Road trip with boyfriend's family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to come out of left field with something.

Is it possible the b/f is saving for a ring and this would cut into that savings?

The comment about typical DCUM, yeah, that doesn't surprise me but there are too many people on here that lie about their job and income (no chance so many people can work from home daily, there are not that many "consultants" in this area as an example).

I get the b/f's argument about not putting on miles on the car, every little bit helps, and it is possible his car is leased which has a yearly mileage limit.

At least the girl is staying with him despite his income. Relationships SHOULD NOT BE BASED based on money.

OP here. We do have extra income to spend on a rental. But we are saving for the wedding and he for the ring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to come out of left field with something.

Is it possible the b/f is saving for a ring and this would cut into that savings?

The comment about typical DCUM, yeah, that doesn't surprise me but there are too many people on here that lie about their job and income (no chance so many people can work from home daily, there are not that many "consultants" in this area as an example).

I get the b/f's argument about not putting on miles on the car, every little bit helps, and it is possible his car is leased which has a yearly mileage limit.

At least the girl is staying with him despite his income. Relationships SHOULD NOT BE BASED based on money.

OP here. We do have extra income to spend on a rental. But we are saving for the wedding and the for the ring.

So, I was on to something.....but you countered it by saying the money is there. What kind of car is he worried about racking up miles on?

How long have y'all been together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to come out of left field with something.

Is it possible the b/f is saving for a ring and this would cut into that savings?

The comment about typical DCUM, yeah, that doesn't surprise me but there are too many people on here that lie about their job and income (no chance so many people can work from home daily, there are not that many "consultants" in this area as an example).

I get the b/f's argument about not putting on miles on the car, every little bit helps, and it is possible his car is leased which has a yearly mileage limit.

At least the girl is staying with him despite his income. Relationships SHOULD NOT BE BASED based on money.

OP here. We do have extra income to spend on a rental. But we are saving for the wedding and the for the ring.

So, I was on to something.....but you countered it by saying the money is there. What kind of car is he worried about racking up miles on?

How long have y'all been together?

Well we only make about a 100k combined so it's not a lot of money but plenty enough to get a rental if needed. We've been trying to buckle out belts this past year so we can save as much as we can for the wedding. We've been together for 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Nope. He wants to ride with them so that he can save some $$ and keep miles off his car.

Why wouldn't it be a question of going with them or going in his car? His car should be way cheaper than a rental, right?

OP, I get that you'd like to have more space and privacy. But, like the others, I'd recommend thinking a lot more about his family before you think much more about rings and weddings. If you marry him, you are marrying his family, too. He obviously doesn't mind spending time with them, but you do mind. I foresee many, many conflicts for the two of you if you get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nope. He wants to ride with them so that he can save some $$ and keep miles off his car.

Why wouldn't it be a question of going with them or going in his car? His car should be way cheaper than a rental, right?

OP, I get that you'd like to have more space and privacy. But, like the others, I'd recommend thinking a lot more about his family before you think much more about rings and weddings. If you marry him, you are marrying his family, too. He obviously doesn't mind spending time with them, but you do mind. I foresee many, many conflicts for the two of you if you get married.

Tbh I'm not a huge fan of his family. They don't do anything to me but we have nothing in common and his sister is 5 year younger than me but has an attitude problem and I don't think she likes me very much. Hanging around them for too long drives me craY.

[Anonymous]

Would you be in a sedan? All three of you in the backseat for five hours? I just wouldn't do it. You can rent an Economy level car pretty cheaply.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it's cheap and crazy that he wants to "keep miles off his car."

I wouldn't fight about it though, I just wouldn't go if there was no reasoning with him about this.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound too immature to get married.

[Anonymous]

Is this a 5 seater car or a 7 seater van? I would NOT be squished in the backseat for hours in a 5 seater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Tbh I'm not a huge fan of his family. They don't do anything to me but we have nothing in common and his sister is 5 year younger than me but has an attitude problem and I don't think she likes me very much. Hanging around them for too long drives me craY.

Don't marry him. Marriage=hanging around with spouse's family for a long, long time.