Saw friend's husband out with another woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's doesn't sound like a good friend , you have seen her in 4 months. Since she is only an acquaintance you need to stop being a busy body.

+1. MYOB. Unless it family or a best friend, it is none of your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

[Anonymous]

Lol! My DH was out with a friend of ours and I got "alerted" to this. I've actually been alerted a number of time by people who for some reason or another feel driven to insert themselves in other people's marriages. I'm in an open marriage. For those not in the know, this is so common you'd get arthritis from all thr pearl clutching you'd have to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

OP here. I don't plan on saying anything. Maybe it was his sister, cousin, old friend from college....

My old college's roommate was fucking my other friend's roommate. My friend told me that my friend's bf was over her apt. I told my roommate and the bf went crazy on me. Instead of breaking up with him, she said that it would be best if we stopped being friends. The douche continued fucking my other friend's roommate among other girls. My old roommate and I eventually made up but our friendship has never been the same.

[Anonymous]

How is it shit stirring to mention you saw someone's spouse at a restaurant?

My mom was doubly devastated to learn of my stepdad's affair because after it came out, people mentioned they'd seen stepdad out with the other woman several times.

I would want to know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

OP here. I don't plan on saying anything. Maybe it was his sister, cousin, old friend from college....

My old college's roommate was fucking my other friend's roommate. My friend told me that my friend's bf was over her apt. I told my roommate and the bf went crazy on me. Instead of breaking up with him, she said that it would be best if we stopped being friends. The douche continued fucking my other friend's roommate among other girls. My old roommate and I eventually made up but our friendship has never been the same.

Yes, and imagine a reaction 10x more strident from someone who is married. If my husband is messing around, that's MY business, and my thing to find out, and my issue to handle. I don't care how much of an asshole he's being, I would never give someone the satisfaction of feeling like they just "helped" me realize my husband is cheating. What I did behind closed doors afterward to and with him would remain my business and I would never speak to the informant again, about that issue, or any other. People's marriages are nobody else's business, full stop.

[Anonymous]

Wait, so you were tempted to notify her just because you saw her husband at a restaurant with another man. I go out with other men very frequently. They are friends. It would be super-weird if you notified my husband. Also, I know many people in open relationships. This is absolutely none of your business.

Moreover, to the terrible women who gets pleasure in breaking up families, you are just awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These people are not your friends, they are people you know through your kids. And it seems like all your social activities are through the kids (saw them at a playmate, at a birthday party). Totally not your business.

OP here. How do you know who our friends are? We moved to the area after we had kids. All of our friends are people with kids. We hang out with this group of people often. This particular family often travel internationally during the summer. We also traveled a lot during the summer. Their child and my child were born in the same month and we have hung out regularly since we met them 3 years ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

OP here. I don't plan on saying anything. Maybe it was his sister, cousin, old friend from college....

My old college's roommate was fucking my other friend's roommate. My friend told me that my friend's bf was over her apt. I told my roommate and the bf went crazy on me. Instead of breaking up with him, she said that it would be best if we stopped being friends. The douche continued fucking my other friend's roommate among other girls. My old roommate and I eventually made up but our friendship has never been the same.

Yes, and imagine a reaction 10x more strident from someone who is married. If my husband is messing around, that's MY business, and my thing to find out, and my issue to handle. I don't care how much of an asshole he's being, I would never give someone the satisfaction of feeling like they just "helped" me realize my husband is cheating. What I did behind closed doors afterward to and with him would remain my business and I would never speak to the informant again, about that issue, or any other. People's marriages are nobody else's business, full stop.

Defensive much? I personally would want someone to tell me. I wouldn't care who.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

And many would do the same just because an outsider is making a comment on their marriage.

OP, if this were a god friend, sure. It would come up, maybe. But reporting to someone you barely know on something you think you saw (a date vs. a meal)? That's no good. How could it possibly make her feel better? Girl Scout rules, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has happened to me multiple times.

What I do, is the next time I see the wife (and sometime in front of the husband) I say.

"Oh, I saw George at Hunan Palace in Fairfax, I love that place do you guys go there often?"

Then I let them deal with it.

Twice it was an affair. One divorced the other didn't.

If I hear about an affair I don't say anything, If you are stupid enough for me to see it... I say something.

Nice shit stirring.

If you don't want your shit stirred... don't shit in my presence.

Also... stop passing STDs to everybody.

Um, first of all, you're crazy.
Second of all, you don't own the metro DC area, so what someone does in a public restaurant on their own time is seriously none of your business. If you came up to me and told me you'd seen my husband at Szechuan Palace as if you were divulging some very catastrophic information, I would say "Yes, he took a colleague who was in town for work and staying out that way there for dinner" and then stare your nosy ass down daring you to say more.

Really... I say to friends all the time... hey I saw Joe and the boys at the Nats game, what a beautiful night (and now you are staring me down wondering why I stalk your family... you are psycho!)... why is it weird for me to say... I saw Joe at Szechuan Palace, love that place... that is nosy? No its just a statement of fact.

Do you have friends? You never say... hey saw you at Wolf Trap, did you have fun... we were in a hurry and could not stop to chat.

You are crazy if you don't have these normal conversations with your friends. I am not outing anybody I am just making conversation.

If you are guilty of something own it ... stop blaming others.

[Anonymous]

I've told a friend when I saw another woman coming in and out of her house while she was OOT. I deeply regretted it because it involved me in their messy messy divorce. I would never tell again.

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is the sort of thing that you would contact a person out of the blue to discuss. If you were seeing this friend every now and then anyway, yeah, mention it "Did Bob tell you that we ran into each other at lunch the other day?".

I would not call her up and say "I just thought you should know that I saw Bob eating lunch with another woman just outside of town".