How to find (my mom) a nice single man (ideally widower) in his 60s? Do they exist?

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We went through this with my Aunt and with her blessing, made her a match.com profile and helped her throughout the process. She ended up meeting a wonderful man who we all love and I believe marriage is on the horizon for them.

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My dad, widowed at 65, met his second wife at a bereavement therapy group for widows and widowers.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad, widowed at 65, met his second wife at a bereavement therapy group for widows and widowers.

Yes, this could be a possibility. My grandmother found all her boyfriends at the catholic widow/widowers group. She had three criteria for the men she dated: they had to know how to dance, own a tux and drive at night.

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Why does he have to be 5' 9" or taller? When will people let go of their vanities?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in her late 50s and I really think she is a catch for her age. She is very attractive and in shape, looks much younger than she is, is financially self sufficient, well educated and has a great job. She's very nice and outgoing, and someone that people gravitate towards. Overall I really cannot imagine that there are many women in her age range that would be more appealing as a potential partner to a man in his late 50s or 60s. Anyway- she is widowed and has been in a relationship for about a year and a half with a guy who is attractive, has a good job, but is just a loser. My husband and I cannot figure out why the heck she stays with him! She says she is afraid of being alone forever and there's no one else out there.

How can I help her find someone to date? I think at a minimum they would need to be five nine or taller, ok looking, and some kind of professional job. No weird emotional baggage involving crazy kids or a crazy ex wife!!!!! Other than that I think she's pretty flexible. Does anyone know of some nice older single men out there? Where can I find these guys, to help her? I wish I knew of someone I could set her up with. Would love ideas! If it matters, she is Catholic, but I don't think she's meeting anyone at church.

Not your place, OP.

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Is race important?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are people so afraid of being alone? It's just plain weird.

Have you ever really, truly lived and been alone for any kind of significant time? I honestly doubt it.

I was "alone" for a decade and it can be amazing, so liberating but when you are ill its terrible and when there is only a future with the person in the mirror its disheartening.

Also I expect for people who have been married for decades, they miss the camaraderie. How can you not be empathetic to this?

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My dad was widowed at 65 a dozen years ago, and is now married to a woman he knew since grade school - they reconnected while planning their 50th high school reunion. Any old flames out there, perhaps?

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Anonymous wrote:Can I put my dad in the running?


Catholic, attorney, semi-retired at age 70,
lives between the city and his beach house, though gradually increasing time at the beach, fantastic daughter and grandsons, plays tennis and golf, great shape, funny, eats dinner out every day, social drinking only.

I will add that he doesn't understand the concept of a potluck despite me trying to explain for 10 minutes, wants his 1 year old grandson to be "tough", refuses to decorate his beach house because "that's for women" so it has basically a couch and table in it (4K square feet people), and "ghosts" at any event, including just coming to my house for a visit. Literally just walks out the door.

He's single and ready to mingle!

This is hysterical! I'd love to see a DCUM connection like this!

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Anonymous wrote:Can I put my dad in the running?


Catholic, attorney, semi-retired at age 70,
lives between the city and his beach house, though gradually increasing time at the beach, fantastic daughter and grandsons, plays tennis and golf, great shape, funny, eats dinner out every day, social drinking only.

I will add that he doesn't understand the concept of a potluck despite me trying to explain for 10 minutes, wants his 1 year old grandson to be "tough", refuses to decorate his beach house because "that's for women" so it has basically a couch and table in it (4K square feet people), and "ghosts" at any event, including just coming to my house for a visit. Literally just walks out the door.

He's single and ready to mingle!

OP here- just seeing this! Super long day! I think they sound like they could be a great match actually. My mom has a beach house too and also eats dinner out every day! She does love to decorate though Do you have an email address??

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so afraid of being alone? It's just plain weird.

Have you ever really, truly lived and been alone for any kind of significant time? I honestly doubt it.

I was "alone" for a decade and it can be amazing, so liberating but when you are ill its terrible and when there is only a future with the person in the mirror its disheartening.

Also I expect for people who have been married for decades, they miss the camaraderie. How can you not be empathetic to this?

You responded to me. Yes, I have truly lived alone most of the last 20 years. I'm 46. Came close to marriage once, but he wasn't the one and I couldn't pull the trigger. Now I like my freedom too much. So I know. I KNOW.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in her late 50s and I really think she is a catch for her age. She is very attractive and in shape, looks much younger than she is, is financially self sufficient, well educated and has a great job. She's very nice and outgoing, and someone that people gravitate towards. Overall I really cannot imagine that there are many women in her age range that would be more appealing as a potential partner to a man in his late 50s or 60s. Anyway- she is widowed and has been in a relationship for about a year and a half with a guy who is attractive, has a good job, but is just a loser. My husband and I cannot figure out why the heck she stays with him! She says she is afraid of being alone forever and there's no one else out there.

How can I help her find someone to date? I think at a minimum they would need to be five nine or taller, ok looking, and some kind of professional job. No weird emotional baggage involving crazy kids or a crazy ex wife!!!!! Other than that I think she's pretty flexible. Does anyone know of some nice older single men out there? Where can I find these guys, to help her? I wish I knew of someone I could set her up with. Would love ideas! If it matters, she is Catholic, but I don't think she's meeting anyone at church.

Your mom sounds needy. You can enable that by feeding into her insecurities or you can cut the cord and live your own life.

pathetic

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are people so afraid of being alone? It's just plain weird.

Have you ever really, truly lived and been alone for any kind of significant time? I honestly doubt it.

I was "alone" for a decade and it can be amazing, so liberating but when you are ill its terrible and when there is only a future with the person in the mirror its disheartening.

Also I expect for people who have been married for decades, they miss the camaraderie. How can you not be empathetic to this?

I lived alone for 10 years until I got married late in life. My mother was married for 56 years before my dad died (married at 18). She would NEVER think of remarrying and actually enjoys her life. There are plenty of people who aren't needy and afraid of being alone. That's a very unattractive trait to have actually.

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Social club or a bridge club?

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Anonymous wrote:Why does he have to be 5' 9" or taller? When will people let go of their vanities?

OP's mom has a right to like what she likes.