What is your opinion of a person who wears all black clothing, 100% of the time?

[Anonymous]

They have their reasons.

[Anonymous]

Is it me?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

I wouldn't be put off by you. But how other parents view you depends in part on where you live. Where I live, you'd stand out. But I'm guessing if your son is going to his neighborhood school, moms in your area know you so you'd be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

I think DH is trying to say that he thinks you'd look nice with a new look.

Do you do the pale white makeup and black hair, too? Because otherwise, black top/bottom and a nose ring wouldn't stand out much to me.

How are you received when meeting new people, usually? Not that you should dress for others, but if you don't get negative reactions now, I don't know why you would when your son starts school.

[Anonymous]

Unimaginative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

I think DH is trying to say that he thinks you'd look nice with a new look.

Do you do the pale white makeup and black hair, too? Because otherwise, black top/bottom and a nose ring wouldn't stand out much to me.

How are you received when meeting new people, usually? Not that you should dress for others, but if you don't get negative reactions now, I don't know why you would when your son starts school.

Brow liner and eyeliner is the only makeup I use. I've never been able to stand the feeling of foundation, and also can't stand wearing mascara. I am pretty pale, but naturally. I have black hair with chunky blond streaks. I do have a lot of tattoos.

I used to have women walk up to me and say insulting things to me, but that was back in the 90's, in Tennessee. I can't really think of any time more recently that I've felt I got a negative reaction from someone. I really feel comfortable with the way I look, and I know I would feel very uncomfortable if I tried to look differently. However, I don't want to be responsible for my son getting pick on, or bullied, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

I think DH is trying to say that he thinks you'd look nice with a new look.

Do you do the pale white makeup and black hair, too? Because otherwise, black top/bottom and a nose ring wouldn't stand out much to me.

How are you received when meeting new people, usually? Not that you should dress for others, but if you don't get negative reactions now, I don't know why you would when your son starts school.

Brow liner and eyeliner is the only makeup I use. I've never been able to stand the feeling of foundation, and also can't stand wearing mascara. I am pretty pale, but naturally. I have black hair with chunky blond streaks. I do have a lot of tattoos.

I used to have women walk up to me and say insulting things to me, but that was back in the 90's, in Tennessee. I can't really think of any time more recently that I've felt I got a negative reaction from someone. I really feel comfortable with the way I look, and I know I would feel very uncomfortable if I tried to look differently. However, I don't want to be responsible for my son getting pick on, or bullied, etc.

I'm the pp. I say just be yourself. It doesn't sound like you have a particularly "out there" look, and it seems shitty (IMO) for your husband to use "but our kid might get picked on" as a way to get you to change your look. Kids get picked on for myriad things, most of which aren't easy to predict.

I hope my kid doesn't get picked on because his mother still wears yellow gold jewelry.

[Anonymous]

I am involved in theater...to me that person is either tech or crew.

[Anonymous]

Don't change. We'd be friends and I don't dress like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

I think DH is trying to say that he thinks you'd look nice with a new look.

Do you do the pale white makeup and black hair, too? Because otherwise, black top/bottom and a nose ring wouldn't stand out much to me.

How are you received when meeting new people, usually? Not that you should dress for others, but if you don't get negative reactions now, I don't know why you would when your son starts school.

Brow liner and eyeliner is the only makeup I use. I've never been able to stand the feeling of foundation, and also can't stand wearing mascara. I am pretty pale, but naturally. I have black hair with chunky blond streaks. I do have a lot of tattoos.

I used to have women walk up to me and say insulting things to me, but that was back in the 90's, in Tennessee. I can't really think of any time more recently that I've felt I got a negative reaction from someone. I really feel comfortable with the way I look, and I know I would feel very uncomfortable if I tried to look differently. However, I don't want to be responsible for my son getting pick on, or bullied, etc.

Wear what you want. It doesn't sound like there's anything wrong with your style at all. Shame on your DH for trying to guilt you into changing your style like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right? [/quote




yes

[Anonymous]

From what you're description alone, I'd think you're on the goth side and are probably into heavy rock music. That would probably make me think that you're cool and try to be friends. Although I don't dress all black anymore but find that people of my kind that are into the same thing I'm into are so rare that I'd probably be grateful your kids are in the same class as mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd think they're from NYC. I had lots of all black outfits when I first moved here.

+1

I did too, when I lived in NYC. One time I was meeting with a client from South America, and he asked me if I was in mourning. LOL

[Anonymous]

I suppose you don't like my piercings either !!!!