Daughter not fitting into Girl Scout troop

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Can she invite someone to join who she feels she could bond with?

Sorry for saying this, but I'm not fond of Girl Scout organizations in general - I feel so many of them boil down to gossipy cliques.
I know some of them are wonderful! But many more do not have the right kind of leadership.

+1

Our leader was the most gossipy of all. I know many people have a great experience, but it was a huge, hypocritical waste of time for my DD.

+100 If I had to listen to anymore of her fake niceness I would have had to punch her. Thankfully, GS ended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Can she invite someone to join who she feels she could bond with?

Sorry for saying this, but I'm not fond of Girl Scout organizations in general - I feel so many of them boil down to gossipy cliques.
I know some of them are wonderful! But many more do not have the right kind of leadership.

DD had a hasty clique in her troop. It centered around the Troop Leader's daughter. LOL! DD finished the year and never returned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Can she invite someone to join who she feels she could bond with?

Sorry for saying this, but I'm not fond of Girl Scout organizations in general - I feel so many of them boil down to gossipy cliques.
I know some of them are wonderful! But many more do not have the right kind of leadership.

DD had a hasty clique in her troop. It centered around the Troop Leader's daughter. LOL! DD finished the year and never returned.

Correction:

DD had a nasty clique in her troop. It centered around the Troop Leader's daughter. LOL! DD finished the year and never returned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Can she invite someone to join who she feels she could bond with?

Sorry for saying this, but I'm not fond of Girl Scout organizations in general - I feel so many of them boil down to gossipy cliques.
I know some of them are wonderful! But many more do not have the right kind of leadership.

+1

Our leader was the most gossipy of all. I know many people have a great experience, but it was a huge, hypocritical waste of time for my DD.

+100 If I had to listen to anymore of her fake niceness I would have had to punch her. Thankfully, GS ended.

+1000 My daughter's troop leader preached about including everyone and not bullying, and her own daughter was the worst of the troop. Thankfully my daughter wanted no more of it, because this leader wanted to "go all the way up" with her daughter to the Gold Award.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Can she invite someone to join who she feels she could bond with?

Sorry for saying this, but I'm not fond of Girl Scout organizations in general - I feel so many of them boil down to gossipy cliques.
I know some of them are wonderful! But many more do not have the right kind of leadership.

+1

Our leader was the most gossipy of all. I know many people have a great experience, but it was a huge, hypocritical waste of time for my DD.

+100 If I had to listen to anymore of her fake niceness I would have had to punch her. Thankfully, GS ended.

Ditto. DD's leader spoke to the troop members as if they were kindergarteners. Soo annoying.

[Anonymous]

OP, did she used to have friends in the troop? Did they leave? Or were the girls once her friends but have now bonded more with other girls in the troop?

And are the other girls in the troop deliberately excluding your daughter, or are they more just hanging out with and choosing their best friends for group work?

[Anonymous]

I would discreetly talk with the troop leaders. Ours have always made a point of subtly mixing up how the girls team up. We're only to fifth grade, though. I know girl dynamics change each year. It would be a good lesson and empowering for your daughter to learn how to work through this situation herself, if possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would discreetly talk with the troop leaders. Ours have always made a point of subtly mixing up how the girls team up. We're only to fifth grade, though. I know girl dynamics change each year. It would be a good lesson and empowering for your daughter to learn how to work through this situation herself, if possible.

F* girl dynamics. Part of the reason I pulled my DD from GS is because despite all the songs and "journeys" about friendship, the same old BS was practiced in meetings and activities.

Isn't GS the one place where they are supposed to actively work against this dynamic?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Wow- I'm surprised by how many posters pulled their daughters out of GS because of these issues.
To answer a previous question, my DD was friendly with several of the girls, and actually, is friendly with some of them in her classroom, but once they go to the GS events, they act like they don't know her and cling to their cliques leaving my DD a bit excluded. The whole think is just odd. Do girls outgrow this business? If so when?

[Anonymous]

After 8th grade she can join Boy Scout (Coed) Venture Program.

http://www.scouting.org/scoutsource/Venturing.aspx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need some advice. My daughter (6th grade), who has many friends, has been in a Girl Scout troop for several years now. Over time, the troop has developed several tight cliques of friends that don't include DD. Now when DD attends the meetings and activities, she is kind of hanging out by herself and I can tell she feels a bit awkward. I know she likes GS as an organization, and I think she'd like to keep with it, but I also know she wants to feel like part of the troop... Anyone go through this? Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you.

Yes the clicks could break down but often not for a couple of years. Alligences change constantly , but not included is a tough place to be.

[Anonymous]

Cliques^ Sorry about typos above

[Anonymous]

She can be a Juliette or join a new troop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow- I'm surprised by how many posters pulled their daughters out of GS because of these issues.
To answer a previous question, my DD was friendly with several of the girls, and actually, is friendly with some of them in her classroom, but once they go to the GS events, they act like they don't know her and cling to their cliques leaving my DD a bit excluded. The whole think is just odd. Do girls outgrow this business? If so when?

Some of girls tend to drop out by middle school as Girl Scouts becomes less socially acceptable. The girls who remain will tend to be nicer.

[Anonymous]

Second becoming a Juliette - independent scout