What is your opinion of a person who wears all black clothing, 100% of the time?

[Anonymous]

What do they say about parents? It (usually) makes us better people, not better than non-parents, just better than who we were. We're more willing to make sacrifices for the new life we brought into the world.

[Anonymous]

They are in mourning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd think they're from NYC. I had lots of all black outfits when I first moved here.

+1

I did too, when I lived in NYC. One time I was meeting with a client from South America, and he asked me if I was in mourning. LOL

Former NYer her. Lol! I think it might be a generational thing. My mother who lived in NY for most her life used to ask me, what's with all the black? Someone died?

[Anonymous]

I was going to say "old Italian widow" ....

But, having read your update I'd say that I find it kind of charming when someone dressed in what seems to be counter-cultural (Goth, etc.) clothing is happily ensconced a traditional family unit. I wouldn't think much more than that if you showed up at the bus stop, other than to say hello and see if your child might be a good playmate for mine.

[Anonymous]

Perhaps..... But the real reason may be because Black is a slimming color and many people wear it to look slimmer.

Notice how Adele the singer wears a lot of black due to her size?

[Anonymous]

She works at Hair Cuttery or a wedding boutique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perhaps..... But the real reason may be because Black is a slimming color and many people wear it to look slimmer.

Notice how Adele the singer wears a lot of black due to her size?

A lot of fat people wear black.

[Anonymous]

The kids won't care. Any parents who are silly or rigid enough to be put off are people you'd want to avoid anyway. Most adults wouldn't look twice. Be yourself and wear what you like.

I'd be focusing on what's going on with your husband. He's obviously got issues with your style. Maybe you could wear a sassy red dress once in a while as a treat for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

Still goth? I'm sorry but wearing a look that was sketchy in the first place and now many years out of date. Unfortunately it says EMO. (Not the fashion style) Time for a change.

[Anonymous]

Over 50.

[Anonymous]

This is DC. You'll only fit in if you're wearing Frye boots or ill-fitting khakis. Do you really want to live that way?. please wear what you feel comfortable in.

[Anonymous]

I think one of the following: 1) cool, as in NYC or Euro or Asian cool; 2) arsty; 3) chubby, hoping you won't notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm I guess what people would call a "goth". I've toned my look down a lot and am not OTT now. I've worn all black for the past 25 years. I wear mostly long black skirts and black tunics/tops.

My DS will be starting school soon, and my husband wants me to stop wearing all black, change my hair style, and take out my nose ring, because he says he's afraid other kids will make fun of DS for having a "freaky mom". He's also afraid that other parents will be put off by me.

Do you think he's right?

Still goth? I'm sorry but wearing a look that was sketchy in the first place and now many years out of date. Unfortunately it says EMO. (Not the fashion style) Time for a change.

OP. Wear what you are comfortable with as I'm a big believer that you shouldn't change who you are in order to "fit in". That said, yes there will be parents who are put off by you by sight alone. And there is a chance that there will be a kid or two who says your DS has a "freak mom". Unfortunately that is the world we live in. But would you want to be friends with those parents who judge you by what you're wearing alone and dont even bother to get to know you? And do you want your son to be friends with kids who go around calling other kids' moms freaks? Probably not. However, if after a month or so and you see that your look is having a negative impact on DS (he's being teased because of you or parents don't want to have playdates because they are put off by you) then maybe you can reevaluate the situation.

[Anonymous]

Your son won't get any grief about it. If anything, they might think his mom is a cool rock chick or something. I also like to wear black and force myself to branch out into other colors, but I'm most happy wearing black. (I am pale with dark eyes and hair, and I think I look best in it.). OP, your husband may be wishing you'd make a change. Why not just ask him? Can you do black skirts but maybe different colors on top (grey, white, red)?

[Anonymous]

9:14 here again. I should also add that I'm a fairly "boring" dresser. Leggings and dresses, skirts, Loft, Banana Republic...you get the picture. DH is a jeans and polo/tshirt type of guy. Two of our closest friends dress like you. We always figured people probably laugh when they see the 4 of us together because we look pretty mismatched.