Going to a funeral of a Jewish co workers mom, are pants oK?

[Anonymous]

I am not Jewish but am going to a funeral later today and have an appt straight after, are black pants and a black jacket OK for a woman?

[Anonymous]

What a strange question. Is it appropriate for a Christian funeral?

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a strange question. Is it appropriate for a Christian funeral?

I'm half Jewish and don't find this strange. OP is trying to be respectful but doesn't know what dress is appropriate. Different religions clearly have different expectations regarding dress - see, e.g., covering your shoulders in stricter Catholic churches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a strange question. Is it appropriate for a Christian funeral?

It's not strange, it's considerate.

[Anonymous]

08:07: Very considerate to ask a question about dress code for another faith.

My Christian DD wore a church dress to a synagogue when she was 13 to support her best friend. After the service, a woman not a part of her friend's family told her that she cover her arms for future services. I always remembered this but that was her only visit to a synagogue.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the equivalent of a pants suit. That should be appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

[Anonymous]

Orthodox women do not wear pants. However, there is not an expectation that you would not wear pants if you are not orthodox.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Orthodox women do not wear pants. However, there is not an expectation that you would not wear pants if you are not orthodox.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a strange question. Is it appropriate for a Christian funeral?

It's not strange, it's considerate.

THIS!! Sheesh people! OP tries to do the right (respectful) thing and you all attack her??!? Really?

OP - good q. and good responses. Since you are a gentile and you've been invited, your proposed attire should be fine and not outside the families expectation for you.

In general, it would help in the future to know what type of temple it is. Reform? Orthodox? How orthodox? Practices vary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

Holy shit. Do you always go around looking for arguments?

[Anonymous]

Yes, OP. That is very considerate and respectful of you to ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you to every one! I was not intending for it to be a strange question just not familiar with the customs and wanted to be respectful and mindful of what they are.

"strange" pp here. That wasn't what you asked. You didn't ask what the customs were and if they were different. That would not have seemed as strange to me as your question. All the PPs talking about arm coverings as their example of dress codes varying among religions, what you are leaving out is that the variation is WITHIN religions, in Christianity and Judaism you can find groups that really care about bare arms and ones that don't, so your explanation does not hold water. The information OP gave is not enough to determine whether denominational differences like that would come into play. Not all Jews are the same.

it's hard to explain, and I clearly have no backup here so I'll stop after this. Your question made it sound like 1. you think all Jews are the same 2. you were uncomfortable interacting with Jews because they are different from you. I suspect that you know all this about other religions, that they don't all believe the same things, so why would you think Jews would?

Holy shit. Do you always go around looking for arguments?

LOL. I'll bet a dollar she's neither a Christian nor Jew.