Sex at 13?

[Anonymous]

I know this might sound naive but where are they finding places of opportunities for hook up sex? My DD is 11 now but she is stuck at school (private) until I pick her up in the evenings between sports practice and games. Is it too much time that allows them to engage in sexual behavior or an empty house after school. I am trying to wrap my head around it. It's also sad to to me to hear girls in middle school getting pregnant. They are children...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty standard that kids are doing BJs and HJs in 8th/9th grade. Certainly by freshman year all of my Catholic school friends were doing something along those lines. The public school (Bethesda/Chevy Chase area) kids started a bit earlier.

#1. I'm 39. Gave hjs and BJs in 8th grade, and I was otherwise a really good kid (no sex or drinking until college). I had a no-good high school boyfriend, so there you go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this might sound naive but where are they finding places of opportunities for hook up sex? My DD is 11 now but she is stuck at school (private) until I pick her up in the evenings between sports practice and games. Is it too much time that allows them to engage in sexual behavior or an empty house after school. I am trying to wrap my head around it. It's also sad to to me to hear girls in middle school getting pregnant. They are children...

Not necessarily too much time. I used to hook up at, God help me, church youth group. Not to freak you out, but if it's a co-ed school, there will be opportunities anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Buy her a vibrator instead and hope she doesn't turn to boys? Just quoting Oprah here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this might sound naive but where are they finding places of opportunities for hook up sex? My DD is 11 now but she is stuck at school (private) until I pick her up in the evenings between sports practice and games. Is it too much time that allows them to engage in sexual behavior or an empty house after school. I am trying to wrap my head around it. It's also sad to to me to hear girls in middle school getting pregnant. They are children...

Get your head out of the sand now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it everyone or just a few kids?

really? you have to ask this? of course it's only a few.

[Anonymous]

My brother lost his virginity when he was 13 years old. My mom was a nurse so she wasn't always home after school.

[Anonymous]

My dd is in a Rockville MS and has PE with a pregnant girl. JFYI.

[Anonymous]

When I was 12 my best friend was on birth control and went through several sexual partners that year.

This was 7th grade - my other best friend became sexually active in the 8th grade. Gave blowjobs in an empty room after school or in the woods by the football field. Had sex for the first time later that year in a closet at a party.

I myself became sexually active at the age of 16 while I was a junior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this might sound naive but where are they finding places of opportunities for hook up sex? My DD is 11 now but she is stuck at school (private) until I pick her up in the evenings between sports practice and games. Is it too much time that allows them to engage in sexual behavior or an empty house after school. I am trying to wrap my head around it. It's also sad to to me to hear girls in middle school getting pregnant. They are children...

I gave a boy hand jobs in the auditorium. We used to skip lunch, and go fool around in there almost every day. My friend gave a boy a birthday blow job in the woods behind the school - they cut a class and snuck off campus. Trust that there are ways. And places.

[Anonymous]

Let's be clear: it doesn't take long to give a BJ or HJ to a teenage boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dd is in a Rockville MS and has PE with a pregnant girl. JFYI.

It is horrible. Much as I did not want the pregnant 8th grader in my DDs school isolated, having her sit in the same classroom as my DD was painful. She was also posting the sonogram pictures of the fetus on FB "Its a girl"... Anyways - this did give my DD and I an opportunity to have very frank discussions about sex and its ramifications on kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's be clear: it doesn't take long to give a BJ or HJ to a teenage boy.

LOL, thank you for that reminder!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While it's not uncommon it is no surprise and it certainly happens. I got caught up in this in MS and thankfully was able to turn it around thanks to involved parents. It isn't always girls and boys from "bad" homes either, but that is an easy thing to tell yourselves right?.

Start the talks early and KNOW who your kids' friends are.

You need to do a lot more than just talk. The kids know they're mostly on their own, so they can do what they want. They say their parents don't really care, so why should they? Their activity teachers don't care that much either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While it's not uncommon it is no surprise and it certainly happens. I got caught up in this in MS and thankfully was able to turn it around thanks to involved parents. It isn't always girls and boys from "bad" homes either, but that is an easy thing to tell yourselves right?.

Start the talks early and KNOW who your kids' friends are.

How did your parents help turn it around?