Marry a poor guy or risk single-hood?

[Anonymous]

How much money do you make? Do you have anything to offer? Do you have investments? Do you have student loans?

The fact that you are even asking this question means you should dump him. Let someone else enjoy this wonderful man who won't be obsessed with his bank account.

[Anonymous]

OP is a gold digger. To her money is more important. What a loser.

[Anonymous]

At 29, I felt the same way. But on the other hand I was a lawyer making $175,000 and had my own house, cars and Investments. I needed someone like me, not someone who made 80,000 with a ton of debt. It doesn't sound like OP even makes 80k. Your bf deserves better than you

[Anonymous]

3 pages, the OP has yet to return.

[Anonymous]

$80K is pretty good for a guy in his 20's or early 30's. Does he make good decisions financially? Are his student loans relatively minor?

What is YOUR income? If you're making about the same income as he does, you can afford kids. I'm a single mom making $100K (in my 40's, gasp) and I was able to afford a kid. My ex makes about what I do and we both own our own homes, which is more expensive than two people owning one home together.


At this point, you need to decide if you're marrying for love or for money. You might not be able to get both. If you don't love him enough to overlook this, let him go - I know plenty of nice single woman who'd be just fine with a guy like this.

[Anonymous]

You are being a little hard on op. It's not so much what he makes now as much as if he has the drive or ambition to be more successful, and if that's an important factor to op. Op shouldn't stay with him if she will resent him later on. But op - if you are ambitious it could be a really positive thing for you if your DH is not Bc that could free you to work hard to further your goals while he becomes the default parent for sick days, school delays, etc. Usually someone has to have the mommy track job and it can be him. And don't wait 5 years to have a kid if you're ready emotionally now. You can make the finances work if you find an in home daycare or do a nanny share. And if you're in DC there are many schools with free public preK starting at age 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 pages, the OP has yet to return.

Op is a troll

[Anonymous]

Jesus sometimes I wish we could reach out to the men some of these women post about and warn them about what they're getting into. I keep trusting that fate will sort it all out somehow.

Grow up OP.

[Anonymous]

How much money do you make?

[Anonymous]

Troll. I think we've seen a number of posts like this lately.

If not troll, Op is horrible and should break up with him for his sake.

[Anonymous]

I think 80K at the start of a marriage is not so bad. That should grow and grow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Flame away if you wish!

You're strange. Two hundred a week is a bit less than 80K a year, no? Although I'm sure it's the same thing to some people here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 29 and dating a man without many means really seriously. He is a great boyfriend and partner and adores me. However, he has nothing to offer me financially. I mean, he has a job but he earns around 80k and has student loans, no savings or investments. If we were to get married, we'd have to be really low key since he and his family cannot afford a big wedding. We will also be scrimping and struggling financially and will probably not be able to have children until the next 4 + years. This puts me at a fertility risk because, of course, I'd have a child tomorrow, if I could because i really want a family.
He wants one too and would make a great father, but we cannot afford it in the next few years.

What do you think of my predicament?

I'd pump you and dump you. Just another reason why I love DC. Full of broads like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 29 and dating a man without many means really seriously. He is a great boyfriend and partner and adores me. However, he has nothing to offer me financially. I mean, he has a job but he earns around 80k and has student loans, no savings or investments. If we were to get married, we'd have to be really low key since he and his family cannot afford a big wedding. We will also be scrimping and struggling financially and will probably not be able to have children until the next 4 + years. This puts me at a fertility risk because, of course, I'd have a child tomorrow, if I could because i really want a family.
He wants one too and would make a great father, but we cannot afford it in the next few years.

What do you think of my predicament?

The woman's family pays for the wedding. Not the man's.

[Anonymous]

Ok women, if he makes 80k and you are making more than him maybe you can judge, but wait then it makes you guys have a pretty high income. Then stfu unless you can suck his dick 24/7 or has 10 tits and holes, I am just mad by reading this. You probably making this up but I am pretty sure there are women out there think like you bitch