Guest room sheet etiquette poll

[Anonymous]

A. It would never occur to me that sheets should be "fresh" on a bed. Clean, yes, "fresh"? Leaves me scratching my head.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:B
We only have guests a couple times a year. If I washed right away, I'd have to wash again when guests arrived because the bed would get kind of dusty after no use for several months. This way, the barely used sheets are left on there and washed right before the guests arrive so they can have a fresh bed.

I can't tell you how many times I have told my in-laws to please leave the sheets on the bed. But FIL keeps stripping it and putting the whole mess on top of the washer which means I have to drop everything and wash them right away because they are blocking me from doing other laundry. And then the bed sits there unmade and gathering dust until the next visit.

OP here. Yes that's the issue. I just don't have time to do the laundry and put the sheets on the bed right now, so they've been sitting in the tiny laundry room. We will have another guest for Thanksgiving and I want the sheets to be fresh for them. Maybe I'm the only one that likes the fresh laundry smell though.

You don't have 5 minutes in the am, 5 minutes when you get home and ten minutes after dinner?

No, I do laundry most days and those sheets are very low on my priority list. I do not have time to do those sheets because something else always needs to be done first.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a terrible hostess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:B
We only have guests a couple times a year. If I washed right away, I'd have to wash again when guests arrived because the bed would get kind of dusty after no use for several months. This way, the barely used sheets are left on there and washed right before the guests arrive so they can have a fresh bed.

I can't tell you how many times I have told my in-laws to please leave the sheets on the bed. But FIL keeps stripping it and putting the whole mess on top of the washer which means I have to drop everything and wash them right away because they are blocking me from doing other laundry. And then the bed sits there unmade and gathering dust until the next visit.

OP here. Yes that's the issue. I just don't have time to do the laundry and put the sheets on the bed right now, so they've been sitting in the tiny laundry room. We will have another guest for Thanksgiving and I want the sheets to be fresh for them. Maybe I'm the only one that likes the fresh laundry smell though.

You could have started the load in the time you have been complaining.
It doesn't take long.

The point is that my guest is mandating that I must wash his dirty sheets RIGHT NOW and I can't do any other laundry until it's done. IMO the guests are wrong for forcing dirty laundry in my face.

Also, who lets their guests sleep in a bed that hasn't been washed for 6 months. Do you know how much dust has accumulated on that bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a terrible hostess.

Why? Because I give my guests fresh sheets?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe it's this big of a difficulty to wash bedding. DH and I both work full time, we have two kids - one of whom is special needs, several pets, and a busy social life.

Yet doing an extra load of laundry is really no big deal.

[Anonymous]

I also get mad when my in-laws set the table for dinner. I have literally walked into the room an hour before dinner to find the table has been made. It's like they're saying: NOW IS THE TIME WHEN WE EAT. And then the food isn't served family style, I have to carry the plates back to the kitchen to put food on them so it's actually 5 times more work than if the table wasn't set.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe it's this big of a difficulty to wash bedding. DH and I both work full time, we have two kids - one of whom is special needs, several pets, and a busy social life.

Yet doing an extra load of laundry is really no big deal.

It's not that it's hard. It that I'm forced to do it immediately when I could do it next week or next month. It isn't even close to a priority but I've been forced to make it one. And I don't know why the health status of your children has any importance to this task. It doesn't make you a better person than me.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe anyone would let their guests sleep on sheets that haven't been washed for months. That's far worse than letting sheets that were slept on once or twice sit on the bed.

[Anonymous]

Next time you have guests tell them on their arrival that they should not worry about the bedding or towels as you are planning on having everything cleaned the day after they leave. Then you do it on your own schedule but I would not let dirty sheets stay on the bed for too long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also get mad when my in-laws set the table for dinner. I have literally walked into the room an hour before dinner to find the table has been made. It's like they're saying: NOW IS THE TIME WHEN WE EAT. And then the food isn't served family style, I have to carry the plates back to the kitchen to put food on them so it's actually 5 times more work than if the table wasn't set.

Our nanny sets the table for dinner during nap time. It's just to give us one less thing to do. You are assuming facts not in evidence. They're probably just trying to help you but you could just be direct and ask "Is your setting the table at 4pm a subtle hint that you'd like to eat dinner earlier than we did yesterday?" Then you'd know for sure.

And it's not that hard to gather up all the plates. I am not sure why YOU are portioning out everyone ELSE'S food in the kitchen. Everyone should be able to just take what they want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a terrible hostess.

Seems a little harsh - maybe she wasn't a big fan of her last guest and went out of her way because her family or spouse asked her too. Now she has the clean up and wants to vent. It's happened to me. Hubby invites friends, friends make a mess and come Monday hubby goes to work and I get to clean up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe it's this big of a difficulty to wash bedding. DH and I both work full time, we have two kids - one of whom is special needs, several pets, and a busy social life.

Yet doing an extra load of laundry is really no big deal.

It's not that it's hard. It that I'm forced to do it immediately when I could do it next week or next month. It isn't even close to a priority but I've been forced to make it one. And I don't know why the health status of your children has any importance to this task. It doesn't make you a better person than me.

Because we spend a chunk of time at home doing all her therapy exercises. I can't just sit watching tv and folding laundry while we're doing those. That's why it's relevant.

You are NOT forced. We've done one load of laundry while a few dirty things are on top of the washer. There's no reason you can't just let it sit. You're finding problems where there are none. I think you just don't like your in-laws or whoever visited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I also get mad when my in-laws set the table for dinner. I have literally walked into the room an hour before dinner to find the table has been made. It's like they're saying: NOW IS THE TIME WHEN WE EAT. And then the food isn't served family style, I have to carry the plates back to the kitchen to put food on them so it's actually 5 times more work than if the table wasn't set.

Our nanny sets the table for dinner during nap time. It's just to give us one less thing to do. You are assuming facts not in evidence. They're probably just trying to help you but you could just be direct and ask "Is your setting the table at 4pm a subtle hint that you'd like to eat dinner earlier than we did yesterday?" Then you'd know for sure.

And it's not that hard to gather up all the plates. I am not sure why YOU are portioning out everyone ELSE'S food in the kitchen. Everyone should be able to just take what they want.

I have to portion out the food because after my in-laws set the table, they sit there like dolts and don't move a muscle until their plates have food on them. They also do this for breakfast and lunch as well as dinner. I'd rather have breakfast and lunch be more of a "pour yourself a damn bowl of cereal" meal but there they are, sitting at a set table waiting for food to appear in front of them.

Sorry to hijack the thread.

[Anonymous]

D. I wash them immediately after guests leave, make the bed without sheets and then put fresh sheets on before new guests arrive. But washing and putting sheets back on immediately would be my second choice. I would be uncomfortable leaving dirty sheets on the bed.