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[Anonymous]

Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

[Anonymous]

Do HR employees tend to have higher EQ to make up for low IQ? What happens if you are in HR and have a personnel problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do HR employees tend to have higher EQ to make up for low IQ? What happens if you are in HR and have a personnel problem?

1. Some, just like people NOT in HR, have both a low IQ AND EQ!
2. Then you are totally fucked. Just kidding! Generally you either go talk to someone in management or an HR friend who works elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Why do HR people lord it over applicants like they're the ones making decisions? The person's supervisor, at every company I've worked at, made the decision and them the new hire processes paperwork etc with HR. HR does busywork and does NOT have any influence.

[Anonymous]

It would help if we know what you did in HR to ask you questions - HR is a broad area. As is typical HR staff, you are vauge and unhelpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do HR employees tend to have higher EQ to make up for low IQ? What happens if you are in HR and have a personnel problem?

Why was this necessary? You're an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do HR people lord it over applicants like they're the ones making decisions? The person's supervisor, at every company I've worked at, made the decision and them the new hire processes paperwork etc with HR. HR does busywork and does NOT have any influence.

Low self-esteem, power issues, etc. All the usual reasons.
While you are absolutely right that I am not the final decision maker, I do get asked for my opinion quite often since I handle first-round interviews (and often get asked to sit in on further rounds). Also, I do the reference checks, and past performance is a big indicator of future performance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

How old was the oldest employee with parental involvement? From your post above, I picture 22 and 23 year olds. But older than that??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would help if we know what you did in HR to ask you questions - HR is a broad area. As is typical HR staff, you are vauge and unhelpful.

As is typical with people who stereotype HR people without taking the time to get to know them individually, had you read my opening statement you'd have seen that I DID say what I do in HR. But, as is typical with most employees since you are lazy I will repeat myself: I handle hiring and recruiting.

Wow, see how it hurts when people make sweeping generalizations? Yeah.

[Anonymous]

These helicopter parents baffle me. Don't these employees have enough backbone to tell mom to get lost? If I was HR I'd be wondering about their level of assertiveness. Although I guess some jobs are meant for wimps..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

How old was the oldest employee with parental involvement? From your post above, I picture 22 and 23 year olds. But older than that??

Generally by 24 or 25 they've gotten the hint that they should dump their parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

Are you f***ing kidding me? An adult who works at a paying job has their parents call you about an issue or a review or call in sick for them. They don't sound like they should be working or even out in public without their chaperones.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

How old was the oldest employee with parental involvement? From your post above, I picture 22 and 23 year olds. But older than that??

Generally by 24 or 25 they've gotten the hint that they should dump their parents.

24 or 25 seems pretty old for that kind of thing and extremely immature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are employees with helicopter parents such as the ones you described more likely to be fired? Or less likely because you know the parents will step in and possibly sue?

Personally I've never seen or heard of anyone getting fired for parental involvement. It's absolutely frowned upon, and employees have absolutely had it hinted to them that they could be fired if they don't stop their parents from being involved. I think that's an empty threat. Everyone deals with parents differently. I simply repeat over and over "If an employee here has an issue, they need to come to me directly." "If an employee who works here needs to call in sick, then THEY need to call in sick." "If an employee has issues with the review they were given, THEY need to be the ones to raise those issues." I'll just say it over and over until the parent gets it. I don't care if a parent gets angry at me, and I'm certainly not scared of parents of employees suing.

How old was the oldest employee with parental involvement? From your post above, I picture 22 and 23 year olds. But older than that??

Generally by 24 or 25 they've gotten the hint that they should dump their parents.

24 or 25 seems pretty old for that kind of thing and extremely immature.

I agree, but it is what it is. 24 seems to be a pivotal turning point for a lot of people. That's when they start saying "Could I take these health insurance forms home and fill them out overnight?" instead of "My mom will fill these out for me tonight."