Awkward situation with getting back a lent jacket

[Anonymous]

PLease keep us updated OP
I also would just show up when you see their car in the driveway. I would not want to be friends either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had a party Friday night. Half the people were friends we know well and half were new friends we'd like to know better (sort of to determine if we want to maintain/pursue the friendships). One couple got drunk. DH offered to drive them home so they wouldn't drive (Uber had surge pricing and they don't live far). The wife said she was cold and asked to borrow a jacket. I wanted to say no - she was sloppily drunk, not someone I know well) but couldn't think of how to do that without being an ass, so gave her one.

I need it back. DH drove them home, walked them to their door, unlocked it, got them in, and then asked her for my jacket back. She wouldn't give it, her husband was trying to drunkenly pull her up the stairs, and DH let it go in the moment.

Yesterday afternoon I texted her saying we're so glad they came, blah blah blah, and hey she has my jacket - what time is good for us to swing by real quick and pick it up? She texted back "but I look so cute in it!" I texted back "Does 4-6 work for you?" She hasn't responded.

DH and I don't want to be friends with them. We're not friends with people who get so drunk that way, and they're kind of loud and obnoxious even before getting drunk. And now the way she's being about the jacket. If I lent a friend a jacket, they'd all return it within a day or two, and they'd be reaching out to me rather than the other way around.

I want that damn jacket back. How? Do we just show up? She may not keep it.

This is just bizarre. What an odd, odd thing to say/text. Please update us on what happens!

[Anonymous]

Do this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tk3DjXKdVcY

[Anonymous]

I'm wondering about their car too. How did you meet this couple, do you have mutual friends that you could feel out about how to proceed? Although my gut says just show up on their doorstep and get it back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send a message asking them to leave it on the door (or whatever) between 430 and 5 pm (or whenever) and that I would be coming by to get it then.
That way you don't hav to interact with them and they don't have to be home.
Eliminates the drama

I'd think there's a 99% chance that people like this would not leave the jacket on the door at the specified time.

[Anonymous]

You should text back 'lol! doesn't that jacket has magic slimming powers! Listen, I am going to take little tommy to his swing dancing class tomorrow at really early in the AM. Can you leave my jacket out do I can do porch-pickup. Hate to wake you up that early in the Am. Lol!'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send a message asking them to leave it on the door (or whatever) between 430 and 5 pm (or whenever) and that I would be coming by to get it then.
That way you don't hav to interact with them and they don't have to be home.
Eliminates the drama

Omg. No. Because then she will claim she did what you asked and it wasn't HER fault it wasn't there when you showed up.

[Anonymous]

Just show up and ask for it back. Don't tell her ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are horrible people.

And men are horrible trolls.

[Anonymous]

Go get your jacket. If she doesn't give it back drive over to the local police station and report it stolen.
She'll be turning it over real quick when an officer shows up to her door.

[Anonymous]

shame her into it. post pics of her drunk on your FB. Tell all your friends from the party what she did.

[Anonymous]

Just say " I know, I do too" ( to her response of how cute she looks) and tell her you need it and will be there at X time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would send a message asking them to leave it on the door (or whatever) between 430 and 5 pm (or whenever) and that I would be coming by to get it then.
That way you don't hav to interact with them and they don't have to be home.
Eliminates the drama

Omg. No. Because then she will claim she did what you asked and it wasn't HER fault it wasn't there when you showed up.

But if OP keeps texting and showing up they will claim to not be home, didn't hear the doorbell, etc

I really think that a GOFUNDMe for this jacket is appropriate. It fits all the typical requirements: something unexpected, not your fault, and causing you stress. You shouldn't have to use your own money to right this wrong. Make a page!

[Anonymous]

Can you rent a clown suit and pretend to be a singing telegram? That way they will open the door and bam, you can ask for your jacket back

Roses are red
Haters are green
I look better in that jacket
Can I have some money for dry clean?

[Anonymous]

Wait! I've got it.
Tell her you have a Christmas jacket that will look even better, and you'll throw in your Thanksgiving scarf and some Ash Wednesday earrings for the Lent jacket.