Sibling won't pay for expenses - and keeps inheritances

[Anonymous]

If there's an issue of undue influence then you'll have to get lawyers involved and sue the executor/trustee ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the OP, you are not in a position of power. I would not give the estate any funds to bury the relative. Let the estate cover the costs.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP, you are not in a position of power. I would not give the estate any funds to bury the relative. Let the estate cover the costs.

+1

YES, this! OP here. sibling claims the estate has "nothing", and thinks nothing of donating the jewelry, as long as me and my children get nothing (sibling has no children). Is there a way I can prove an estate, held in trust (again, NO WILL) - has assets? Such as jewelry, etc. (that sibling claims was sold - I know for a fact it was not).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More info needed.

Who is dying?
How is inheritance being split?
Who is executor?

Sibling is executor and other designated titles - resulting in everything going to sibling. Sibling tends to accompany dying person to attorney on the sly. No wills in family - just trusts are set up, so nothing is public. I have leverage because sibling wants extra money from me (for funeral expenses, sibling wants every penny of deceased's money for sibling's self); and thinks I do not know about (sibling's) very calculated arrangement. I am looking to use my leverage in light of what sibling has pulled.

Looking for opinions on how, from those who have been through situations with underhanded siblings. I am actually not soliciting opinions on the actual situation, as it exists.

I have been through similar but I'm trying to understand.
You sibling is executor? So yes there must be a will or a trust. You say there is a trust. So, you sibling gets all the trust money?
You don't have a leg to stand on.

Thank you, OP here. I am wondering if sibling has a leg to stand on, frankly. If not, it is fine - I just don't care to be donating to sibling's imaginary cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If there's an issue of undue influence then you'll have to get lawyers involved and sue the executor/trustee ...

OP here. Considering this. If only to let sibling know I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add: sibling has left a documented trail of lies and witnesses, so I have all of the evidence I need. For example: claims jewelry was "sold" when it was not; and claims expenses covered by insurance that I put in place.

I am just using my position, given the circumstances. I am not here to explain myself, I am here for opinions from people who have been through this. Thanks.

I think you are lying. How can we offer opinions when you won't explain the situation.
I think you are the problem in the dynamic.

Signed, Thieving Sibling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your writing is horrible, confusing and makes no sense. Try starting over and making it plain. A bunch of 'sibling is sly', sibling makes himself executor' makes no damn sense.

+1. Stop trying to hide genders and be more specific.

"My sister has taken items form the last two relative deaths."
"Another family member is about to die and he is leaving everything to my sister."
"I don't want to pay towards the funeral if there is money from the estate to cover it."
"I would like mementos from my uncle who passed away, but am not sure how to ask for them effectively."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add: sibling has left a documented trail of lies and witnesses, so I have all of the evidence I need. For example: claims jewelry was "sold" when it was not; and claims expenses covered by insurance that I put in place.

I am just using my position, given the circumstances. I am not here to explain myself, I am here for opinions from people who have been through this. Thanks.

I think you are lying. How can we offer opinions when you won't explain the situation.
I think you are the problem in the dynamic.

Signed, Thieving Sibling

Nonsense, OP seems obsessed with money.

[Anonymous]

Is it possible since other sibling has all that free time they are spending it with said relative and thus are closer to them than you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add: sibling has left a documented trail of lies and witnesses, so I have all of the evidence I need. For example: claims jewelry was "sold" when it was not; and claims expenses covered by insurance that I put in place.

I am just using my position, given the circumstances. I am not here to explain myself, I am here for opinions from people who have been through this. Thanks.

I think you are lying. How can we offer opinions when you won't explain the situation.
I think you are the problem in the dynamic.

Signed, Thieving Sibling

Nonsense, OP seems obsessed with money.

Nonsense. Sibling sounds obsessed with money. Would you like names, addresses and social security numbers of those involved, PP? Would that make you happy? PP, you are indeed ridiculous!

[Anonymous]

"I'm sorry, sibling, but I won't be helping financially with the funeral for relative."

Is there more than this needed? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I'm sorry, sibling, but I won't be helping financially with the funeral for relative."

Is there more than this needed? I don't get it.

This. We could go back and forth all day on what the exact situation is, which poster think the OP is being 100% accurate, but it really comes down to this.

OP, you aren't listed in the will, and you aren't executor.
Con: it will be almost impossible for you to get anything from the estate of the deceased person, fund, mementos, jewelry, etc.
Pro: you have zero legal obligation to pay for anything.

Just mentally prepare yourself now.
Assume sibling will ask for $$, you one and only response is what PP posted above.
Done.