Worried about ASD in my baby. Sorry to be "that mom."

[Anonymous]

Part of the problem is that this should not be on the SN forum. It should be on general parenting since the crux of the issue seems to be parental anxiety. Maybe your child is more serious because he picks up on your anxiety. I know mine reacted to my moods even that young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

What you are describing sounds like what I was telling the doctor 7 years ago. My DS sounds like yours OP. Turns out he is just a more serious 7.5-year old who used to be shy and is somewhat growing out of that but who just has a more serious personality. He has no issues or problems at all. So, don't worry. And to everyone who is offended, tough, she didn't say anything offensive.

It's great that you don't feel offended. However, my son has autism, and I find the post offensive.

+1

[Anonymous]

Also a parent of an ASD kid and I didn't think she said anything objectionable. I think many of the previous posters were needlessly rude. Most of us at one time were in the position of wondering if our child's development was typical, and needed advice. It's too soon to figure out anything g about OP's child, but that doesn't mean we can't have compassion for her concerns.

Like many parents of special needs kids, it's frustrating when other parents can't understand what it's like, and I get tired of trying to explain. I get more tired of posts that try to be reassuring (usually over on General Parenting), because as all of us here know, sometimes it's not just nothing, and an internet stranger can't make it so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also a parent of an ASD kid and I didn't think she said anything objectionable. I think many of the previous posters were needlessly rude. Most of us at one time were in the position of wondering if our child's development was typical, and needed advice. It's too soon to figure out anything g about OP's child, but that doesn't mean we can't have compassion for her concerns.

Like many parents of special needs kids, it's frustrating when other parents can't understand what it's like, and I get tired of trying to explain. I get more tired of posts that try to be reassuring (usually over on General Parenting), because as all of us here know, sometimes it's not just nothing, and an internet stranger can't make it so.

Her concerns should be shared with professionals who can reassure her, not with parents who are actually struggling with their SN children.

[Anonymous]

OP clearly said she wanted to know about ASD because she didn't want to start too late with whatever interventions that may help her child. You moms need to stop being so cruel. Have you forgotten what is was like to realize your child wasn't like other children, and you were entering into unknown territory?

[Anonymous]

At 6 months babies start using their hands more so maybe he's just working on that vs the 4-5 mo smiley time. 7 mo starts stranger anxiety, so he may just be working toward that as well.

[Anonymous]

I think this moms problem is anxiety, not autism. However, I don't understand what would be offensive about not wanting your child to have autism. I'm sure you didn't want that either. And I'm sure there are a whole host of other things you don't want for your child that other people are living with. I don't understand the offense? Sincerely asking.

[Anonymous]

He sounds completely typical to me.

If being more involved/social with people instead of things is typical, I guess all the babies I've seen aren't typical. Once they become mobile they were soooo interested in everything else BUT us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also a parent of an ASD kid and I didn't think she said anything objectionable. I think many of the previous posters were needlessly rude. Most of us at one time were in the position of wondering if our child's development was typical, and needed advice. It's too soon to figure out anything g about OP's child, but that doesn't mean we can't have compassion for her concerns.

Like many parents of special needs kids, it's frustrating when other parents can't understand what it's like, and I get tired of trying to explain. I get more tired of posts that try to be reassuring (usually over on General Parenting), because as all of us here know, sometimes it's not just nothing, and an internet stranger can't make it so.

Her concerns should be shared with professionals who can reassure her, not with parents who are actually struggling with their SN children.

You're angry. That's fine. I don't think the OP deserves it, but you reached a different conclusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What you are describing sounds like what I was telling the doctor 7 years ago. My DS sounds like yours OP. Turns out he is just a more serious 7.5-year old who used to be shy and is somewhat growing out of that but who just has a more serious personality. He has no issues or problems at all. So, don't worry. And to everyone who is offended, tough, she didn't say anything offensive.

It's great that you don't feel offended. However, my son has autism, and I find the post offensive.

+1

+1000. My son has autism too, and I am offended.

[Anonymous]

OP clearly said she wanted to know about ASD because she didn't want to start too late with whatever interventions that may help her child. You moms need to stop being so cruel. Have you forgotten what is was like to realize your child wasn't like other children, and you were entering into unknown territory?

There are no medically accepted interventions for autism for a 6 month old baby, because autism cannot be diagnosed at that age. If she had a 2 or 3 year old was concerned about autism, people's responses would be entirely different.

[Anonymous]

To all the moms with autistic kids, why is it so offensive to you that OP is concerned about her child's development? She didn't say it was the worst thing in the world if her son has ASD. All the 'experts' tell us that we should 'know the signs' and catch autism as early as we can so intervention can be more effective. Sure OP sounds a bit anxious but she admitted it and it's nothing against you or your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the moms with autistic kids, why is it so offensive to you that OP is concerned about her child's development? She didn't say it was the worst thing in the world if her son has ASD. All the 'experts' tell us that we should 'know the signs' and catch autism as early as we can so intervention can be more effective. Sure OP sounds a bit anxious but she admitted it and it's nothing against you or your children.

She sounds more than a bit anxious. Here are some of the things she said:

I just feel worried and I'm driving myself crazy reading and just don't know what is typical at this age......

I don't really know what I'm looking for here. I feel ridiculously anxious about this and I feel like I can't even enjoy my baby. I don't even know why I started obsessing about this all of a sudden, but now it's all I can think about....

OP said she knew ASD wasn't the end of the world but her reaction says otherwise. If she doesn't even know what is typical at this age, despite having an older child, ASD isn't the issue, she is. She doesn't have an SN issue, she has a mental illness that should be addressed with a professional.

[Anonymous]

OMG no one WANTS their child to have autism. You people are being absurdly over sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To all the moms with autistic kids, why is it so offensive to you that OP is concerned about her child's development? She didn't say it was the worst thing in the world if her son has ASD. All the 'experts' tell us that we should 'know the signs' and catch autism as early as we can so intervention can be more effective. Sure OP sounds a bit anxious but she admitted it and it's nothing against you or your children.

She sounds more than a bit anxious. Here are some of the things she said:

I just feel worried and I'm driving myself crazy reading and just don't know what is typical at this age......

I don't really know what I'm looking for here. I feel ridiculously anxious about this and I feel like I can't even enjoy my baby. I don't even know why I started obsessing about this all of a sudden, but now it's all I can think about....

OP said she knew ASD wasn't the end of the world but her reaction says otherwise. If she doesn't even know what is typical at this age, despite having an older child, ASD isn't the issue, she is. She doesn't have an SN issue, she has a mental illness that should be addressed with a professional.

If you think she has a mental illness, all the more reason not to get offended!