Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?

[Anonymous]

80k isn't poor. Trust me. Not even for a college grad at 29. He's doing fine. You have time to build your 401k during your 30s. You just cannot be house poor. You have to live in a home below your means. It's what you spend not what you make

[Anonymous]

If you love him, marry him, and if you live some place less expensive than the DC metro area, you will be fine.

I would talk to him about the possibility of leaving the area, so you can live an middle class life on the salaries you could make instead of having to have a large amount of family or investment wealth to make it here (or someplace more expensive.)

Otherwise, the bride's family pays for the wedding, so you sound good to go.

[Anonymous]

Please break up with him. For his sake. You are awful.

[Anonymous]

Troll post.

[Anonymous]

How much student debt OP? Does he spend/live responsibly?
Do you love him? Marriage means two people not one. You have to make money too...don't put that burden on him just because he's a man. Some people have potential. Since you're still young...does he have the promise/potential to make more? My DH and I had no debt when we married but only $17k. I knew and he knew we were both winners and would do just fine. Neither came from a rich family. We are now multi-millionaires.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

At 29, I would have said something similar. Now at 40 and unmarried, I can't believe how silly I was back then.

[Anonymous]

The more women i read complain on here the more grateful i become being a single man, spare the poor guy with your materialism and let him find a real lady that will treat him like a king.

[Anonymous]

Dh was making 80k when we met , mid 30s. I was making 60k. We now make 270k, but more than that, we share the same values about money, family, etc.

I say that you should probably end the relationship because you are looking for something else. However, note that just because someone has money doesn't make them a nicer partner.

[Anonymous]

I don't think OP is interested in a nicer partner. She wants money and not being single. Nothing wrong with that.

OP, how pretty are you?

[Anonymous]

Troll.

I will say I really TRIED to date a man who was TRULY poor- as in living off Social Security Disability Poor.

After seeing that his check (which was ~$1200 a MONTH) was being garnished for back child support, which brought it down to $800 a month....

....and him living with his parents in his 40's because obviously he couldn't get an apartment in the DC metro area making only $800 a month....

...and he was too "scared" to work a PT job even because he was afraid to lose the benefits it took him 2 years to get....


...I bailed.

I'm sorry but a grown man making $200 a week off disability will in NO WAY be able to help me out (his cell phone bill alone was $100 as he had to have unlimited internet because his parents were churchgoing people who thought internet was "the devil").

I mean it was nice he was a God-fearing man and treated me like a queen....

....but this queen would like her man to at least be able to pay even 1/3 of the mortgage ($2200) to help out if he would be living there.

...I guess he thought I would allow him to live with me rent free like all the other women he has dated him his life.

I asked the ex (yes he introduced me as they lived in the same area) why they broke up- she said the same thing- He refused to work anything past a simple temp job, would get laid off, then sit around awhile until his little money ran out...

....although he COULD handle a simple office job like file clerk (his disability was physical, not mental! He was not in a wheelchair or anything, just walked a bit slow but was otherwise ok! He could still have sex though!) and help her out with bills.

Sorry, not going to be a "mother" to a grown ass man!

Flame away if you wish!

[Anonymous]

So what truly disabled people without family to fall back on really do in D.C? Shelter, I presume? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

If you really, truly love him, then it should be a non issue. Love should never come with a price tag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a troll post? It's either an extremely clueless person or a troll post, I can't decide. It has a lot of marks of a troll post:

guy is "poor" but is making 80k
worries about fertility
no mention of feelings

+1! Only marry for love. Otherwise, you're inviting misery.

+1000 And if high income is important to you, put on your big-girl panties and work toward that yourself!

[Anonymous]

I have money marry me...NOT!!!