Road trip with boyfriend's family

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it too expensive to get a rental? Where are you going and why? Taking the sister out of the equation, I would be very uncomfortable dating someone who couldn't afford a rental for 5 days (we're talking $300-ish). What's the real story? Why don't you get along with the SIL?

BF and I only bring in like 100k combined and most of his income goes to his student loans.

What do you both do? Why did he take out a boatload of student loans to only make $59k? assuming the road trip is 300 miles each way (60 mph / 5 hours) and I'll throw in an additional 300 miles as a devils advocate to putter around your final destination, we're talking 3 tanks of (cheap) gas and less than a thousand miles. Where's your car and why do you think any of this is a good idea if you 2 are stretched to the bone and can't afford this? My fiancée and I are in your age bracket and would never be questioning this because it should not be a hardship when you're pushing 30.

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Her boyfriend is not being cheap. They can't afford it.

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$59k = $50k but my point still stands. Do not get seriously involved with this man.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me like a red flag about the relationship.

Oh
Yeah

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$59k = $50k but my point still stands. Do not get seriously involved with this man.

Typical dcum. Only a guys wallet matters.

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He's a boyfriend, not your husband. You have no obligation to make this trip. He can put a ring on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it too expensive to get a rental? Where are you going and why? Taking the sister out of the equation, I would be very uncomfortable dating someone who couldn't afford a rental for 5 days (we're talking $300-ish). What's the real story? Why don't you get along with the SIL?

BF and I only bring in like 100k combined and most of his income goes to his student loans.

What do you both do? Why did he take out a boatload of student loans to only make $59k? assuming the road trip is 300 miles each way (60 mph / 5 hours) and I'll throw in an additional 300 miles as a devils advocate to putter around your final destination, we're talking 3 tanks of (cheap) gas and less than a thousand miles. Where's your car and why do you think any of this is a good idea if you 2 are stretched to the bone and can't afford this? My fiancée and I are in your age bracket and would never be questioning this because it should not be a hardship when you're pushing 30.

How much do you two make?

A lot of people pushing 30 and beyond do not make six figures around here.

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Anonymous wrote:He's a boyfriend, not your husband. You have no obligation to make this trip. He can put a ring on it.

This. I was the PP that asked if he was helping put his family. Since he is doing this to save money and keep miles off his car, ether you find the money for the rental car and drive, don't go, or grin and bear it for the 5 hours there and back.

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100K combined with no kids and you can't afford a rental?

That said, I would travel together and have in the past. It seems dumb to me (and maybe him) to spend extra money for a few hours in the car, unless I need a car on the other end. I 100% would carpool if I didn't personally own a car, which I'm assuming you don't.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is it too expensive to get a rental? Where are you going and why? Taking the sister out of the equation, I would be very uncomfortable dating someone who couldn't afford a rental for 5 days (we're talking $300-ish). What's the real story? Why don't you get along with the SIL?

BF and I only bring in like 100k combined and most of his income goes to his student loans.

What do you both do? Why did he take out a boatload of student loans to only make $59k? assuming the road trip is 300 miles each way (60 mph / 5 hours) and I'll throw in an additional 300 miles as a devils advocate to putter around your final destination, we're talking 3 tanks of (cheap) gas and less than a thousand miles. Where's your car and why do you think any of this is a good idea if you 2 are stretched to the bone and can't afford this? My fiancée and I are in your age bracket and would never be questioning this because it should not be a hardship when you're pushing 30.

How much do you two make?

A lot of people pushing 30 and beyond do not make six figures around here.

$240k, we're both in consulting. I am 28 and husband is 30. Even still, this trip is MAYBE $100 when you factor in 3 tanks of gas and tolls (unless you're driving a Hummer or something...) it is not extravagent and should not be a financial hardship. If it is, you shouldn't be going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me and my BF are 28 years old. In the last week of March we need to go to on a 5 hour road trip to visit some family of his. Id like for us to get a rental car so we can be have our privacy. He wants us to drive with his mom dad and sister in the same car. I've done this before and it's been so awkward and uncomfortable. His sister and I don't really get along and I feel like I'm much too old to deal with this kind of car ride. BF insists that we ride with them since it'll be too expensive to get a rental. What does everyone think?

I think that, at 28 years old, you should not better than to say "Me and my boyfriend."

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If this guy is the One, remember you marry him and his family too. Make friends with them.

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I don't blame you OP.

I am refusing to drive 12 hours round trip to a wedding with BIL and his GF this spring. Lots more to say about it, but don't want to give away to many details.

She's awful. I would lose my shit stuck in a car with her (probably in the back seat together as the guys are tall) for that long. She's 12 years younger than me and 10 years younger than BIL. I am 39.

MIL is in a tizzy about it but I don't give a rats ass.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds to me like a red flag about the relationship.

Hate to say this, but I concur.

Is this something that you really cannot tolerate for five hours??! Because if you eventually marry this guy, you will also be marrying into his family.

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I am going to come out of left field with something.

Is it possible the b/f is saving for a ring and this would cut into that savings?

The comment about typical DCUM, yeah, that doesn't surprise me but there are too many people on here that lie about their job and income (no chance so many people can work from home daily, there are not that many "consultants" in this area as an example).

I get the b/f's argument about not putting on miles on the car, every little bit helps, and it is possible his car is leased which has a yearly mileage limit.

At least the girl is staying with him despite his income. Relationships SHOULD NOT BE BASED based on money.