd at all

You being overwhelmed by such a basic social interaction - odd

Not odd considering that OP had a prior history with Jennifer invading her life.

Yes, we get that OP is passive aggressive.

[Anonymous]

OP, she overstepped your boundaries ten years ago and rather than speak up you ghosted her.

Now you will ghost her again. Great for you. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's call her Jennifer. I knew Jennifer's family way back when we were elementary kids. I was friends with one of her sisters, but not her (slight age difference). Lost contact, she found me on Facebook about 10 years ago. Would respond to EVERYTHING I posted, and would constantly message me. Not the way your aunt responds to everything, but personally and way too much for someone I hadn't seen in nearly 20 years. I felt uncomfortable, unfriended, and blocked her.

A few months ago, I ran into her at a volunteering project. She looked at a list of 50 people, found my name on the list, and joined the group I was already in. Afterwards, we get to chatting in the usual "it's been so long! how's everyone!?" sort of way, and I stupidly gave her my number.

Now she keeps texting me, even though I'm not responding. Asking me "What's your Twitter? Are you in Instagram?" -- which to me is very strange to ask someone you don't know, and among the first things you ask. She keeps texting me. And after ignoring them, she clearly searched and found me on Instagram (I promptly blocked).

She clearly cannot take a hint, does not understand boundaries, and is weirding me out. How do you deal with people like this? We do not have a close social circle, but it's possible I may run into some extended circle people occasionally. Also I'm concerned she's going to start showing up to places I frequent.

It was a large group and she found a familiar face - not odd at all

You exchanged numbers - not odd at all

She asked to connect on social media - not odd at all

You being overwhelmed by such a basic social interaction - odd

Not odd considering that OP had a prior history with Jennifer invading her life.

Yes, we get that OP is passive aggressive.

She didn't invade her life; OP accepted her friend request and didn't like her comment frequency.

Not creepy!

[Anonymous]

If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

Repeatedly texting someone, even after being ignored, then asking for the social media names, being ingored, then searching and friending/following requesting isn't creepy to you?

[Anonymous]

And most people know that just because you're friends on social media, does not mean you're besties. Commenting on everything, absolutely everything, especially with winky faces, is creepy and weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

Repeatedly texting someone, even after being ignored, then asking for the social media names, being ingored, then searching and friending/following requesting isn't creepy to you?

She sounds pushy. But it also sounds as though Op was giving her mixed signals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

Repeatedly texting someone, even after being ignored, then asking for the social media names, being ingored, then searching and friending/following requesting isn't creepy to you?

She sounds pushy. But it also sounds as though Op was giving her mixed signals.

Op here. Confession - because it had been like 25 years, I thought Jennifer was her sister, whom I would play with as kids sometimes. It was a long time ago and they look related. I had a brain fart - that's why I exchanged numbers. Now I'm stuck and this woman I don't even know will not stop contacting me. And scanning a list to look for someone's name and then find them, is weird. It wasn't like she saw me in a room of a few people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

Repeatedly texting someone, even after being ignored, then asking for the social media names, being ingored, then searching and friending/following requesting isn't creepy to you?

She sounds pushy. But it also sounds as though Op was giving her mixed signals.

Op here. Confession - because it had been like 25 years, I thought Jennifer was her sister, whom I would play with as kids sometimes. It was a long time ago and they look related. I had a brain fart - that's why I exchanged numbers. Now I'm stuck and this woman I don't even know will not stop contacting me. And scanning a list to look for someone's name and then find them, is weird. It wasn't like she saw me in a room of a few people.

OP, this story sounds like your fault. Really. Is she creepy or not?

[Anonymous]

Delete your accounts, all of them

[Anonymous]

Op, don't listen to the haters. I have had this happen to me. My brother dated this creepy girl who has stalked our family in person and social media for 15 years. I have 2 other former friends from high school who have gotten really creepy over the years after I was clear we weren't friends. One of them showed up to my mom's work about 7 years ago and screamed at her, calling me a bitch. Another one keeps showing up in my current city every few years and trying to contact me. My last name has changed, so it is difficult.

Just block, ignore, rinse, repeat, and know you are going to have some awkward moments, but ignore them, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If Jennifer were a man, you'd all be telling OP to run. Women can be creepily persistent too.

But Jennifer is not a man and she has not done anything remotely creepy.

Repeatedly texting someone, even after being ignored, then asking for the social media names, being ingored, then searching and friending/following requesting isn't creepy to you?

She sounds pushy. But it also sounds as though Op was giving her mixed signals.

Op here. Confession - because it had been like 25 years, I thought Jennifer was her sister, whom I would play with as kids sometimes. It was a long time ago and they look related. I had a brain fart - that's why I exchanged numbers. Now I'm stuck and this woman I don't even know will not stop contacting me. And scanning a list to look for someone's name and then find them, is weird. It wasn't like she saw me in a room of a few people.

OP, this story sounds like your fault. Really. Is she creepy or not?

I made a mistake and thought she was someone else.

I am not special, I am not very interesting, Maybe I’m being passive aggressive via “ghosting," but I seriously just want to be left alone. Do I tell her “I thought you were your sister and was excited to see you, but now that my brain realized you’re not her, I don’t want to be friends” - wouldn’t that be more hurtful?

But she was creepy then, and is creepy now. The persistence and seemingly slight obsession - and *her* wanting validation by constant contact - is weird.

And yeah, if it were a man, you’d all be saying to run fast and run far.

[Anonymous]

Quit posting on social media for awhile. As for her texting, what does she want? If she wants to meet up, be vague, tell her things are busy and there is stuff going on in your life. Also, do not answer every text and certainly don't respond promptly.