Teacher is mean to my kid...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Kids don't have a right to free speech!

The teacher has a right to tell your DD not to wave but does not have a right to belittler her with "you always have to be seen, don't you." That's the kind of thing that is meant to break the spirit of a self confident, outgoing kid -- and it works, too.

OP, I would talk to the principle or your own DD's teacher about that comment. It's not okay. Also talk to your DD and let her know that the way the teacher made her feel is wrong.

Kids actually do have a right to free speech, somewhat, maybe. But I don't think that this is a First Amendment issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Kids don't have a right to free speech!

The teacher has a right to tell your DD not to wave but does not have a right to belittler her with "you always have to be seen, don't you." That's the kind of thing that is meant to break the spirit of a self confident, outgoing kid -- and it works, too.

OP, I would talk to the principle or your own DD's teacher about that comment. It's not okay. Also talk to your DD and let her know that the way the teacher made her feel is wrong.

Kids actually do have a right to free speech, somewhat, maybe. But I don't think that this is a First Amendment issue.

Although I would not rule out a potential lawsuit,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Kids don't have a right to free speech!

The teacher has a right to tell your DD not to wave but does not have a right to belittler her with "you always have to be seen, don't you." That's the kind of thing that is meant to break the spirit of a self confident, outgoing kid -- and it works, too.

OP, I would talk to the principle or your own DD's teacher about that comment. It's not okay. Also talk to your DD and let her know that the way the teacher made her feel is wrong.

Kids actually do have a right to free speech, somewhat, maybe. But I don't think that this is a First Amendment issue.

Although I would not rule out a potential lawsuit,[/quote

Definitely. OP, I can give a referral for an education litigator if you want.

[Anonymous]

^^Lol!!

OP, that teacher sucks. But your kid should not wave. Let her know the teacher's remark was inappropriate and unkind, but that she should listen to the teacher and not wave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is exercising her right to free speech in the manner she sees appropriate. It is a very civil thing to do. The teacher can go to hell.

Free speech issues don't apply in a school.

I agree with the PP who questions the child's re-telling of the event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know the teacher said exactly that? Kids are not necessarily the most reliable narrators.

+1 - She currently has no idea what was exactly said to the child. She has what her child said the teacher said to her. Perhaps the teacher said, "No disruptions in line - no waving to others. No silent mouthing words. We don't have to be the center of attention, have all eyes on us, etc. all the time." The next time the kid waves to her friend the teacher may have said, "Remember what I said about not needing to have all eyes on us all the time?" Again, it would be close to what the kid reported to you, but not exactly what happened. I'm not saying the teacher is right or wrong, but you don't know enough to know that either. Also, I think it is terrible for those that are telling her to ignore the teacher or the OP to tell her that her teacher is essentially wrong but she needs to suck it up. The kid should respect authority. Period.

[Anonymous]

I once spent a couple of minutes telling a first grader to keep his opinions to himself and not to tattle all the time. I was careful in the way I put it. His response: "Don't you tell me to mind my own business!" I never said that.

[Anonymous]

It is so annoying that parents of "extroverts" never seem to understand their child can still be obnoxious and an extrovert. Just because your child is an extrovert doesn’t mean they don’t have to behave & exert some self-control. No difference than excusing an introverted child for being rude because they aren’t comfortable answering questions.

[Anonymous]

I hate teachers like this. It's like their goal is to make school as miserable as possible for the kids and parents. She's on a power trip, OP. I would tell dd to ignore the witch.

[Anonymous]

How old is the child? My 4 year old is like this and can barely control his excitement when he sees his friends. I hope no teacher ever talks to him that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is so annoying that parents of "extroverts" never seem to understand their child can still be obnoxious and an extrovert. Just because your child is an extrovert doesn’t mean they don’t have to behave & exert some self-control. No difference than excusing an introverted child for being rude because they aren’t comfortable answering questions.

Some authority figures actively try to cut down extroverts because extroverts threaten them and they seem strong. They are still kids, though, and they should be taught the rules just like any other kid is taught any other rule -- "I know you're excited to see your friend but waving is disruptive. If you keep doing it you'll have to sit out recess" or whatever. Insulting a child is unprofessional and mean, no matter what the child's personality is or what rule they broke.

Signed,

mom of one introvert and one extrovert

[Anonymous]

I'd email the teacher, copying your DD's teacher.

[Anonymous]

My DD sees her friend (who is in another class) lining up at the playground, and waves to her.

Friend's teacher says to DD, "You always have to be seen, don't you? Don't wave to my students."

DD waved again a week later, and teacher reminded her of the warning not to wave. I told DD to be happy the teacher is not her teacher, and for the sake of peace, skip the wave and move on. But now that I think about it, is she supposed to just ignore her friend?

I know there are much more pressing things going on in the world, but I'd love to hear how other people would handle this.

First, I was a teacher and have a hard time buying this story. However, there are all kinds of people out there........
second, I would tell my daughter not to wave. Done.

[Anonymous]

Waving is disruptive? Is this prison? Because I thought it was elementary school...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waving is disruptive? Is this prison? Because I thought it was elementary school...

Yes, it can be distracting if the teacher is lining up the children to get them inside. Our school has a strict no talking rule during line up. If you don't like the school rules, find another school or homeschool. Your child is not special and needs to follow the rules.