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Given your description of them, I don't understand why you're allowing them to stay.
My parents are staying in a hotel for Christmas - their choice, heartily applauded by everybody. They will spend nearly all day with us and shower us with their comments as well, but at least we'll have some free time![/quote]

Believe me it's not me its dh. We've fought about this and I've finally given up. They stay and I suffer and I'm tired of suffering. I like the bingo idea but I don't know if I can sustain it especially since I'm alone in this. We cannot do a thing without them and so i want to cancel all my usual holiday activities. It's just no fun with them - we've tried. Last year we had tickets to a Kennedy center show that we bought in advance and then in laws decided to come visit. We tried to get two extra tickets but it was sold out. mil made a federal case out of it and brings it up here and there still. Last year I was so glad to have one holiday event out with my dh and kids and she still managed to ruin it. Oh I have to get out of this negative thinking. [/quote]

I'm the one who suggested Bingo. Honestly, you've got to straighten your spine on this issue. Be a good hostess, and let any complaints they have roll off your back. Stop letting their comments affect you this much. If she brings up the Kennedy show again, say "Doris, I've told you at least four times we didn't know you were coming, but tried to get you last minute tickets and they were sold out. I'm sorry you didn't get to see the show, but I'm moving on from this. I won't keep apologizing or listening to you complain about the same thing over and over." And then just walk away. I find that when someone has convinced themselves I'm a bitch, it gives me the freedom to stop bending over backwards to make them agree I'm a kind, good person. I just treat them as nicely as I treat anyone else, and go no farther. [/quote]

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