I'm at my wits end

[Anonymous]

Is homeschool an option?

[Anonymous]

This may go well beyond normal teen rebellious behavior if she was previously well behaved with no other issues. I would have her evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist as it could be more than just a teenager acting out and experimenting with bad choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may go well beyond normal teen rebellious behavior if she was previously well behaved with no other issues. I would have her evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist as it could be more than just a teenager acting out and experimenting with bad choices.

+1 And add in a visit to her pediatrician to get his/her input. But your daughter needs more than the school counselor right now you should find a reputable psychologist, psychiatrist or LCSW to help your daughter.

[Anonymous]

If she sneaks out, call the police and report her as missing. She'll get the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not uncommon with "beautiful" girls, who find more excitement from the attention of boys than they do from the drudgery of schoolwork.

1) See a counselor;
2) Remove the electronics;
3) Alarms on the doors and windows.

We are going through a rough time with my 14yo DS (sending nasty pictures to strangers via Kik, early onset marijuana, dishonesty) so you certainly have my sympathy.

Early onset marijuana?! Is that like early onset Alzheimer's or menopause? That is the wackiest dcurbanmom phrase I have ever read...

[Anonymous]

You guys this is serious. Moms are trying to save their kids. Work with them or stay quiet please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not uncommon with "beautiful" girls, who find more excitement from the attention of boys than they do from the drudgery of schoolwork.

1) See a counselor;
2) Remove the electronics;
3) Alarms on the doors and windows.

We are going through a rough time with my 14yo DS (sending nasty pictures to strangers via Kik, early onset marijuana, dishonesty) so you certainly have my sympathy.

Early onset marijuana?! Is that like early onset Alzheimer's or menopause? That is the wackiest dcurbanmom phrase I have ever read...

Early onset, in the sense that he's just now figuring it out, trying to find out where to get it, etc. Oh, and now we've found a bunch of empty Nyquil bottles. Stupid teen experimentation or the start of years of heartache? Trying to sort this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she sneaks out, call the police and report her as missing. She'll get the picture.

DO NOT DO THIS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not uncommon with "beautiful" girls, who find more excitement from the attention of boys than they do from the drudgery of schoolwork.

1) See a counselor;
2) Remove the electronics;
3) Alarms on the doors and windows.

We are going through a rough time with my 14yo DS (sending nasty pictures to strangers via Kik, early onset marijuana, dishonesty) so you certainly have my sympathy.

Early onset marijuana?! Is that like early onset Alzheimer's or menopause? That is the wackiest dcurbanmom phrase I have ever read...

Early onset, in the sense that he's just now figuring it out, trying to find out where to get it, etc. Oh, and now we've found a bunch of empty Nyquil bottles. Stupid teen experimentation or the start of years of heartache? Trying to sort this out.

Empty Nyquil bottles. Now this is starting to sound like an old afterschool special.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not uncommon with "beautiful" girls, who find more excitement from the attention of boys than they do from the drudgery of schoolwork.

1) See a counselor;
2) Remove the electronics;
3) Alarms on the doors and windows.

We are going through a rough time with my 14yo DS (sending nasty pictures to strangers via Kik, early onset marijuana, dishonesty) so you certainly have my sympathy.

Early onset marijuana?! Is that like early onset Alzheimer's or menopause? That is the wackiest dcurbanmom phrase I have ever read...

Early onset, in the sense that he's just now figuring it out, trying to find out where to get it, etc. Oh, and now we've found a bunch of empty Nyquil bottles. Stupid teen experimentation or the start of years of heartache? Trying to sort this out.

Empty Nyquil bottles. Now this is starting to sound like an old afterschool special.

Unless it's your own house:

Cough Syrup Abuse: Teens Are Drinking the Stuff to Get High
http://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20001025/cough-syrup-abuse-teens-are-drinking-stuff-to-get-high#1

[Anonymous]

I wish I had some useful advice, but apart from suggesting the book, "yes your teen is crazy" I don't know what to tell you. I am also curious which is this one of the hardest languages that she speaks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had some useful advice, but apart from suggesting the book, "yes your teen is crazy" I don't know what to tell you. I am also curious which is this one of the hardest languages that she speaks?

My own, like, has a problem with, like, English, so, like, that one is like pretty hard. Like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had some useful advice, but apart from suggesting the book, "yes your teen is crazy" I don't know what to tell you. I am also curious which is this one of the hardest languages that she speaks?

My own, like, has a problem with, like, English, so, like, that one is like pretty hard. Like.

Ha, my own too, like, this like, I like say, but like it is like different language...like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she "give a hoot" about? Take that away and give her a chance to earn it back.

For me, it was playing sports. I loved playing. But I knew if I didn't keep my grades up, no way my mom would let me keep playing. Once I was given a car to use, I knew that once I messed up, the car would be GONE. Etc etc etc.

Lock up everything that connects to the internet. Get her a flip phone with no texting. Change the wi-fi password daily.

She does not care about anything. Flip phone is a good idea. I will try that route with all other electronics locked up.

Does she care about her singing? As a consequence, could you take away voice lessons or performances for unacceptable behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This may go well beyond normal teen rebellious behavior if she was previously well behaved with no other issues. I would have her evaluated by a psychologist or psychiatrist as it could be more than just a teenager acting out and experimenting with bad choices.

+1 And add in a visit to her pediatrician to get his/her input. But your daughter needs more than the school counselor right now you should find a reputable psychologist, psychiatrist or LCSW to help your daughter.

+2 DD is a bit younger, but psychiatric meds, counseling, and removal of the phone has resulted in a changed kid.