can I spurn girl who didnt invite dd to her bday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP, when your daughter grows up to be a mean girl bitch...look back on this moment. You taught it to her.

look in the mirror. you sound like the bitch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not be THAT Mom. Ever. Invite the girl (invite all of them!) and I guarantee the invitations will come rolling in for next year's parties. You have the power to set the tone for this relationship (which may be lifelong, for all you know). Instead of starting on the path of rivalry because your kid wasn't invited to another kid's party in Kindergarten, foster the friendship and be THAT kind of Mom.

Agree. This is so hard. I would be annoyed for my dd too. Thing is, if you invite that other girl, you'll clearly be making the right call. Besides, the lack of invite may have been an accident.
I would be the better person and invite the whole class. It will initially be a bitter pill to swallow, but you'll sleep better at night.

[Anonymous]

There are a million reasons your daughter didn't get invited. Maybe your email was typed in wrong and they think you never replied. It is only the beginning of the kids choosing actual friends instead of whole class parties. My son had invited kids to find out later he isn't invited to theirs. He has also received invitations and felt bad because he forgot to include someone he wished he did. He's older than K and buddies are in all different classes. Some parents I know, some I don't. Invite anyone your daughter wants and if you are unsure invite the whole class or at least all of the girls.

[Anonymous]

Please tell me you are 12.

[Anonymous]

All that should matter is whether your daughter wants to invite her because she likes her; and whether this fits into your party logistics.

There are plenty of reasons why your child was not invited, despite being friends with this girl. I like a lot of children in DD's class that I do NOT invite to her party! Some of these children invite DD to their party, and some do not, but I am sure nobody is keeping score like you are. Stop it already.

[Anonymous]

Please let this be a fake post.

I can't believe any adult would get so bent out of shape over a kindergartener's birthday party.

Nor can I believe any mother would want to model such nasty behavior for her 5.5 year old.

[Anonymous]

I disagree with letting the child dictate the guest list. At this age, she should not be allowed to exclude kids. A 5-year-old may not have the capacity for empathy and may choose not to invite because of trivial reasons (talks with a lisp, colors poorly, etc.) When kids are older and develop deeper friendships, they start having smaller parties where the closest friends are invited. Until then, the entire class, or at least the same gender children, should be invited.

[Anonymous]

If the parents are douches, then they'll probably decline the invitation. Err on the side of inviting. You can give her a crappy, broken piece of cake or a crappy goody bag. (Kidding!)

I love the PP's story about her daughter not wanting others to feel sad about not being invited. How sweet and empathetic!

[Anonymous]

You are acting like YOU are five.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree with letting the child dictate the guest list. At this age, she should not be allowed to exclude kids. A 5-year-old may not have the capacity for empathy and may choose not to invite because of trivial reasons (talks with a lisp, colors poorly, etc.) When kids are older and develop deeper friendships, they start having smaller parties where the closest friends are invited. Until then, the entire class, or at least the same gender children, should be invited.

+100

[Anonymous]

So you are a teen mom?

You sound like trash. Please don't invite this girl to your party. They had you all figured out from the get go.

[Anonymous]

You don't know if the invitation was lost in spam or possibly a mistake typing in your email address or lots of other things that could have happened. So please do invite this girl. My dd is 7, and we were making up her guest list. She wanted to invite every girl except one because the girl sat next to her and kept putting her foot on dd's desk. I told dd we were inviting every girl even the foot girl. So she came, they had a wonderful time. Afterwards I asked dd is she liked Larla now, and she said yes they were friends in school because their desks were switched and foot girl no longer sat next to dd.

[Anonymous]

Op: was your daughter the only one not invited?

[Anonymous]

Life is full of disappointment. You are childish and immature. I can't believe you are a parent. Act like one!!

[Anonymous]

Wow you are taking this way too personally. I am hosting 2 parties next month. Kids invited close friends only. Money is not an issue but space is. I would never not invite a kid because we were not invited. You seem super petty. Sounds like a long difficult road for your DD.

So glad I have boys. I dont think they have ever been upset about not being invited to a party. They get invited to close friends and some other larger parties. Some friends have family only parties or no parties at all. They dont keep tabs.