Teacher is mean to my kid...

[Anonymous]

This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

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My DD sees her friend (who is in another class) lining up at the playground, and waves to her.

Friend's teacher says to DD, "You always have to be seen, don't you? Don't wave to my students."

DD waved again a week later, and teacher reminded her of the warning not to wave. I told DD to be happy the teacher is not her teacher, and for the sake of peace, skip the wave and move on. But now that I think about it, is she supposed to just ignore her friend?

I know there are much more pressing things going on in the world, but I'd love to hear how other people would handle this.

First, I was a teacher and have a hard time buying this story. However, there are all kinds of people out there........
second, I would tell my daughter not to wave. Done.

No, not quite done. Tell kid not to wave, yes. And then tell kid teacher shouldn't have talked to her that way, and that what she said isn't fair. A good lesson that adults make mistakes too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Fine to all of that, but also, you don't have to allow people to insult you. You should follow the rules, but a put-down of a kid like that is out of bounds. The teacher broke the rules too, and isn't special either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waving is disruptive? Is this prison? Because I thought it was elementary school...

OMG, are you kidding? If someone waved at my child and distracted him in the process of the teacher trying to line them up, well all I have to say is I would feel for the teacher who had to get him back on task.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Um, I think another problem is teaching your child that it's okay for adults and teachers to treat them the way the ops daughter was treated. That teacher needs to be taken down a notch. You sound like another miserable person like this teacher was though, so I don't expect you to understand. I dare someone to try that shit with my child.

[Anonymous]

I'm the teacher who posted earlier to tell your daughter not to wave--I meant to tell her not to wave to anyone in that teacher's class. Sounds like that teacher has issues.

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A teacher here: I wouldn't make a big deal of it with the school. Hopefully, the teacher was just having a bad day. She sounds awful.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Um, I think another problem is teaching your child that it's okay for adults and teachers to treat them the way the ops daughter was treated. That teacher needs to be taken down a notch. You sound like another miserable person like this teacher was though, so I don't expect you to understand. I dare someone to try that shit with my child.

Kids often paraphrase what they have heard. We do not know exactly how the teacher said it but rude or not, it is not acceptable for the child to wave so you tell your kid to knock it off and if there is every another reprimand or incident at school, she is immediately to apologize to the teacher. The kid has to survive at school. Teaching them to give respect even if they do not agree with the other person is a valuable life lesson.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Um, I think another problem is teaching your child that it's okay for adults and teachers to treat them the way the ops daughter was treated. That teacher needs to be taken down a notch. You sound like another miserable person like this teacher was though, so I don't expect you to understand. I dare someone to try that shit with my child.

Kids often paraphrase what they have heard. We do not know exactly how the teacher said it but rude or not, it is not acceptable for the child to wave so you tell your kid to knock it off and if there is every another reprimand or incident at school, she is immediately to apologize to the teacher. The kid has to survive at school. Teaching them to give respect even if they do not agree with the other person is a valuable life lesson.

My child didn't do it, but if he did, I wouldn't make a big deal of it. Teacher or parent. Quietly waving shouldn't be considered disruptive. Now if the kid was actively trying to get the child's attention by talking, whispering or even jumping around, different story. But quietly waving? Wtf is wrong with that?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Um, I think another problem is teaching your child that it's okay for adults and teachers to treat them the way the ops daughter was treated. That teacher needs to be taken down a notch. You sound like another miserable person like this teacher was though, so I don't expect you to understand. I dare someone to try that shit with my child.

Kids often paraphrase what they have heard. We do not know exactly how the teacher said it but rude or not, it is not acceptable for the child to wave so you tell your kid to knock it off and if there is every another reprimand or incident at school, she is immediately to apologize to the teacher. The kid has to survive at school. Teaching them to give respect even if they do not agree with the other person is a valuable life lesson.

My child didn't do it, but if he did, I wouldn't make a big deal of it. Teacher or parent. Quietly waving shouldn't be considered disruptive. Now if the kid was actively trying to get the child's attention by talking, whispering or even jumping around, different story. But quietly waving? Wtf is wrong with that?

Because kids don't "quietly wave". They come to a complete halt, wave, wave, wave, wave, until their friend sees them, wave again, and then realize the rest of the line is 20 feet in front of them and run ahead. The kids behind the waver have found other kids to wave at, start pushing each other to move, or try and go around the waver and then get out of place in line, and then other kids are trying to get in front of them.....it is like dominoes...

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Anonymous wrote:This is a part of the education of your child that a lot of parents don't understand. In school, not everyone loves them, not everyone praises them, and in some cases, not everyone likes them. It is a great preparation for life. What would be a problem is teaching your child that when they have these problems the answer is to complain to you.

Um, I think another problem is teaching your child that it's okay for adults and teachers to treat them the way the ops daughter was treated. That teacher needs to be taken down a notch. You sound like another miserable person like this teacher was though, so I don't expect you to understand. I dare someone to try that shit with my child.

Kids often paraphrase what they have heard. We do not know exactly how the teacher said it but rude or not, it is not acceptable for the child to wave so you tell your kid to knock it off and if there is every another reprimand or incident at school, she is immediately to apologize to the teacher. The kid has to survive at school. Teaching them to give respect even if they do not agree with the other person is a valuable life lesson.

My child didn't do it, but if he did, I wouldn't make a big deal of it. Teacher or parent. Quietly waving shouldn't be considered disruptive. Now if the kid was actively trying to get the child's attention by talking, whispering or even jumping around, different story. But quietly waving? Wtf is wrong with that?

Because kids don't "quietly wave". They come to a complete halt, wave, wave, wave, wave, until their friend sees them, wave again, and then realize the rest of the line is 20 feet in front of them and run ahead. The kids behind the waver have found other kids to wave at, start pushing each other to move, or try and go around the waver and then get out of place in line, and then other kids are trying to get in front of them.....it is like dominoes...

Oh, I see. All children are exactly the same too, right? Having worked in an elementary school, I can tell you from experience, you're wrong.

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Because kids don't "quietly wave". They come to a complete halt, wave, wave, wave, wave, until their friend sees them, wave again, and then realize the rest of the line is 20 feet in front of them and run ahead. The kids behind the waver have found other kids to wave at, start pushing each other to move, or try and go around the waver and then get out of place in line, and then other kids are trying to get in front of them.....it is like dominoes...

Oh, I see. All children are exactly the same too, right? Having worked in an elementary school, I can tell you from experience, you're wrong.

The teacher the post is regarding has an issue with it so I'd imagine my version is much more in line with her experience with the OP's child.

[Anonymous]

My DD sees her friend (who is in another class) lining up at the playground, and waves to her.

Friend's teacher says to DD, "You always have to be seen, don't you? Don't wave to my students."

DD waved again a week later, and teacher reminded her of the warning not to wave. I told DD to be happy the teacher is not her teacher, and for the sake of peace, skip the wave and move on. But now that I think about it, is she supposed to just ignore her friend?

I know there are much more pressing things going on in the world, but I'd love to hear how other people would handle this.

Yes, she should ignore her friend. It isn't the time to socialize, according to the teacher.

It's not possible to know what the teacher actually said. Maybe she was rude, maybe she wasn't. That's immaterial. There is no serious need to wave at one's friends and no rights are being violated if a teacher says no.

So, tell your DD to wait for an appropriate time to talk/wave to her friend.

Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Possibilities:
1. Teacher was having a bad day.
2. Child was too aggressive with the wave.
3. Child didn't repeat story correctly.
4. Teacher is a grouch.
5. Teacher has problems.

[Anonymous]

or: 6. Teacher had just gotten the class under control and lost it.