My MIL's new kick: VENT ONLY

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is nuts, that's all.

How's DH with handling her? How close by does she live...is she a frequent visitor?

OP here:

DH handles her distantly. Communicates with her when he has to, maybe once or twice a week. We live in the same city and no, she does not visit often.

Well, this is why she is closer to SIL's kids. Tell your child no instrument and to not ask grandma for it bc the answer is no. The rest of the stuff is probably just her venting. Oh, and it is cheaper to go to Mcdonalds and get a dollar double cheeseburger than it is to go buy hamburger meat, cheese, buns, pickles, onion. Since you already do to communicate with her often then it should not be difficult to ignore or you could just stop participating in the phone calls.

[Anonymous]

What does her weight have to do with anything? You had me on the money complaints vs. blowing money on an instrument for one grandchild but not others, but then you really come off as a callow, vapid asshole when you throw in the weight thing.

You're a much better person than that fat person and her fat daughter, we all know. Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does her weight have to do with anything? You had me on the money complaints vs. blowing money on an instrument for one grandchild but not others, but then you really come off as a callow, vapid asshole when you throw in the weight thing.

You're a much better person than that fat person and her fat daughter, we all know. Okay.

The weight thing only comes to my mind because SHE brings it up: her weight is only a concern to me from a health standpoint. I have never commented on it to her or anyone else. She makes fun of us on a regular basis, and I made the weight comparison to point out the obvious lifestyle differences. The comments:

"Live a little... can't they just have one honeybun?"

"What are you gonna let me get them from the candy isle?"

"You better not let your Dad see you eating that chip... heh heh..." (said with my husband or me in the room)

Seriously? I'm the asshole?

Believe me... my kids get junk food, she just looks down on us because we don't give them junk food freedom like she and my SIL do. I can't tell you the number of times I've seen my nephew with a donut and a slurpee, despite the fact that he has had teeth pulled from cavities. Its sad to me. Yes, we all make different parenting decisions, and yes, I'm far from perfect, but I'll tell you this: I WILL NOT shoulder the blame for my MIL being an asshole and making poor financial or health decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your MIL is nuts, that's all.

How's DH with handling her? How close by does she live...is she a frequent visitor?

OP here:

DH handles her distantly. Communicates with her when he has to, maybe once or twice a week. We live in the same city and no, she does not visit often.

Well, this is why she is closer to SIL's kids. Tell your child no instrument and to not ask grandma for it bc the answer is no. The rest of the stuff is probably just her venting. Oh, and it is cheaper to go to Mcdonalds and get a dollar double cheeseburger than it is to go buy hamburger meat, cheese, buns, pickles, onion. Since you already do to communicate with her often then it should not be difficult to ignore or you could just stop participating in the phone calls.

OP again. All good points. Thank you!

He communicates with her minimally because she isn't so nice to him and it is simply because of different lifestyles. She has much more in common with SIL than she does him and me. Period.