Birth Control Lowers Sex Drive??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hormonal IUD killed my wife's drive. It was subtle too -- she had a decent drive in her 20s on the pill. Then we had kids close together. Lots of sex between 1 & 2 -- hard telling if that was high drive, or just very motivated to conceive #2. After #2, she got the IUD put in. Next couple of years was low sex drive -- we chalked it up to having infants, then toddlers. Eventually we realized Mirena was potentially a problem. I got a vasectomy and she got the IUD pulled. Her drive is mostly better now.

Try this "non-hormonal" IUD, state of the art.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/IUD_with_copper

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

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What an ignorant statement. You have two options with IUD's - hormonal (which can kill a sex drive just like every other kind of hormonal BC) or copper (which is not exceptionally effective and can result in longer, heavier periods). Do either of those sound preferable?

Glad you're not my DH. He's been more than willing to go along with the roller coaster ride that tends to happen when you IMPREGNATE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, and has gotten lots of sex throughout the years because he's been so understanding.

[Anonymous]

Birth control killed my sex drive as well. The first time around was the worst, I was on the strongest dose due to some post partum hormonal issues and it really got to the point that I never thought about sex and I had zero desire to even try. I tried many other dosages to get us back to a decent sex life. When we were done having kids, Dh got a vasectomy. No issues at all now and we are regularly intimate, more often than not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

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What an ignorant statement. You have two options with IUD's - hormonal (which can kill a sex drive just like every other kind of hormonal BC) or copper (which is not exceptionally effective and can result in longer, heavier periods). Do either of those sound preferable?

Glad you're not my DH. He's been more than willing to go along with the roller coaster ride that tends to happen when you IMPREGNATE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, and has gotten lots of sex throughout the years because he's been so understanding.

Before you flame someone on facts, try reading the link that was provided. Here is an excerpt of the study from the New England Journal of Medicine:

http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMoa1110855#t=articleDiscussion

The most commonly used contraceptive method in the United States is the oral contraceptive pill.7 Because the pill requires daily compliance, failure rates calculated on the basis of “perfect use” differ from real-world failure rates calculated on the basis of typical use. Annual failure rates with typical use of oral contraceptive pills are estimated at 9% for the general population, 13% for teenagers, and 30% or higher for some high-risk subgroups.4,8 Prior estimates of the failure rates with typical oral-contraceptive use have relied on retrospective survey data, primarily from the National Survey of Family Growth.9

Long-acting reversible contraceptive methods, including intrauterine devices (IUDs) and subdermal implants, are not user-dependent and have very low failure rates (less than 1%), which rival those with sterilization.9 Despite their proven safety in women and adolescents of all ages,10,11 IUDs are used by only 5.5% of women who use contraception in the United States.7 Other developed countries, such as the United Kingdom and France, where IUDs are used more frequently, have rates of unintended pregnancy that are lower than those in the United States.

I am glad you are not my wife either, what an emotional knee jerk reactionary. I pity your poor husband who is doled out sex as a reward for good behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

I'm very glad that you're not my husband and that my DH has always been understanding, up to and including supporting me not going back on the pill even though it means more of the contraceptive burden is on him. I can't do the IUD (one of which is hormonal, anyway, and likely to cause similar symptoms to the pill) for reasons I won't get into with you, since you're probably too pig-headed to care.

Sex drive ebbs and flows with monthly hormonal changes, synthetic hormones, pregnancy and breastfeeding-induced hormonal changes, as well as changes due to age. I pity your wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

I'm very glad that you're not my husband and that my DH has always been understanding, up to and including supporting me not going back on the pill even though it means more of the contraceptive burden is on him. I can't do the IUD (one of which is hormonal, anyway, and likely to cause similar symptoms to the pill) for reasons I won't get into with you, since you're probably too pig-headed to care.

Sex drive ebbs and flows with monthly hormonal changes, synthetic hormones, pregnancy and breastfeeding-induced hormonal changes, as well as changes due to age. I pity your wife.

Seems like a pretty convenient excuse to act out and to withhold sex because you are not in the mood. If your husband is so understanding and wonderful, why don't you have sex with him even though you are not in the mood to show how much you appreciate him? Why do these hormonal women think the universe must revolve around them when they have their mood swings?

[Anonymous]

It killed my drive. Killed it. Not only the desire to have sex, but the ability to orgasm.

For me, too, fairly permanently it seems. Pregnancy helped reset my hormones minimally.

http://www.medpagetoday.com/OBGYN/HRT/2423

[Anonymous]

Seems like a pretty convenient excuse to act out and to withhold sex because you are not in the mood. If your husband is so understanding and wonderful, why don't you have sex with him even though you are not in the mood to show how much you appreciate him? Why do these hormonal women think the universe must revolve around them when they have their mood swings?

Ugh, b/c sex can be -painful- for women when they're not in the mood? (How are there so many douchey men on this board??)

[Anonymous]

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Seems like a pretty convenient excuse to act out and to withhold sex because you are not in the mood. If your husband is so understanding and wonderful, why don't you have sex with him even though you are not in the mood to show how much you appreciate him? Why do these hormonal women think the universe must revolve around them when they have their mood swings?

Ugh, b/c sex can be -painful- for women when they're not in the mood? (How are there so many douchey men on this board??)

Plenty of douchy men whose wives only have sex when they are 100% in the mood. Let me guess, it hurts to give a blowjob when you're not in the mood too, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It killed my drive. Killed it. Not only the desire to have sex, but the ability to orgasm.

For me, too, fairly permanently it seems. Pregnancy helped reset my hormones minimally.

http://www.medpagetoday.com/OBGYN/HRT/2423

This is a very disheartening study.

I was only on BC for about a year in my 20s and could never find one that agreed with me. Ever since about the age of 21 I have been doing natural family planning. I have never had an unwanted pregnancy and I have always gotten pregnant the month I tried to conceive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

That's such a shitty perspective. I'm a man, but I work in this field. So many men are happy to make this the woman's problem, and then can't understand the huge effect it has on women's mood and energy. The rub is that most couples in committed relationships "prefer" to avoid condoms and/or vasectomy, so hormonal contraception falls squarely on her back. IUD are good, but not without side-effects. And here's another problem: how many women out there would entrust contraception to a male pill? How many men choose this? Probably not that many.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yep, BC pills killed my libido and I had/have a healthy one. When I first tried the pill when I was 18 I didn't notice any libido change but once I was on BC in my late 20's-early 30's it seriously sucked.

This is me, too. I didn't notice it as much when I was younger, but definitely once I hit my 20's and especially 30's. It was a slow realization, but confirmed after being off for only a couple months. Being pregnant made me want sex all the time, breastfeeding killed it again, and now am finally getting it back over a year post-partum (still bf-ing but not as frequently). Exhaustion and room sharing and not yet STTN make it harder, but I do want the intimacy.

I am glad you are not my wife, I could not take that roller coaster ride. Get an IUD for god's sake and even out.

??

What an ignorant statement. You have two options with IUD's - hormonal (which can kill a sex drive just like every other kind of hormonal BC) or copper (which is not exceptionally effective and can result in longer, heavier periods). Do either of those sound preferable?

Glad you're not my DH. He's been more than willing to go along with the roller coaster ride that tends to happen when you IMPREGNATE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING, and has gotten lots of sex throughout the years because he's been so understanding.

Whoa, whoa - the copper IUD is incredibly effective. It is over 99% effective. WAY more effective than the pill. I can't find the source, but I believe it and Mirena (the hormonal IUD) have the same level of effectiveness.

[Anonymous]

Wife just got copper IUD and its been wonderful!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It killed my drive. Killed it. Not only the desire to have sex, but the ability to orgasm.

+1
IUD seems to be working out better so far.

[Anonymous]

Mirena killed mine. It comes out this summer after 5 years and I'm refusing to get another (FYI, DH wanted us to "get our money's worth" so when I told him I thought this was the reason for my low sex drive, he said, well wait it out.) If he doesn't get a vasectomy, we'll do condoms. No more bc for me.