Going to a funeral of a Jewish co workers mom, are pants oK?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

What an obnoxious, unnecessary, rambling response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

You got all of that out of a simple question about a black pantsuit? I can't imagine going through life thinking the worst of everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Orthodox women do not wear pants. However, there is not an expectation that you would not wear pants if you are not orthodox.

+1

+1. It is very considerate of you to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Orthodox women do not wear pants. However, there is not an expectation that you would not wear pants if you are not orthodox.

This. I am a reform Jew. I was at a bat mitzvah recently at a reconstructionist synogogue and some non-Jewish men didn't cover their heads. A woman went up to them mid service and handed them head coverings. I thought that was extremely rude. They were being respectful of the service and chose not to wear one, it should have been left at that. I know in my experience, a non-Jew isnt held to the same expectations nor should they be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

You are seriously weird.

[Anonymous]

It really depends. If you post the name of the synagogue we'll be able to give better advice. Many Jews would be okay with a woman wearing pants but not all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

Wow you sound incredibly angry, bitter and lost. OP what you are planning to wear sounds perfect. Only would be slightly different if it's an orthodox temple, which it sounds like its not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

You got all of that out of a simple question about a black pantsuit? I can't imagine going through life thinking the worst of everyone.

+10000, wow agree, this person might be just a tad sensitive, you think? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

Holy shit. Do you always go around looking for arguments?

LOL. I'll bet a dollar she's neither a Christian nor Jew.

Probably not. Probably a lawyer instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

Holy shit. Do you always go around looking for arguments?

Seriously. What a ridiculous over-reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

You're clearly a psycho.

Wouldn't it make MORE sense to ask a question about attire SINCE "not all Jews are the same?" If I attended an Orthodox service, I'd be especially cautious about my choice of clothing.

And while OP didn't mention where the ceremony was held, she opened up the discussion so that people could guide her