Experience dating military officers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Best.sex.ever

OP here.

Oh yeah.

[Anonymous]

Yes, very important to them that they are seen as churchy.

Everything is about how they are perceived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, very important to them that they are seen as churchy.

Everything is about how they are perceived.

WTF are you talking about???

You watch too much TV.

[Anonymous]

^ I know dozens of military families. I have seen how they raise their children. I know the husbands, I know the wives. I do not watch much tv.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated an Air Force officer, full of bravado and cocky, but in a genuine way- he was confident, competent, and very skilled at his job. Yes, he had trouble with deeper emotions and basically had a bad joke for most things. He was very into Church which was a deal breaker for me. I am 90% sure he was and is gay.

Not Lieutenant Pete "Maverick" Mitchell, by any chance?

Ummm....he was Navy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ I know dozens of military families. I have seen how they raise their children. I know the husbands, I know the wives. I do not watch much tv.

I am calling BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated an Air Force officer, full of bravado and cocky, but in a genuine way- he was confident, competent, and very skilled at his job. Yes, he had trouble with deeper emotions and basically had a bad joke for most things. He was very into Church which was a deal breaker for me. I am 90% sure he was and is gay.

Not Lieutenant Pete "Maverick" Mitchell, by any chance?

Ummm....he was Navy.

[Anonymous]

So they're very Anglican-church, Republican? (OP here.) Love getting these replies, keep them coming!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Will expect you to do a lot "for show" for others. Their public persona is the most important thing often in the absence of a private persona. Not very genuine. How you describe him, I'm not at all surprised. They tend to be faithful to their wives, hard on their children -not very flexible or sensitive.

I totally agree with this - except the genuine part. I've seen that at both ends of the spectrum, but rarely in the middle (harsh honesty or pathological liars to maintain 'The Appearance'). I'm from a military family. And many of my close friends are married to navy Commanders (and up). It is even 'worse' if they are from an academy by about 100%.

[Anonymous]

Wait till he gets PTSD from deployment.

I have two girlfriends with men who can't emotionally function or think of anyone but themselves. It's really sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for these great replies.

Yes, he has served. He definitely has a track record of being faithful (I know some of his friends) and he was raised strictly and I can definitely see him being strict with kids.

Love his patriotism and his brains and his masculinity. A little turned off by his inability to be sensitive, his sometimes boorish and un-PC jokes, and the fact that his cockiness seems like a mask for some kind of deep insecurity. I am not saying he's not confident about some aspects of himself - he is. But there is a depth of insecurity there too, that I just haven't seen before in previous boyfriends. And it makes no sense because he has everything going for him!

He just served a few years. He is no longer an military officer. Now, if he retired or did real fighting, I'd have more respect. He probably would have been like this military or no military. Get a real military man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just started dating an army officer-turned-law-student and not sure what to make of things. He's definitely very different from all my civilian boyfriends, so I wanted to get some anonymous opinions. He's an officer so he's not your typical dumb meathead blue collar guy out of high school or something - went to an excellent university for undergrad, comes from money, very smart and funny and intelligent. But he's impossible to read. Sometimes he's sweet and gallant, other times he's a jerk. He doesn't really seem to have any feelings, or maybe he's just ridiculously thick-skinned and is programmed not to have feelings. He's also the cockiest guy I've ever dated and it's such a headache. I'd stop dating him if I didn't see that he's genuinely a good-hearted guy underneath it all (and the fact that he's good in bed is a plus).

Are all army officers cocky? What should I know about military culture in order to understand him better? Just trying to put his behavior and personality in context.

You come across like and airhead. Shut up and try to look pretty

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When you say he can be a "jerk", what do you mean, exactly? That's can't be excused away, period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you say he can be a "jerk", what do you mean, exactly? That's can't be excused away, period.

That, not that's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He just served a few years. He is no longer an military officer. Now, if he retired or did real fighting, I'd have more respect. He probably would have been like this military or no military. Get a real military man.

Oh, he has done "real fighting". Does killing men count as real fighting to you?