In Laws coming soon and I'm

[Anonymous]

Things don't have to be "perfect" or "ideal" in order to be good. Do the best to enjoy yourself and their company.

[Anonymous]

Get that Klonopin girl. I have my psych double my dose from November to January.

I don't tell him about the glass or two of wine I have with it. I've been doing this long enough that I'm no lightweight and know the limits between letting the family drive me nuts and a nice relaxed buzz that smoothes everything over. Laa diii daaa!

[Anonymous]

OP I'm sending you positive vibes! It's horrible to have to deal with people like this, I know because I have to deal with them. Just positive energy, no answers, cause I'm yet to find them.

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They insist on staying with us

At least have the balls to say I'm too much of a weeny to insist otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:
Given your description of them, I don't understand why you're allowing them to stay.
My parents are staying in a hotel for Christmas - their choice, heartily applauded by everybody. They will spend nearly all day with us and shower us with their comments as well, but at least we'll have some free time!

Believe me it's not me its dh. We've fought about this and I've finally given up. They stay and I suffer and I'm tired of suffering. I like the bingo idea but I don't know if I can sustain it especially since I'm alone in this. We cannot do a thing without them and so i want to cancel all my usual holiday activities. It's just no fun with them - we've tried. Last year we had tickets to a Kennedy center show that we bought in advance and then in laws decided to come visit. We tried to get two extra tickets but it was sold out. mil made a federal case out of it and brings it up here and there still. Last year I was so glad to have one holiday event out with my dh and kids and she still managed to ruin it. Oh I have to get out of this negative thinking.

[Anonymous]

Just clicked to say, screw your stupid click bait title.

Grow up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Given your description of them, I don't understand why you're allowing them to stay.
My parents are staying in a hotel for Christmas - their choice, heartily applauded by everybody. They will spend nearly all day with us and shower us with their comments as well, but at least we'll have some free time!

Believe me it's not me its dh. We've fought about this and I've finally given up. They stay and I suffer and I'm tired of suffering. I like the bingo idea but I don't know if I can sustain it especially since I'm alone in this. We cannot do a thing without them and so i want to cancel all my usual holiday activities. It's just no fun with them - we've tried. Last year we had tickets to a Kennedy center show that we bought in advance and then in laws decided to come visit. We tried to get two extra tickets but it was sold out. mil made a federal case out of it and brings it up here and there still. Last year I was so glad to have one holiday event out with my dh and kids and she still managed to ruin it. Oh I have to get out of this negative thinking.

I'm the one who suggested Bingo. Honestly, you've got to straighten your spine on this issue. Be a good hostess, and let any complaints they have roll off your back. Stop letting their comments affect you this much. If she brings up the Kennedy show again, say "Doris, I've told you at least four times we didn't know you were coming, but tried to get you last minute tickets and they were sold out. I'm sorry you didn't get to see the show, but I'm moving on from this. I won't keep apologizing or listening to you complain about the same thing over and over." And then just walk away. I find that when someone has convinced themselves I'm a bitch, it gives me the freedom to stop bending over backwards to make them agree I'm a kind, good person. I just treat them as nicely as I treat anyone else, and go no farther.

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Anonymous wrote:Just clicked to say, screw your stupid click bait title.

Grow up

Agreed. The in-laws never warmed to you, OP, because you do annoying things like this for attention.

[Anonymous]

OP, ignore the haters! I feel for you and send you good karma.

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If your DH insists they stay with you, then you need to have him doing 80% of the work. And he needs to GO TO BATTLE for you to get some time ALONE.

Your MIL sounds like a pill. She is most likely an expert at not being ignored. You need to IGNORE HER. For real. If she brings up the Kennedy Center thing, don't even acknowledge it. Practice one word or short responses. "Huh" or "interesting" or "yes you said" or "hmmm" or just a blank stare.

Your DH needs to clean the living room and kitchen twice a day while they stay there. You can agree to take care of the kids and your stuff, but he must do ALL the heavy lifting for his own parents.

Honestly, if he backs you up so little, I'd take this to a couple's therapist to work it out before next year.

And yes, for this year, get some Xanax.