Childcare during monitoring appts.
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Anonymous
Based on her prior posts, the OP of this post is likely to forego attempts to have a second child based on this concern. If you had to really say, don't have another kid because it makes me uncomfortable even though you're trying everything to prevent making me uncomfortable, would you? I was incredibly bitter for a LONG time when IVF didn't work for me, but I ultimately learned that I had to be accountable for my own reactions to things. The world is unfair, IF is unfair, and there is enough suck to go around, but being bitter about the fact that a child was in the waiting room or being snuck in the back, that my coworkers loved their children, or that I had access to incredible medical care instead of being deemed "barren" and hopeless doesn't help anyone. |
Anonymous
| There are plenty of babysitters in the world that come watch kids for an hour or so after parents leave for work before the bus comes for school - this is a very solvable problem that thousands of people in this area figure out for reasons other than IF, there is no reason this family can't also find a solution |
Anonymous
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Brought my older toddler strapped in stroller to monitoring!
Tablet for entertainment . Lots of people brought toddlers. |
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Anonymous
Probably not at SG then. I think the no kids thing is a good policy, but I'm not going to freak out if someone has an emergency and needs to bring their kid once. If someone were breaking the policy constantly, I'd be annoyed. |
Anonymous
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Please don't bring your kids - from someone sitting there at my most reflective time on what's missing in my life, please for the love of god give me that moment of peace in my day. I know and respect that you have your own challenges. I know life doesn't stop. I just ask that for all the women sitting there trying to swallow their bitterness that they're going through another f-ing cycle, that they don't have any children yet have to be sympathetic to their co-workers kid isn't sleeping through the night yet, that they're getting up early to drive out of their way to have blood draws and the US shoved up their vagina before putting on their game face for work....give them that moment of help like SG asks you to. I think this is equally selfish. I feel terrible I've have to bring my kid twice. I feel really bad. I struggle to you know. I do everything I can. sometimes, it just can't be helped. Everyone has struggles. Give us a break. My first kid was via IFV and working on #2 now. He also has special needs to I can't leave him with anyone one. The two times I brought him were because they wanted my husband as well. You have no idea what people are going through. No one is trying to upset you - just trying to get through the day. |
Anonymous
| ^But you're trying not to bring the kid if you can help it, and you feel bad if you do. I think you basically agree with the PP and I don't think it's selfish of her to want other patients to be mindful of others (especially if the clinic has a no kids policy). |
Anonymous
Respectfully, as a parent who works an inflexible job, childcare has consistently been the most difficult problem for me to solve. There seen not thousands of people looking for very part time positions early in the a.m.. |
Anonymous
+1 - Child care has been the hardest part of parenting after a multi-year, multi-IVF journey to get here. It was also the hardest part of trying for #2. Please don't discount it - no one WANTS to be the person with a kid in the waiting room or at the appointment (and thankfully I never was), but there is a reason why some clinics accommodate it. It is up to patients to rise above and have empathy on BOTH sides. |
Anonymous
I think the problem is who is watching your child while you are on the chair with the ultrasound up you know where. This is the more practical issue. Do you bring DC into the room? Or a nurse or a receptionist are supposed to watch your child? Many clinics will allow you to bring a child with you, but they will explicitly say that no child can be left without adult supervision at any time. |
Anonymous
I don't think anyone is asking a nurse or receptionist to watch the kid - just bring the child back to the room in the stroller or, if older, have them sit by themselves with a distraction (toy, book, phone). And SG will let the kid come in the back entrance at least some offices, so it isn't even an intrusion. Obviously, this is only if nothing else can be done, but OP's situation sounds pretty unique. My DH, and probably most DHs, could watch the kid for an hour before the work day starts or you do day care drop off and then monitoring, etc. |
Anonymous
NP here, and I did the same thing. We had tried infertility treatments for a couple of years, gave up and adopted a child with SN from China but still had some frozen embryos left (at GW). Went back to give the embryos a shot with one FET cycle b/c I felt crappy leaving them behind with no chance at all. So how we did it was: DH had already left for work in the mornings. I took DD in the stroller and gave her quiet activities to do (stickers, I think?). She was in pre-K at the time, so I guess about 4-5. She waited in line with me in the stroller for the blood draw and then sat in the stroller beside me when I had the blood drawn.. When I had to go back behind the curtain for the US, she sat in the curtained area in the stroller until I came out after the US. (In the end, this FET was unsuccessful, and we ended up adoption a second DD from China, also with SN.) After we left GW, we hightailed it back to Virginia (we live in Herndon, and I work in Tysons) where I would drop her off at daycare next to my work and then I'd go to work. |
Anonymous
| My son came to a number of appointments with me. It wasn't ideal, but it happens. We've seen other kids . I think the key is to do whatever it takes to keep your child calm and happy and engaged with something. I've only seen one screaming crying child and it was insanely annoying...he was strapped in his stroller while his mother had blood drawn and siblings sat in the waiting room. |
Anonymous
+1 Sittercity, care.com, urbansitter, a neighborhood listserve to grab a nanny for an hour before her job starts, etc. My husband travels mon-fri & it's so doable w/ just a bit of looking |
Anonymous
| I don't care if people have no choice but to bring their kid to monitoring. But, I was at monitoring this morning and one of the people who work here on the monitoring flow brought their toddler. Although we don't see him he is quite loud and can be heard. If the clinic should is going to make these rules they should enforce them for their staff. Ridiculous. |