Just lost 50 pounds and friends say I look ugly
![[Post New]](/jforum/templates/default/images/icon_minipost_new.gif){kind=icon}
Anonymous
| Thanks for all the support. I must say though that my friends are NOT jealous. One of them is super skinner and the other two are of average size. I really believe they had my best interests at heart. |
Anonymous
|
OP,
health is more important than looks. Did you lose the weight in healthy way? Do you have a regular exercise routine you can keep up indefinitely, ie, not too demanding? Do you eat a balanced diet, with a variety of fruits and vegetables? Maybe you could do with a bit of B6/magnesium supplements (found in dried apricots, for ex)? Get a check-up with your doctor, particularly for dosage of vit D, iron and thyroid hormones, the 3 banes of the middle-aged woman. Congratulations for losing all this weight! Sagging and wrinkling will be inevitable. Sleep, exercise, check your nutrition, and don't forget sunscreen - you will be golden! |
Anonymous
| Ignore them - they are jealous. Congrats - that is such an accomplishment!! |
Anonymous
You're chunky. I'm talking about all normal sized people. Wrinkles are natural. |
Anonymous
|
OP--First, congratulations. That's a laudable achievement and you should be proud. I have known many friends who have lost a significant amount of weight (at least 40 lbs or 20% of their body weight) and universally they all looked pale, unhealthy and their skin looked unnatural at first. Your body has lost a lot of weight that is based upon essentially going into starvation mode where it is taking in a lot fewer calories than it had been used to and with which it can sustain itself. It changes the way your internal systems are processing and storing glucose, glycogen and fat. For example, you get a pale, wan look because in an effort to retain heat and not have to use energy to keep you warm, the blood vessels retract from the surface of the skin further down. However, also univerally, after a few months of a plateau, your body readjusts. Among other things, the remaining fat in the body redistributes more evenly around the body making you look less emaciated. The blood vessels return to normal and the color returns to your skin. Usually within about 4-6 months, those who have lost a lot of weight look much healthier.
For example, look at the photos of Matthew McConaughey here: http://www.eonline.com/news/377853/matthew-mcconaughey-spills-on-magic-mike-research-and-recent-rapid-weight-loss The first photo is after his big weight loss. Notice that his skin has a bit of a greyish cast to it, wrinkles around the face and hairline, and he does have a bit of the emaciated look. The photo is from August 2013. Then look at the screen cap of the video interview and notice that his skin has a healthier warmer color, some of the wrinkles around his face have filled in and he looks healthier. This photo is from January 2014. Get your weight loss plans in order, follow through and just know that you won't look your best until a few months after you plateau when your body will readjust to its new weight. You might still have some wrinkles at that point (it happens when you lose a lot because you are just filling less of your skin than you used to, and the body can only readjust so far) but you'll look much healthier all around. |
Anonymous
| Maybe they miss their fat friend? |
Anonymous
| With friends like that, who needs enemies? |
Anonymous
|
OP I'm 48 and lost 20 pounds and just had this very conversation with my dermatologist.
GOOD NEWS!!! She says the skin needs time to "catch up"!! Like a year. Now neither your or my face will look as good as if we had never gained that weight in the first place, but give your face a chance! It's in *shock*--just like your friends, LOL |
Anonymous
| They think you look too him. They will get used to it. |
Anonymous
You're a shining example of the "face or your fanny" rule. Being overweight takes care of wrinkles; losing weight adds them. |
Anonymous
Agreed. Sounds like they cared "enough" to speak to you about it. |
Anonymous
| I think you look great! |
Anonymous
|
Fluctuation in weight ages your face. However, if you were obese...losing these 50 pounds will make you healthier and live longer.
Looks fade with time anyways. You are already married and your husband likes your looks anyways. So, it is not that you have to look nice for the dating game. Your husband and kids need you to be alive, fit and healthy for a long time. Maybe you should focus on that. |
Anonymous
| Just give your skin time to adjust. Enjoy your sexy new body for now! |
Anonymous
|
Op just to clarify - you intentionally lost this weight, right? Through diet/exercise? I don't think you've specified how you lost the weight or how long it took you to take it off...
|