What kind of guy sees prostitutes?

[Anonymous]

I would be disgusted by someone who's sex-negative enough to condemn a guy for this, and wouldn't want to be friends with them. It's 2016 people, jesus.

[Anonymous]

More men cheat with prostitutes than you think. Google TER + prostitutes and you will find a review site with lots of info. Many here locally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's none of your business. There are lots of issues with sex work, with the well-being and treatment of the women who engage in it is at the center. However, if these are consenting women, and your friend treats them with respect and dignity, it's a win-win situation. (And YES: these women are likely disadvantaged and don't want to be in this situation. It's a sad reality, but it is what it is. Better someone like your friend who's hopefully treating them respectfully, than some creep who's going to be rude, violent or worse).

At the end of the day, men are evolutionarily hard-wired to want sex. If a man isn't able to get it in the more 'traditional' sense (find a nice person, have sex with them) they are likely to go a more non-traditional route. Considering that other non-traditional routes include sexual assault, I think a consensual transaction between to adults is a good alternative.

Repeat: none of your business, and not the situation to project your morals onto.

Having sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with you but is willing/forced to do so willingly due to the circumstances of her life is far too close to rape for me to be comfortable with. I'm aware it is NOT by any legal definition, but morally, I don't think its very far.

I feel like your argument could also be like, 'well 7/11s get robbed all the time but at least if I do it they'll get robbed by someone nice who won't shoot them.'

I am sick of men on this thread falling back on some caveman 'man need sex, woman give sex' crap. All the real men I know don't want to have sex with a miserable sad woman being coerced into sex. How is this any more fulfilling than the 'starfish' or 'duty sex' you all so deride?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be disgusted by someone who's sex-negative enough to condemn a guy for this, and wouldn't want to be friends with them. It's 2016 people, jesus.

You need to raise the bar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be disgusted by someone who's sex-negative enough to condemn a guy for this, and wouldn't want to be friends with them. It's 2016 people, jesus.

It's not about being sex-negative. It's about being anti-pimp and pro-women. I wouldn't say this about someone who cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More men cheat with prostitutes than you think. Google TER + prostitutes and you will find a review site with lots of info. Many here locally.

Ok, and there are many break ins here, murders....what's your pitiful point.

[Anonymous]

One with VD?

[Anonymous]

The low lifes that use hookers do so because they can't have relationships with normal women.

This has been well studied and documented, nothing new here. This guy has problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just found out an older male friend of mine sees prostitutes (escorts, sugar babies, whatever). He apparently meets then online. My instinctive reaction to this is just disgust, but am I being too uptight? He says it's the only way for him to meet younger attractive women.

What if you found out he masturbates with peanut butter and jelly and when he's "finished" he cleans up the mess by wiping himself off with slices of bread and then eats them - would you be disgusted?
Would you rather not discuss it and wish you'd never found out, i.e. minded your own business?

[Anonymous]

A guy with serious mental issues, IMO.

The peanut butter thing? Fine. I love PB, I understand.

[Anonymous]

Peanut butter and jelly isn't illegal either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Peanut butter and jelly isn't illegal either.

And its not taking advantage of a run down abused woman either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he's single, I'd say it's his business. I'm not going to judge a person for paying for or selling sex. The thing to be mindful of is that it's a tough transaction to make and keep ethics intact regarding the woman being treated well, not coerced, not abused, not degraded.

This is my concern as well. On a purely theoretical level, I have no problem with sex work, people should be allowed to do with their bodies what they want. In reality, the sex worker industry is so filled with abuse and coercion, I'd question whether the person purchasing the services did any work to verify the sex worker was a fully willing participant.

[Anonymous]

If you asked me when I was in my 20s, I would say only a desperate and sad man would use a prostitute. Back then, I was young, single, attractive, outgoing, and had lots of dates, women, sex.

Then, I hit my 30s. Kids came. Wife lost her libido, completely. To those who have gone years without a willing sex partner or sexual outlet, you know the feeling. Had a brief affair, then another - both women fell in love, wanted me to leave my wife. Would never do it. So affairs were no longer an option. And then, I totally understood why men use prostitutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you asked me when I was in my 20s, I would say only a desperate and sad man would use a prostitute. Back then, I was young, single, attractive, outgoing, and had lots of dates, women, sex.

Then, I hit my 30s. Kids came. Wife lost her libido, completely. To those who have gone years without a willing sex partner or sexual outlet, you know the feeling. Had a brief affair, then another - both women fell in love, wanted me to leave my wife. Would never do it. So affairs were no longer an option. And then, I totally understood why men use prostitutes.

Are any of your children daughters? Because no one is saying prostitution is bad because of the sex part.