Husband too nice
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Anonymous
| Examples, please! |
Anonymous
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OP, do you mean, for example, when people come to the door asking for money giving a sob story, he gives them money?
Do you mean, him offering strangers a lift home? Getting involved at homeless shelters but getting into their dramas? Or getting involved with co-workers' dramas? We need examples. Anyways it sounds like he's doing some weird boundary blurring….maybe that is why you are worried about mental illness? Because he's getting increasingly socially awkward vis-a-vis boundaries? |
Anonymous
If this is a new thing with your DH, then I would definitely be concerned. How long have you been noticing these personality/behavioral changes, OP? The thing is, he's not old -- at least, he's definitely not old enough for you to attribute his behavior to "old age". |
Anonymous
Avoiding the questions isn't helping us..or you. I still don't understand the problem. |
Anonymous
Thank you, yes! Gosh, this is embarrassing. The examples seem trivial, but when they are put together, they become a problem over time. Isn't this the behavior of a 10 year old? I mean, doesn't everyone know not to talk to telemarketers, etc.? We don't have money to give away, nor time to get wrapped up in others' lack of boundaries. OP here. I feel like it is a bunch of less than tangible examples that blow up after a time. Its exhausting. |
Anonymous
| I still have no idea what exactly he is doing other than talking to telemarketers... ;-o |
Anonymous
| When he starts extending loans to strangers, check back. Until then, this post is a waste. |
Anonymous
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Anytime someone exhibits a significant change in behavior, it's worth noticing.
That said, if the worst he is doing is listening to the telemarketer drone on, and not actively buying shit he doesn't need with money he doesn't have, well...it sounds like the only thing he's really doing wrong there is annoying you. |
Anonymous
| I keep clicking on this post thinking the op has come back and made some sense. |
Anonymous
+1. No idea what she is talking about, and she refuses to give examples. Oh well. |
Anonymous
| This wins the Most Annoying Thread Ever award. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thank you to the helpful posters. The non helpful ones can go away and find a hobby other than trying to bully a poster that needs help. Grow up.
11:00 PP, thank you for your intelligent and insightful response. Yes, he is buying stuff from telemarketers. A timeshare? Really? And where are we getting this money, exactly? I have tried talking to him about it, but it goes in one ear and out the other. Which I would understand if I were a nag (really), but I am not (really). |
Anonymous
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21:20 here.
Ok, OP, your DH is exhibiting new and different behavior, and it's linked to blurring boundaries and it's potentially dangerous to your financial well-being. IMO you need to talk to a mental health professional (or talk to your doctor) because if this gets worse, he might just buy some swampland in Florida with all your savings. He could have had a little stroke and it's affected the judgement part of his brain. Or there could be some other kind of mental imbalance. Sounds like he needs to get checked out. Good luck, OP! |
Anonymous
| People in mania can act like this. |
Anonymous
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My friend's husband is doing this, but he had a stroke and has bipolar disorder. Get him to a doctor.
(I agree that your posts have been vague and aren't making much sense. Maybe you should get checked out, too. I am serious, not being flip.) |