S/o designations. What should my kids call my horrible step mother?

[Anonymous]

What do you call her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you call her?

By her first name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Good Lord -- why do you even bother with these people? Honestly, I still contend you need to deal with your Dad about this, how in the world does he allow anyone to treat ANY OF HIS children in this manner. And I say this as a Step MOM!!
What does your sister say about how her mom treats you??????
Who cares what your kid call her -- you need to figure out how she is going to TREAT YOU -- from here on out!
Good Luck!

[Anonymous]

Oh hell. I would be all like, "Mary Sue! Say hello to your grandmother!" Or whatever grandmother equivalent you know she would hate. Like my mom cannot stand families that use "Meemaw' as their word for grandma so when she ticks me off I call her Meemaw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Good Lord -- why do you even bother with these people? Honestly, I still contend you need to deal with your Dad about this, how in the world does he allow anyone to treat ANY OF HIS children in this manner. And I say this as a Step MOM!!
What does your sister say about how her mom treats you??????
Who cares what your kid call her -- you need to figure out how she is going to TREAT YOU -- from here on out!
Good Luck!

My sister and dad both agree she is very very difficult and my sister is generally on my side about things. At this point I am 40, my dad calls a lot and visits me so that I cross paths with Cruella as little as possible. He exhibits no signs of guilt about his lack of parental duties but has more of an "it is what it is" attitude.

Many therapists have become very rich over this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh hell. I would be all like, "Mary Sue! Say hello to your grandmother!" Or whatever grandmother equivalent you know she would hate. Like my mom cannot stand families that use "Meemaw' as their word for grandma so when she ticks me off I call her Meemaw.

HAHHAH. I like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Good Lord -- why do you even bother with these people? Honestly, I still contend you need to deal with your Dad about this, how in the world does he allow anyone to treat ANY OF HIS children in this manner. And I say this as a Step MOM!!
What does your sister say about how her mom treats you??????
Who cares what your kid call her -- you need to figure out how she is going to TREAT YOU -- from here on out!
Good Luck!

My sister and dad both agree she is very very difficult and my sister is generally on my side about things. At this point I am 40, my dad calls a lot and visits me so that I cross paths with Cruella as little as possible. He exhibits no signs of guilt about his lack of parental duties but has more of an "it is what it is" attitude.

Many therapists have become very rich over this situation.

PP here again:
Well you have a great attitude about it -- you seem to not let it ruin your relationship with your sister and family -- good for you. As for you dad, I understand (my late dad was not Cliff Huxtable either) so...if you are at the point where u are able to accept people for who they are and are not -- I applaud you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

You should have just smiled and said "That's okay. I got her class and her good looks. You'll never have either of those things."

[Anonymous]

"Larla. This is grandpa's wife, Jane."

[Anonymous]

I just want to applaud your attitude, which seems really healthy, classy and a great model for your kids. You're clearly rising above this.

If you have them call other adult acquaintences Mr/Mrs. LastName, I'd do the same here. No need to give her more significance in their lives than she holds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Good Lord -- why do you even bother with these people? Honestly, I still contend you need to deal with your Dad about this, how in the world does he allow anyone to treat ANY OF HIS children in this manner. And I say this as a Step MOM!!
What does your sister say about how her mom treats you??????
Who cares what your kid call her -- you need to figure out how she is going to TREAT YOU -- from here on out!
Good Luck!

My sister and dad both agree she is very very difficult and my sister is generally on my side about things. At this point I am 40, my dad calls a lot and visits me so that I cross paths with Cruella as little as possible. He exhibits no signs of guilt about his lack of parental duties but has more of an "it is what it is" attitude.

Many therapists have become very rich over this situation.

PP here again:
Well you have a great attitude about it -- you seem to not let it ruin your relationship with your sister and family -- good for you. As for you dad, I understand (my late dad was not Cliff Huxtable either) so...if you are at the point where u are able to accept people for who they are and are not -- I applaud you.

Thanks. She is such a horrible person that she has hardly any friends and her own child doesn't like her very much. I figure that's punishment on its own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh hell. I would be all like, "Mary Sue! Say hello to your grandmother!" Or whatever grandmother equivalent you know she would hate. Like my mom cannot stand families that use "Meemaw' as their word for grandma so when she ticks me off I call her Meemaw.

HAHHAH. I like this.

What about Mother Lastname (like Mother Gothel in Tangled.)

You'll know, but she won't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Good Lord -- why do you even bother with these people? Honestly, I still contend you need to deal with your Dad about this, how in the world does he allow anyone to treat ANY OF HIS children in this manner. And I say this as a Step MOM!!
What does your sister say about how her mom treats you??????
Who cares what your kid call her -- you need to figure out how she is going to TREAT YOU -- from here on out!
Good Luck!

My sister and dad both agree she is very very difficult and my sister is generally on my side about things. At this point I am 40, my dad calls a lot and visits me so that I cross paths with Cruella as little as possible. He exhibits no signs of guilt about his lack of parental duties but has more of an "it is what it is" attitude.

Many therapists have become very rich over this situation.

PP here again:
Well you have a great attitude about it -- you seem to not let it ruin your relationship with your sister and family -- good for you. As for you dad, I understand (my late dad was not Cliff Huxtable either) so...if you are at the point where u are able to accept people for who they are and are not -- I applaud you.

Thanks. She is such a horrible person that she has hardly any friends and her own child doesn't like her very much. I figure that's punishment on its own.

Good for you -- all you can do is pray for people like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Congrats you have an even worse stepmomster than my own!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are travelling out to my 1/2 sister's wedding soon, where my children will meet my step mother for the first time. She is a horrible, horrible person - particularly to me. It started when she banned my presence at her wedding to my father when I was six, and has gone downhill from there. She has never wanted to acknowledge that my dad had a life, a wife and a kid before her and has taken whatever steps necessary to enforce that. I've made my peace with it, and have a great relationship with my sister and dad.

Anyhow, what the heck do I tell my kids to call her? Her first name? I usually have them call adults Mr. and Mrs. Lastname - but that also seems weird.



Thoughts?

How do you ban a 6 yr old from her parents' wedding? Your dad went along with this? THAT'S WHO YOU NEED TO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH!
IJS!!!

Yes, you are correct, and I did and still do. He is absolutely to blame for a lot of it.

Still, this is the woman who wore my grandmother's jewelry to my wedding and then whispered to me that I would never get any of it.

Congrats you have an even worse stepmomster than my own!!

YAY! I'm a winner!