Bad behavior in K

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. The problem I am having is getting accurate info from my child. It's hard to get him to tell me what kids did it.

Definitely follow up with teachers and admin, daily if needed, until resolved. If the kids are OOB they could be sent to their IB for this sort of behavior, IIUC. If IB, then it's different, but the school could do more to address this.

Why don't you just come right out and say what you mean: those children from OOB should not be there in the first place.

+1

[Anonymous]

What's a JKLM school?

[Anonymous]

I really don't believe this is happening in a JKLM school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here-- I do think that at 5, kids should have sufficient self control not to engage in these types of behaviors. I've lived through the preschool years of 2-3 year olds who bite, spit, push etc because they don't have the words to express frustration, working on self control etc. Plus, those were generally "arguments" over toys, balls, whatever. By 4, there was much less of that behavior at my child's preschool.

I was surprised to see this happen in K very early on. And, in my child's telling, they were unprovoked. So it's not like they were having a disagreement over some issue.

Do you realized that many K students are still 4 years old when they are entering K and turning 5 once the school year starts. So they are indeed still rough around the edges, even if they had PK3 and PK4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. The problem I am having is getting accurate info from my child. It's hard to get him to tell me what kids did it.

Definitely follow up with teachers and admin, daily if needed, until resolved. If the kids are OOB they could be sent to their IB for this sort of behavior, IIUC. If IB, then it's different, but the school could do more to address this.

Why don't you just come right out and say what you mean: those children from OOB should not be there in the first place.

+1

To clarify, (OP here), I did not say these kids were OOB. I have no clue where they live but (not that I should take the bait), I have no basis for thinking they do not live IB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. The problem I am having is getting accurate info from my child. It's hard to get him to tell me what kids did it.

Definitely follow up with teachers and admin, daily if needed, until resolved. If the kids are OOB they could be sent to their IB for this sort of behavior, IIUC. If IB, then it's different, but the school could do more to address this.

OMG. You did NOT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. The problem I am having is getting accurate info from my child. It's hard to get him to tell me what kids did it.

Definitely follow up with teachers and admin, daily if needed, until resolved. If the kids are OOB they could be sent to their IB for this sort of behavior, IIUC. If IB, then it's different, but the school could do more to address this.

Not true at all. You can't send kids packing because they are mean. You can send them out if they have attendance issues ect.
I'm sorry that your kid is in a rough class. Truly.
And welcome to a slice of the DCPS that exists outside of the NW bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really don't believe this is happening in a JKLM school.

I do. Those kids are worst than the OOB students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: If this is happening routinely, it's called bullying, and needs to cease. Stop rationalizing it and go out there and protect your child. Contact the teacher again, move up the food chain as necessary, and if all else fails, retain legal counsel and/or contact law enforcement.

Haha. This forum never ceases to validate my decision to leave the teaching profession, mostly due to insane parents.

[Anonymous]

a lot of kindergarteners - particularly boys -- really do act out early in the year - even if they went to preschool/pre-K - adjusting to a different environment. The teachers and aides are working to establish the boundaries of acceptable behavior and their systems for behavior and consequences. I'd suggest keeping in touch with the teacher daily at this point - while I know no one wants to be 'that' parent - it sounds like it's enough that you want to keep an eye on it. and if it persists go in for a mtg or just go in to observe the class (ask to go in to read a book or whatever). I asked our k-teacher about something my kindergartener said at home that sounded unusual and I got the context for it so it made sense. DS in kindergarten at a JKLM & at this age it's hard to tell when the boys say 'i'm gonna punch you in the face' if it's like 'hey buddy, let's play' or if it's menacing. Nine of out 10 times, it's the former. But we do still try to teach our son that we don't talk that way to our friends & just say 'let's play'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really don't believe this is happening in a JKLM school.

I do. Those kids are worst than the OOB students.

+1

[Anonymous]

My blonde, blue-eyed dead ringer for Shirley temple child is past these k years. But I have to say now, looking back, she was a nightmare. She had no impulse control, bad social skills, a tendency to freak out about nothing, and... once or twice, she threw things. Like chairs.

Fortunately, our school handled it. But I often think if she'd been black and/or we had been poor, things would be different now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks. The problem I am having is getting accurate info from my child. It's hard to get him to tell me what kids did it.

If you can at all get to the school during the school day (don't know your work or schedule obligations) and peek in or observe recess, sometimes that will give you a lot more info about the dynamics (both between the kids, but also how the adults are handling it). You may not see the same kids bothering your kid, but you may either see it's not that bad, or see behaviors that are concerning and observe what the adults do or don't do about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My blonde, blue-eyed dead ringer for Shirley temple child is past these k years. But I have to say now, looking back, she was a nightmare. She had no impulse control, bad social skills, a tendency to freak out about nothing, and... once or twice, she threw things. Like chairs.

Fortunately, our school handled it. But I often think if she'd been black and/or we had been poor, things would be different now.

Sadly, you are totally right. Things would probably be VERY different now, and definitely not better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here-- I do think that at 5, kids should have sufficient self control not to engage in these types of behaviors. I've lived through the preschool years of 2-3 year olds who bite, spit, push etc because they don't have the words to express frustration, working on self control etc. Plus, those were generally "arguments" over toys, balls, whatever. By 4, there was much less of that behavior at my child's preschool.

I was surprised to see this happen in K very early on. And, in my child's telling, they were unprovoked. So it's not like they were having a disagreement over some issue.

Do you realized that many K students are still 4 years old when they are entering K and turning 5 once the school year starts. So they are indeed still rough around the edges, even if they had PK3 and PK4.

Rough around the edges? Nice excuse lady. How about we say "boys will be boys".? Insert sarcasm.

My kids are raised properly and deserve to be in a safe learning environment.