I am never satisfied

[Anonymous]

Check out the book "The Desire Map' by Danielle Laporte

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I feel the same way, once I achieve a goal, I start to get restless.

I like to always be striving to achieve something. It is the fuel that gets me going every day and gives me something to focus on. I like to imagine my future as the "unknown."

I say, you need to set some new and different goals for yourself. They do not have to be major such as having a nice house (which you do!).

How about bucket list stuff? Perhaps you always wanted to zip line? Or learn to speak a different language? Perhaps even learn to drive a stick shift.

The list can be endless which is a great thing because it shows that you will always be striving for something in life.

Perhaps that is what you feel is lacking right now.

[Anonymous]

No real advice for you OP because it is something that you need to resolve.

I feel sorry for you ...... not in a patronizing way but it is really sad that a person who has most things that people strive for cannot be content.

[Anonymous]

OP. I definitely get you. You aimed high, you reached it and now you are bored, complacent.

You like challenges and everything is too easy now.

Fuck sewing and running harder and other hobbies. These outlets won't suffice. You need to stick your neck out there, outside of your current comfort zone and build something completely new.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Are you feeling emptiness? If so, then I really think therapy is the way to go. Perhaps you have been goal oriented to try and bury your memories of what you endured as a child.
Wishing you well op and hope you will consider therapy.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like an early mid life crisis. Want what you have. It's not about the goal it's the journey. You're not satisfied because you keep wanting more. Stop desiring anything but the present moment. It sounds like you get caught up in being busy but are not just allowing yourself to be.

[Anonymous]

Volunteer. Get outside of yourself. Deep down you know there should be more to life but you don't know where to look.

[Anonymous]

Also enjoy it now. It can be gone in an instant. I hope not of course but it could happen.

[Anonymous]

If you've accomplished the goals you've set for yourself, you need some new goals. Train for the Ironman! Learn Chinese! Learn to sail, found a PAC, get involved with a charity and work your way onto the board so you can effect greater change. There are so many things to do in life, and limitless ways to challenge yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I'm really not trying to sound like a jerk. This is a sincere request for help. I appreciate the responses, particularly on therapy and meditation. These are good ideas and things I think I could benefit from. I don't think of myself as avoiding something else or being manic but maybe I am. I was sexually abused as a child by a family member and I mostly avoid this overall. DCUM is one of the only places I have ever revealed it actually other than to DH.

As for as helping others I do actually volunteer a fair amount and dedicate quite a bit of time to a nonprofit board I am on along with more hands on volunteer work. Just trying to show I am really not a huge jerk, I just don't ever seem to feel satisfied.

You need to deal with this head on. You were violated in the worst way by someone you trusted. You were vulnerable and powerless. My guess is that by continuously looking for that next mountain to conquer, you're attempting to regain that control back. If you keep yourself moving towards some goal, you see yourself as strong.

Just stop, take a breath and be still. Therapy will help you deal with what happened and help you get to a place where you can be still and simply enjoy what you have.

[Anonymous]

start a new business. move to a new town. shake things up. i know the feeling.

[Anonymous]

I think Kurt Cobain said people who think getting everything they want will make them happy had never gotten everything they want.

I suggest therapy for the abuse. You've only talked about it with one person. Maybe you haven't really processed what happened. Maybe your goals have been running away from something rather than towards something.

I don't think setting new goals is the answer. That might just keep you chasing after something that ultimately isn't going to make you truly content with yourself. You need to sit down and do some introspection.

[Anonymous]

Time to give back. Help others. You will be fulfilled.

[Anonymous]

You don't mention having friends or close family. Do you have any friends, or close family members?

[Anonymous]

The world is not enough. Get to know God. Become holy to truly have happiness find you.