Men with low sex drive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More men have low libidos now because of their gut. If everyone slimmed down, we wouldn't have these problems.

what are you talking about???

There are slim people with very low libido ... yeah they can find fault with their girl friend or wife not being hot, but that's not the case.

Year ago a friend's wife (one of the original Victoria's secret angels) divorced him because he would not touch her.

Both were in their 20's\ and both were gorgeous.

When I asked Ale why he would not touch her, he simply replied he did not find her physically appealing ...

I think PP is talking about how excess fat can increase estrogen levels and decrease testosterone in men, thus lowering sex drive.

[Anonymous]

DH and I both have low libido so I guess it works, other than when we're TTC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More men have low libidos now because of their gut. If everyone slimmed down, we wouldn't have these problems.

+1

My DH is low drive, is 6'2" and weighs 165 lbs. So, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he on antidepressants? That robs everyone of their libido.

I'm surprised this wasn't mentioned earlier. The Lexapro I'm on positively nukes my libido, and makes me not even care that it does!

[Anonymous]

Lexapro killed by libido, but I still cared, and it's why I went off of it. I'm a woman.

[Anonymous]

Husband is low drive, morbidly obese, tried testosterone and it didn't work. We have sex maybe 6 times a year at most and then only for him - nothing for me (cause, you know, I should just be happy he was interested... )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe there are a wide range of libidos in men and women. A high testosterone man is probably going to be hornier than a man with lower testosterone.

SPOT ON! For most of my life my testosterone was near the top and yes my drive was also near the top. Through time it has lowered to the upper mid range and while the 'performance/drive' during is still high the libido has lessened.

[Anonymous]

For those on anti-depressant meds, I suggest taking Wellbutrin instead. I have heard this does not affect libido.

I am a Female on Zoloft and thankfully my libido hasn't been affected.

Some men suffer from low testosterone levels. A Dr. can give medication to help this affliction.

[Anonymous]

Surprised no one has mentioned porn addiction, that also kills a libido. My ex had a million excuses for not being in the mood. I later found "signs" of him masturbating frequently and began to peel back the layers of the onion.

[Anonymous]

Medication is a huge factor.

So is cardiovascular health.

If a man's libido suddenly drops, you absolutely need to rule both of those items out before getting into stuff like hormones and his sexuality.

[Anonymous]

I always thought a man's gut killed his wife's libido….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Surprised no one has mentioned porn addiction, that also kills a libido. My ex had a million excuses for not being in the mood. I later found "signs" of him masturbating frequently and began to peel back the layers of the onion.

Guy here - this is a much larger issue than most people realize. It's also causing an ED epidemic in young men.

[Anonymous]

I was young, in the best shape of my life, living with my boyfriend who was a nationally ranked athlete with a huge training schedule. I think he was just exhausted during the week - it was about once a week which seems low when you're in your twenties. I don't think he was gay or cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Surprised no one has mentioned porn addiction, that also kills a libido. My ex had a million excuses for not being in the mood. I later found "signs" of him masturbating frequently and began to peel back the layers of the onion.

Guy here - this is a much larger issue than most people realize. It's also causing an ED epidemic in young men.

The science on this is sketchy. But, in our anti-sex culture, it fulfills a desired narrative. So, you'll get sites like "your brain on porn" evangelizing about how porn addiction is the scourge of our youth. In earlier generations, it was automobiles, rock & roll music, and even comic books that threatened our young people. Anxiety about sex plus anxiety about kids is a potent combination that will never fail to find a receptive audience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never known a man to have a low sex drive (assuming all is okay with him medically). Very often what it is is that he is not particularly physically attracted to the person he is with (ex: maybe he wishes she was thinner or prettier or a different race or had a different personality, or maybe he is gay).

I think this is actually true of most people. When you find someone with whom you have chemistry, your sex drive is not nearly as low as you might have previously thought it was.

My husband was interested in sex about every 5-7 days 20 years ago, and guess what? That's still his frequency. It's not me, it's not that we've been together a long time. He's just not a very sensual or sexual person.